I am 22f and my boyfriend is 21m. I have known my boyfriend for 8 months before we started dating for another 10 months. I love my boyfriend a lot, he does a lot of things for me. He pushed me beyond my comfort zone to work on my flaws and he’s always there to help me when i needed… until a few months ago. When i asked him for help on my cover letter and resume, he was extremely reluctant about it and there were many times that he yelled at me to do them myself as i am the one searching for a job not him. (For context, he’s a full-time student and i have just graduated with diploma, looking for a full-time job.). I’ve only just wanted him to proofread everything since his English is better than mine. I just don’t want to sound or look stupid when i send in job applications. Eventually i managed to a land a 9-5 job that is not my expertise, so we agreed that he would meet me for dinner on weekdays in a location thats nearby our homes (he stay at least 50 mins away from me, travelling by public transport), so i could go home earlier to workout and study for my work. However, currently, im always buying dinner and going over to his house as again, he’s reluctant to leave the house and his reasons being, “public transports during peaked hours are very crowded, I have social anxiety. I can’t do it.” I understand his reasons but I’ve tried to explain that travelling from my workplace to his house and back to my home is quite difficult, i will reach home late and will have to sleep late even though i have to wake up at 6am the next day. He doesn’t care. As long as its in his favour, he doesn’t care about my feelings as its not valid. I’ve always been the one working, whether its part-time or full, to support both of us. Due to his social anxiety, he refused to work part-time and i give him 90% of my salary, to feed and pay off his gym fees. When i get really exhausted from work and made some mistakes that annoys him, he said that my feelings aren’t valid and that-
I think my boyfriend hates me. Why?
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6 mo
- I shldn’t be using my exhaustion as a valid excuse to make these mistakes. Just a few days ago, it was the day before my exams and i wasn’t be able to make it for his family dinner since my trainer released us late and me and my colleagues were trying to study up as much. Few days prior i did remind him about the exam but he insisted on me coming over to his house for dinner as his mom is cooking. I agreed as i thought that i would be able to make it back home in time to study and rest for day
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6 mo
I hadn’t foreseen that we would be released late and the waiting time for the bus had stretched even longer so i called him to let him know the situation and let his mother lnow that i will have to cancel on them last minute. Well, he scolded me over text about my time management and when i told him that i had reminded him about my exams, he says that he didn’t remember and it is not his responsibility to keep track of important things in my life
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6 mo
Hello everyone, I’m back for more boiling tea. I will try to make this short. Yesterday, he took me out on a dinner date after his gym and we agreed that today i would go over to his house again and buy dinner back as usual. But, i forgot about it today as i was really caught up at work. He called and screamed at me about it, yelling me to go over at that moment (i was already at home, about to workout by the way) and make up for my mistake. At the same time, sleepover at his house since i will
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6 mo
Be there late at night. I refused as i have a test tomorrow and i can’t afford another late night sleep to take care of him and he yelled even more. Eventually i hung up and blocked him. After i was done with my workout, i unblock him to let him know what i had been feeling, how our underlying problems had been ignored for wayy too long and how much problems he had actually caused for me. He just went on saying how hurt he is by my words and I’m using my love against him. In the end, i broke off
