Do abusers ever understand this?

[Babygirl_S]

[Zack-Bann]

Abusers don’t usually think logically about it.
It’s an involuntary behavior that’s often used to hide their own traumas and weaknesses.


That’s why it’s pointless to stick it out with someone like that.
What they need is to be left alone so they can try to heal.
Putting yourself in harm’s way doesn’t help anyone least of all you

[molonski2]

Abusers care about CONTROL , so they dont care what hate they generate , they want that control.

[Babygirl_S]

Wouldn’t they want to control without spending so much energy and using so much force?

[molonski2]

That may be how you or I think , but abusers just dont care if they have control.

[incorrected]

Evidently not. They get frustrated with compromise, they want what they want and if you don't give it, they take it. They're usually psychopathic/sociopathic or else very low in empathy and impulse control.

[Babygirl_S]

@incorrected So they should be in jail and never allowed to harm me

[molonski2]

Dependent on the abuse I guess.. What actually happened to you? @babygirl_s

[incorrected]

My mother's first marriage was to a malignant narcissist (psychopathic narcissist). Being battered to a bloody pulp, raped and psychologically tortured for years, which also messed up my older half-siblings. That kind of thing creates generational trauma too, as that family unit I was born into were also my blueprints for early psychological development. In fairly textbook fashion, bullying became a staple of my own life as I had no examples of emotional stability or confidence to learn from. That sort of man [read: monster] I would just put in the ground, honestly. As things presently stand, the best you can do is stay away from relationships until you've built up your confidence and learned to recognise the signs so that you can filter them out long before things escalate.

I have learned to read people very effectively, particularly in person, and can see who's who from a mile away most of the time, but some of them fool even me. I would say this though, it's almost always when I ignore my gut instinct and give people the benefit of the doubt. ALWAYS trust your gut. Sure, you might filter out some innocent people, but that's better than giving chances to abusers.

I'm still new to gag, but if there's a way to message me directly and you need someone to talk to, I'm here and I have time for you and others who've been through abuse. I try to help where I can, because of what happened to my own family. :)

[MadhuriDixit]

True but what about "Hate Wetness"?🙂

[Ironco]

You are too young to be so bitter.

I feel for you.

[Babygirl_S]

You’re too old to be so mannerless

[Ironco]

I wasn't attacking you, I feel sorry for you
Your questions are so negative, you are young, you should be enjoying it.
I mean no ill towards you.

[Babygirl_S]

Have you lived my life? Then don’t judge

[Ironco]

That goes both ways...
You haven't gone through what I have either, but I still try to stay positive.
Move on in life, let the negativity go. You'll feel and be better in the long run.
Good luck.

[JonCobretti]

Don't you fear God?

[Babygirl_S]

Where is he? Let me see. I don’t believe in the existence of fictional entities. If he doesn’t show up within the next 10 minutes, he will lose a loyal follower. The countdown starts now…

[Bklynbadboy12]

Nope the definitely don't understand that

[slatyb]

No, they don't.

[DrPepper12]

No. Next question