Why does my boyfriend make me out to be a hater?

[Anonymous]

Couldn’t think of a good title but this is kinda the situation I’m in. In the past, I’ve told my boyfriend that I don’t like when my partner plays video games for hours on end and ignores me in the process. Just something I had bad experience with. Tonight, I called him (because we usually talk for a while before bed) and he told me he’s in his “gaming era” so he wants to play his game. I was of course a little disappointed but I said “it’s okay, enjoy your game” with no sarcasm because I want him to be happy and do the things he loves even if I feel a little down that we can’t talk before bed. He got upset and started saying how he never gets a chance to do this and kept pestering me about why I’m upset with him doing this. I told him it’s fine and that it’s not my job to control him. Is he trying to make me out to be a bad person? Besides the comment I made months ago about not liking the gaming behavior, I don’t think I gave off the vibe that I was terribly upset. I need the male perspective because I’m confused lol.

[osmanthus]

I think your stance is valid. Particularily if your love language is 'spending time' (Gary Chapman). You can decide to leave the relationship, if you want, seeing as how he won't compromise on your request for more couple time. If he's playing video games more than 2 hrs./day for 6 days straight then it's an addiction. It's possible to break out of that addiction more easily than other types like drinking alcohol, smoking, etc. so in hindsight, if he can find that spending time with you to be more pleasurable than gaming then he just needs a reason to do so.

[Iron_Man]

That’s a horrible excuse a game is a game. He could talk to you on the speakerphone and put the phone right near him. No excuses for something like that. I would talk to my former girlfriend while I’m eating dinner so no excuses

[Danny_dan92]

If you are not happy in the relationship then leave. For your own good