Implication of physical abuse?

[kimmyspookymama]

My partner has never actually hit me, but on a couple of occasions when I've really annoyed him; he's raised his fist and bit his lower lip as if he's had to really restrain himself from punching me. Am I right to still be devastated and hurt by this? Or is he in any way right by explaining it as a good thing, as despite how angry I made him... He managed to stop himself from doing it. I'm pretty sure I'm being gaslighted but I feel like I'm going crazy some days.

[SueShe]

If you willfully annoy him and bring him to his limits, then you must not be surprised that he reacts the way he does.

It seems that you often bring him to behave the way he did. While his lack of control is not tolerable, one must ask why do you annoy him to such an extend.

I believe that both of you need serious counseling and therapy because the way I see it, both are at fault and to me, your relation is toxic and something must be done about it.

Perhaps that your best bet is to go your separate ways for a while and see how the situation develops. In any case you live in a very unhealthy relationship and my fear is that it will not be long before something serious happens that could have been avoided if proper measures were taken.

[Flower7]

No, that’s not good. He shouldn’t have to “restrain” himself. That’s way too close to hitting you. He shouldn’t even be on the brink of doing that. It shouldn’t even be in his mind. I think you should read the warning signs and get out before it’s too late.

[LimitedBenefits101]

he had the right to hit you, why make him so angry?
hopefully you learned your lesson

[In_Trance]

Devastated? Smh..
Not enough to leave apparently.

[TheFlak38]

A 36 year old post-wall thot single mother still coping and playing the victim to gain a position of power.

[The_Naughty_Guy]

That indicates that soon or later he’s gonna hit you. Also, you too shouldn’t annoy him as much as to make him go crazy

[Anonymous]

You should be concerned, and he needs some anger management.

[Fireguy17]

Just becareful, abuse can start this way.