Does doing this push a victim of abuse closer to the abuser?

[Anonymous]

Like if you have a friend or family member that just won’t leave their abuser, you don’t know their reasons to why they keep going back and you’re afraid for their safety and you’re frustrated so you text them things or say things like they’re disappointing you and the family and that they’re losing everyone’s (the family) trust by their bad life choices and decisions to keep going back to their abuser and asking them what’s wrong with them and telling them they need mental help. Does their judgement only make it harder for the victim?

[Anonymous]

I would say yes. Abusers usually work to cut their victims off from their support system, so if the victim's friends and family now turn their backs on them, that will definitely make it harder for them to leave. Victims have a much better chance of getting out if they know they have someone they trust who they can turn to. Someone who will help them get out, reclaim their life, and not judge them for someone else's faults.

[Anonymous]

Yes, you’re victim blaming. It’s not easy to just leave an abusive relationship if you’ve never been in one. Some fear that the abuser might flip out if they decide to leave which might end up be far more dangerous. Just be supportive, if the victim feels like they have a support system they’ll be more likely to leave knowing someone is gonna be there for them once they do leave.