Does abusive people know they are being abusive?

[Solstraale]

[whirled_up_girl]

That's a good question, I don't really know. I think in some situations people justify their behavior and tell themselves the other person deserved it somehow but I guess it depends on what kind of abuse we're talking about.

[Spongebobssocks]

Yes. Thats why they hide it. They keep it behind close doors.

[Spongebobssocks]

Thank you for MHO

[Fireguy17]

quite often no.
A lot of it goes back to how they were raised the environment they grew up in, so it becomes normal, others are just ass hats and controlling and they deny what they are doing is hurtful.

[MementoMori777]

well they either know or are another kind if stupid cause a crying woman is never a good sign even if you are clueless, that should be a dead giveaway if you make a woman cry.

[richardcory]

In the case of men who abuse their partners, I think they do. The pattern of behaviors is so common that it feels intentional to me. No way to be sure though

[nawtee_me]

I think to them it is normal for whatever reason they became that way. Whether it was from growing up in an abusive family or being in an abusive relationship for some time. It becomes "the normal" to them.

[inhua]

"abusive" is a matter of perspective

[ProbablyClueless]

In some cases. But in most cases, they think they are "just expressing themselves how they know to express themselves."

[SnowedIn]

I have no way of knowing but I bet some of them don't at first.

[CuriousMufuxka]

Yes, they just don't give a fuck. Others just enjoy it like it's their get back for being abused earlier in their life. I'm talking only physical by the way.

[Alex8736]

The legal definition for abusive people "sociopathic predators " or simply Narcissistic Personaliy Disorder where they have no conscience and blame everyone else

[motownplayer2000]

Most times, probably not. But some are very manipulative and can do things and get away with it.. so those you have to be very careful about.

[Sparkie460]

Most likely the have had that attitude for most of their lives so they think abusive behavior is normal

[Andres77]

Yes. How can you not know that you’re being cruel?

[OddBeMe]

Not usually. If so they’re sadistic. I’m told that’s rare.

[msc545]

They often will deny being abusive even though they know they are.

[BLP11520]

Some are clueless and justify their actions in their warped minds

[LiamJHayden]

Some do not but most do.

[driven159]

They don't care it's all about them.

[red_knight]

Nope too busy being narcissistic to realise

[chicken_nugget24]

Not always

[Luckycharms12]

Some yes others no

[barn_stormer]

I think they know