Am I being used?

[JustAsking2022]

I started a new job about 3 weeks ago. On my third day there this girl that works in the same department as me said she just broke up with her boyfriend. That Friday we went out with some coworkers and ended up sleeping together. Every since then she has been wanting to hang out with me every day. We go to my house on lunch and have sex on our break. She invites me over every day after work and we end up having more sex. How can I tell if she is using me to get over her boyfriend or if she's actually interested in me? We have a couple things in common but not a lot. When we do hang out it's usually only about 4 hours then I go home. Yesterday she only invited me over to have sex and that was it because she had somewhere to be. we see each other every day at work and talk while at work but not so much when we're not at work or hanging out. She wants to hang out this weekend but I'm starting to think she is using me and is only hanging out this weekend because she feels bad. Is this something I should try and continue with? What should I do?

Updates

+1 y

We have been hanging out every day since Monday. We didn't hang out Thursday night and probably won't tonight. She hasn't been messaging me either when we're not together. Could this mean anything? Am I being paranoid?

[CallmeTheKnight]

Yes and No, as I quote Noel Deyzel, "Let me Explain".

Yes, because you're nothing more than a rebound. She's getting her mind off her ex by spending time with you, but if she's hooking up with you that quick, she's probably been feeling you for a while. However, don't expect it to be permanent.

No, because you're both having a lot of sex and spending a lot of time together.

You need to go ahead and let your concerns be known to her before it can develop into anything else. Who knows, maybe it was a mutual thing with her ex, maybe she got tired of his crap and the relationship, or maybe they weren't serious after all. You need to speak up on it my brother and if she decides to call things off, then look at the plus side: you don't have to worry about being used or have your emotions be conflicted.
If she still wants to continue things, then it's up to you to let it continue. I mean, you're able to have sex with her, so you shouldn't have a problem letting your concerns be known to her.

[JustAsking2022]

I've only known this person for about 2 weeks now. I started on a Wednesday and the next Friday we hooked up. She broke up with her boyfriend on the Friday of the week I started.

[CallmeTheKnight]

I said all I can say on this matter. You gotta speak to her about your concerns or don't mention them. You're the man in this situation and it's ok to have doubts about people and their intentions. I encourage you to make the decision that you see as best. You have my support on either one and my inbox is open if you'd like to discuss it

[Gingerguy33]

Definitely a rebound she’s using you to get over her ex

[ZiZi_Bell]

I hate to say it but it sounds like a rebound to me. If the breakup was recent and all you're doing is having sex, then she's looking for a distraction, not a relationship.

I'm sorry, I know that's never fun. :/

If you're looking for something more I would tell her now before you start developing the Major Feels for her.

[Flower_Power]

You may just be a rebound. Most of the time you guys just have sex? Yeah, it doesn't sound like she very interested in you to be her boyfriend. I'm sorry, love. I would just be nice to her, but be aware she is probably just using you to get over him. She may not even be conscious that she is doing it either.

[JustAsking2022]

That's what I am starting to think. We didn't have sex Wednesday night when we hung out. We just smoked and watched tv. We didn't hang out yesterday evening either after work and we're not supposed to tonight and she only messaged maybe once yesterday evening.

[JustAsking2022]

We have a little bit of common interests but not very much. We like some of the same bands and we work together but that's about it.

[Flower_Power]

@JustAsking2022 I know, but it doesn’t sound like she fancies you.

[In_Trance]

Yes you are