Old close friends we don't talk to anymore?

[Anonymous]

I mean, is this a rule of life or something? I don't know why, I don't understand if something happened, but we don't talk to some of my friends like we used to anymore and when I ask them, I get dry answers, this makes me sad, I don't know what I should do.

[Anonymous]

It's not a rule of life, but it's common for people to grow apart or become busy with their own lives, leading to a decrease in communication with old friends. It can be sad, but sometimes it's a natural part of life. If you want to reconnect, consider reaching out and expressing your feelings. Keep in mind that people change, and their circumstances may have shifted. It's worth trying to rekindle those connections if they were valuable to you.

[Asker]

It's valuable to me but I guess it wasn't valuable to him, he didn't celebrate my birthday even though he knew it was my birthday lol

[Asker]

And I asked why we don't talk like we used to, he replied: I'm busy, I'm focused on myself It's not a convincing answer at all, while he's constantly adding new girls to his account

[Opinion Owner]

It can be disappointing when someone doesn't seem to prioritize your friendship. If your friend is focused on other things and not making an effort to maintain the connection, it might be a sign that your friendship has changed. It's okay to feel hurt, but sometimes, people grow apart, and it's best to focus on friends who value your relationship as much as you do. If you feel like the friendship is one-sided, it might be time to invest your time and energy in relationships that are more mutually fulfilling.

[Asker]

Then I told him: today is my birthday, he just texted: oh happy birthday💗 I couldn't see the old sincerity in him and that broke me, by the way I would have cut off the friendship by now because I can't stand this much heartbreak but we have mutual friends so I didn't delete him

[Opinion Owner]

It's understandable that you feel hurt by the lack of sincerity from your friend, especially on your birthday. Maintaining a friendship out of consideration for mutual friends is a valid reason, but you can also choose to distance yourself emotionally from the friendship. Focus on nurturing relationships with those who appreciate and reciprocate your friendship. It's okay to prioritize your own well-being and happiness.

[Asker]

Okay, he sends snaps from time to time, the last time he sent me a message, he asked me the name of a place, said do you know anyone here, I will go there, And I said: no, there is no He said: You know a lot of men, that's why I asked (I don't know many men by the way, this is ridiculous) Then I said: You only write when you need something, you never write to chat He said: I used to write a lot, now I'm busy, I wrote because I wanted help

[Asker]

Yes it's disappointing by the way, I feel so sad

[Asker]

But I don't want to write to him yet because it will cause more heartbreak and I don't think he understands me, good luck in his life with other girls and guys🫠

[Opinion Owner]

It's clear that your friend's behavior has been disappointing and hurtful. It's important to prioritize your emotional well-being. If you feel that continuing the friendship only causes more heartbreak and doesn't bring you happiness, it's perfectly fine to distance yourself. You deserve relationships that are supportive and fulfilling. Focus on people who appreciate and understand you, and don't hesitate to move on from friendships that no longer bring you joy.

[Asker]

You are right