Is it normal to both hate and live my boyfriend? There is no object constancy?

[Anonymous]

I hate that he’s arrogant, disagreeable, negative, skeptical about everything, how he thinks he’s above everyone. I hate that he’s selfish and doesn’t really listen to my boundaries when I assert them.

I love that he understand me, tries to guide me, is interesting to talk to. I also feel dependent on him, though I wish I could break that dependency.

how can I break the dependency?

[molonski2]

Honestly long term I think you have a problem , you simply dislike too much , and dont like enough , this will wear down your relationship over time , and will eventually break it.

[EnglishEuropean]

It's sufficiently common that there's a term to describe it. Love-hate relationship.

[JesseJayNeak]

Then why did you move to his place?

[Anonymous]

No its not, love/hate relationships never last.