We used to be so close and intimate, now it's just gone?

[Jasper080]

Hey everyone!

So there's this lovely woman I've been seeing for a fairly long time now. Chemistry is good, we've been very close for ages, hugging, kissing - everything pretty much. Talking for hours, sharing what connected us.

Recently, she's been going through a lot of burn out and stress from her jobs and everything else in life, and all of a sudden the intimacy has stopped at relatively the same time.

She still will allow me to kiss her and hold her but she doesn't seem to return it like she used to, just small touches and hugs, no kissing, not that it bothers me deeply. It's just confused me. And I'm a little sad if I'm to be completely honest.

We still text a lot as well which has remained unchanged and she often seems to show way more concern for me and also often dismisses it if I show concern for her. As if she cares more about me, than herself which is unfair.

I have a feeling that her struggles is what has caused this disconnect on her end and just time passing by and space will allow her to process things, all I'd like is just everyone else's opinion as a way to keep a positive mind on this. Thank you ☺

[PrettyPriya]

It certainly seems like her stress in life is affecting your intimacy. That can happen and it is really nothing to worry about. That is something caused by external problems, not you.

I would sit down and talk to her. Make her understand it is okay and you are there to support her any way that she needs. Giving some space and time is also a good way to reduce stress.

You don't want to add to it by getting upset (not that you are) that things are quite the same. Simply put, if she is having stress, things aren't the same in life for her either. These things pass in time.

[Jasper080]

Thanks for your input very much.

she did reach out to me just earlier actually and has explained that it's her and not me, that she finds it hard to see me because she's so overwhelmed and struggling to cope with things. That she can't force herself to be intimate, even if she'd like to be - which makes total sense coming at that with an empathetic perspective.

So its why she struggles to let things go that deep between us for now. I've agreed to be there in some capacity, and give her space in the meantime. She is quite introverted so communication in the past with her has been a bit of a struggle sometimes. ☺

[Melatonia]

I have depression and my advice would be convince her to ge see a therapist.

When you have a burn out you don't see world the same way you used to. Everything would be dull, boring and you will constantly be hopeless

It might be just a burn out at this point but nothing guarantee it won't turn into something else that's much worse

Having someone support you in these hard time is really meaningful

Maybe a little vacation somewhere would be nice too

Good luck

[exitseven]

I hate to say it but it seems like she has found somebody else.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[slatyb]

Have you asked her about it? What does she say?

[In_Trance]

Have you talked to her about this?

[Guy13]

Spice it up…

[Guy13]

Usually, it’s either from a lack of shared Time OR shared time that is task-oriented but NOT fun. Everything is work….
Get a Southwest ticket ANYWHERE and holiday inn. Fly up three states even. Fly into Grove Park Inn and treat the 💩 out of her. Hit the Castle while there.
🛑 the fucking whining‼️. It’s not that hard if you really give a 💩 . Just fly somewhere together…have makers and talk. Reintroduce yourself. Some of THE Best sex I have ever had was packing up that rental care post flight