What are the most common emotional scars caused by an abusive relationship?

[Desconhecida]

[Moose304]

I know a lady who will be 40 in about 2 weeks. She was married to a Physician in the Atlanta area. Over time this man who outweighed her by a good 50 pounds beat her. Two of her fingers on one of her hands were broken and today they are still not 100% right. While pregnant he knocked her down some stairs in their home. Somehow he destroyed her right knee. Somehow she was able to escape him and hid for almost 2 years. Her family helped her as much as they could. Finally, she was able to get her kids with her. Today she is remarried to a fantastic man. She still takes medications for PTSD. I have spoken to her new husband several times. Sometimes he wakes up in the dead of night and she is having a nightmare, all he can do is spoon her and hold her tight. She has a general fear of men and very rarely goes out unless she is with a solid support system. At her request, her husband tracks her via GPS. To answer that question based on my experiences that would be PTSD. It's interesting this question has come up. Reminds me of the Billy Joel song, Innocent man! I'm not going to post the lyrics, but this song seems to be about a man trying to get close to a female like that!

[ChrisMaster69]

Trust, anxiety, a fear of being say in kitchen and not having a way past the person you are talking to, feeling entrapped / enclosed.

A fear of someone reaching towards you, a simple cuddle can cause a flinch a withdrawal , a panic attack.

panic attacks, PTSD, depression, guilt, shame, nightmares, a feeling of being helpless, unwanted.

Then there are things such as suicide ideation, the need to self harm in some way (this can be cutting, having your body used by others etc) where self harm is a desire for release that eats in to your mind, always there talking to you, the mental seeking a physical release.

[Harleigh90]

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[annabananna]

Omg this was beautifully written

[ChrisMaster69]

@Desconhecida thank you for MHG, most appreciated.

[Lyndsielee666]

Oof for me I developed bad social anxiety, I flinch from everyone, low self esteem, body dysmorphia, ptsd, abandonment issues, bpd. The list goes on and on I suppose.

[Agape93]

Ptsd. You can react to physical touch with either aggression or by quickly moving away from the contact.

[dragoblack]

Abusive relationship? No. My emotional scars are from constant social abuse all from kindergarten through 7th grade jr high, buy students and teachers physically, emotionally, & mentally abusing me on a daily basis, all because I was the shy kid who wanted to be left alone and didn't fight back. I was used as a scapegoat, insulted, beaten up, had every fun moment of school stripped from me, was verbally abused by the teachers, neglected lunch, had all bullying towards me ignored while every little thing i did wrong was called out, always blamed for everything with no evidence showing it was me nor that i was involved, everytime it was brought up to the principal it got brushed off, every time i was being beaten up the teachers watched and did nothing, any damage done to the school was blamed on me, kids would cause themselves harm then say i did it which was believed with no evidence... none of it stopped till one day i snapped and stabbed the last person who bullied me in the spine with a sharpened pencil.

[TonyMetal___86]

A girl in general is weak and needs her man to always protect her and love her so when this protector becomes the abuser he leaves great emotinal scars on his girl...

A girl should never forget to respect her man and always draw a line if she see him angry and to always remember that she ain't a man and she can extinguish a big brawl just by giving a hug and emotions to her man instead of acting like a man and throwing threats here and there...

The man and his woman should never abuse each other, they must always love each other and take good care of each other...

[blueflameleo]

My dad was a drunk and would come home and beat sometimes I thought he was going to kill md because he just kept beating me I been thrown into walls he even broke one of my arms once I punched him back at 16 that’s the day my parents kicked me out and I been fighting all my life I’ve had my jaw broke twice my eye socket broke twice I’ve woken up in a pool of my own blood once and then about a year ago my brother comes over asks for a hug and when I lean in to hung him he stabs me twice in the back it’s has caused serious trust issues I don’t go anywhere with out my pitbull kaos I keep him by my side like he is right here now it has caused extreme anxiety that I take meds for very parinod and I double lock the doors and windows it’s not easy but I’m trying

[Tarapatrona]

I can't imagine what youve been through hope you find someone who you can rely on day or night

[Cubus]

PTSD and low seft esteem - feeling you're worthless and no one would ever love you.

[Desconhecida]

That was spot on.

[ODC2112]

I have known many people with abusive relationship problems, almost all of them were men.
Generally they had self-esteem destroyed with strong self-esteem tendencies, often self-esteem was already low before so there was little to be destroyed.
Diffusion of obsessive thinking or tendencies to compulsion, not always linked.
Anger towards people like the abuser, often gender-oriented of the abuser.

[SomeoneDeep]

Feeling fear if someone is shouting and angry.. flinching on everything , hiding ur face in ur hands even if only a pen falls.. if someone is standing behind u a feeling that u r going to get hit by him.. feeling it's all ur fault and blaming urself feeling useless , alone, feeling that it could have been better if u had just beared a little more and had never complained maybe things would have been better *sigh* ..
Well it's too much...

[TheBootyChest]

Extreme fear of reprisal from a man, a severe lack of trust with anyone, and being easily manipulated.

(I hope anything I said wasn't offensive and was taken with an "open-heart")

[AdithyaR]

Trust issues, anxiety, social anxiety, projection, trauma based personality disorders, memory repression, regression of mental development
The list goes on

[CuriousMufuxka]

Verbal. I'm probably going to look like a little bitch, but some females can say the most detrimental shit known to man..

[DesiUwU]

Well it depends. Do you mean romantic relationships or relationships with family members and friends?

[HighValue]

It depends on if it was physically abusive or emotionally/mentally abusive. I think when it was emotionally/mentally abusive trust issues seem to be very common and difficult to overcome.

[turtl3man]

You're constantly unsure of others and yourself, you think you don't meet anyone's standards, you're worried about disappointing someone if you don't put effort every day into them. Compliments seem disingenuous.

[Sasha_Gee]

Scars inflicted by someone close to you cut the deepest 🥺

[TwinkleLily5]

Low self esteem
Trust issues
Helpless
Isolation
Hopeless
Fear

[TwinkleLily5]

And Anxiety

[Dchrls78104]

Social awkwardness, extreme shyness, extreme sensitivity, depression, withdrawal.

[MacLove999]

1) Fake LOVE Narcissistism is common.
2) Fake sex by women claiming to reached orgasm for a decade. Until she cheats on him.
3) Fake emotions of baby, hunny, sweety. affections not true to essences of love from heart.

[jahaims]

Never getting excited because you have been let down so often

[annabananna]

Low self esteem and low trust in others as well as harmful behaviors to self

[Jintendo18]

A hardened heart and becoming untrusting and resentful of the opposite gender.

[scooogy]

When she begs me to take her back just to keep me on distance like before.