Do abusers ever Truly really change?

[Anonymous]

And by truly or really I mean They may have stopped certain aspects of abuse. Like verbally or physically but they still abuse you in other ways or they do things that make you believe or feel that they’ll easily go back to their old ways if they got upset enough or when they get tired of pretending to have changed.

[SteveSmith1985]

No. I do not believe they do. I am unfamiliar with a single instance of that ever happening. Ever.

Maybe with some really really intensive therapy over many many years it's possible. I'm not positive that it's not. But, you can pretty much count on an abusive partner always being abusive. No matter how much someone may claim to want to change (or legitimately want to change)... they won't. It's like the pickle cannot change back to become a cucumber again type-thing.

[Anonymous]

It's clear that a lot of the causal factors behind these behaviors are learned attitudes and feelings of entitlement and privilege which can be extremely difficult to truly change. Because of this, there's a very low percentage of abusers who truly do change their ways.

[CelestialDaisy]

No no and no…a member of my family was abusive and he hasn’t changed years later and is all alone because of it. Some aspects of peoples character can’t be changed, especially if they don’t want to change or get help.

[megabamse]

In rare occasions they do change, but they only have a chance to change if they really want to.