Would you give up your family for your lover?

Question

What do you think?

Aerissa_Jade · Accepted Answer

No, my family has always been there and we are really close. Being with someone is being with all of them, not getting together and then trying to cut friends, family or others out of their life.

Same thing when people intentionally create situations to try and force the issue, by this I mean they create situations that could of been avoided to try and force someone to choose. They don't do it just once, they are insecure and will constantly do it over and over, because they want you to prove that you will always choose them over everyone and everything else and it is like a test to them.

DermalPunch · Accepted Answer

Loooool I thought this was about someone leaving their spouse and kids for a lover. God I'm thick. Looooool.

The answer to the actual question is I don't know. My family is pretty nice and wants what is good for me. If they have ever had a strong objection to someone they were right. So, I would listen to them.

ohshee · Accepted Answer

I think 50 % of go through this when we get in to a relation ship some of us are put in that position to choose between the two of them parents or your lover
I don't understand why our parents would do this it is our choice whether good or bad it's still our decision and for me as a parent I would never put my children in that position it is their choice they're going to learn from it I can't tell my kids what to do I cannot control my kids nor would I ever do that I would support my children I will support their decision and I will support their choice in who they pick

Valso · Accepted Answer

I don't know. It's highly unlikely that I'll ever be married (for so many reasons, one of which I put in a meme) and in order to have a family and a lover, I gotta be married. But if I had to answer hypothetically, I guess it would depend on the family - whether there are kids or not and also depending on how much and what quality of sex I get.

HawkPerception · Answer

Family means so much to me. But family eventually goes their own ways. Lovers are for life (hopefully). If I was absolutely sure that my partner would never leave me and they're the one for me, I'd choose my partner. If I had any doubt in my mind though, I'd choose my family.

Quetion · Answer

Not really... but then again... but... I can lose a lover, but I can't lose family. Because to me... my family knows me... they were always there for me (not saying a lover can't be), if they say mean things to me... I know it isn't true. But when a lover says mean things to me... it's different... I haven't really known them since I was a baby (If they're not a close childhood friend) ... and when they say mean things, I can't tell whether they are lying or telling the truth... it breaks me down when a loved one who I dearly trusted, lies to me or hurts me. My family I know when they lie, or what their like... but a lover? Do I really know them well enough to say "This is my lover. And I know all about him. His ups and downs, what he's like..." I don't know... I just don't know who to choose between the two... (not that I have a lover)...

juleyboo74 · Answer

Parents shouldn't put their kids in that position. My sister married a rock-n-roller and my mom helped me sister HIDE him from my dad for years LOL. We grew up very religious household. But... in the end, he was very gracious to him.

If you believe you have amade a good choice, the family should come along.

But to answer the question, actually no. I would not give up family for a lover

ClaryFairchild26 · Answer

Well that depends!
I don’t think his the right person to leave your family for him!
The right one wouldn’t allow that unless they know that the family member is toxic
Like with my ex his father was toxic and I told him about and he saw that for himself and now he rejected him and I’m happy

girlwithglasses01 · Answer

no i won't if the lover is the one disrespecting my family and talks shit about them.
Sure, if the family is just poking their nose into something that is out of their concern.
So, disrespecting my people is a STRICT NO NO for me, whether it be anyone.

whereismyjohnny · Answer

No, I think if they are a good and true family, they would not make you choose between them and your lover. If they love you, they will accept him.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Not my kids. They will always be first. Rest of family? Well would need to understand the issue. Family are pretty chilled and inviting so why would someone not get along

VaguelyAsianLisbeth · Answer

I'm in a situation that I feel my partners are healthier for me than my family is. If given the ultimatum I would choose them over my parents.

SlothySlob · Answer

Depends on the person. Depends on how deeply in love I am with them. Depends if I'm that stupid to not see they are using me. Depends.

DownIndaDumpz · Answer

Yeah lol, I don't really give a fuck about my family, we was never cloze... But if I ever had a girlfriend I'd definitely give up my non existent family for her lol 😍

StuMan1990 · Answer

Straight up yes! I'd give up my parents for my lover or if it gets me a lover.

Agape93 · Answer

Already gave up 95% of my family I part because they treated her like shit.

exitseven · Answer

I did not come from a great family life so Yes, I would.

HotelWhiskey27 · Answer

Family as in mother father brother sister, yes love is always worth taking a chance on. Choosing a lover over my child though? Never

InvoluntaryCelibate9 · Answer

Yes I hardly know my family. I have no connection with them. Ain't seen em in years. So yes id give up these strangers for a lover 😍😍😍

Staximus · Answer

No, that is dumb. If your family doesn't like them but they are a good person, you tell your family that they are just going to have to like it.

MOUTHWASHING · Answer

It depends the relationship with the family. I personally love my family so, no I wouldn't betray my family for a stranger

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Not sure a situation in which one would have to make this decision.

Sasha_Gee · Answer

Lover becomes the family

mobiusforniner · Answer

No. I made the choice to remain with my family.

jasco · Answer

no, hell no. IDC who she is

innerman · Answer

no she can break up with me we bond by blood

will34 · Answer

Will smith would with Jada

sage2021 · Answer

Hell No!!!

JesseJayNeak · Answer

Never. That’d be selfish of me

Anonymous · Answer

yeah but i don't want them to

DaddyDiablo · Answer

In a heartbeat

Nagatoro · Answer

Sure, why not?

dudeinohio · Answer

Sure

Iron_Man · Answer

No Never

Fuentes · Answer

Lol no thats weird

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Absolutely not.

EzNamirimEzDibirim · Answer

Never

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