What made you end up cheating?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I cheated on my first girlfriend at 16. Neighborhood girl (who was cuter) aggressively came on to me. I resisted at first and that only made her try harder. I remember when she was sitting on my staircase and in a hormone rush my hands went right to her crotch. She was in ecstasy.

I later confessed it to my girlfriend and she dumped me a week later. I got what I deserved. I made no excuses for what I did. Even at 16 I knew what I did was wrong.

Now many years later I can proudly say I have never cheated. I have been flirty with other women but I never crossed the line. Never again and I had several opportunities to.

Now I have been cheated on but what was worse was HOW my ex girlfriend handled it. Did she own up to it? Of course not. Did she confess? Nope I found out through a mutual friend. Did she feel any guilt? She likely did but she had to convince herself that I was less than human (and that’s how she treated me after she broke up with me) to make herself feel better.

I truly believed she would never be capable of being like that. But I was wrong.

mobiusforniner · Accepted Answer

When you have a crazy mother in law who tries to accuse you of being an abuser so you divorce and she can take your 3/4 million dollar house and kids away... and she stops by uninvited to keep watch on your... and your wife who won't stand up for you even though she knows her mom is wrong... you feel emotionally void... so yeah, when i met and became friends with a girl who stood up for me, would defend and stick with me through hard time, I went for her like a hawk in heat.

Mistymittens324 · Accepted Answer

I've never cheated and never could... my 1st boyfriend ever cheated on me and I still don't know what I did wrong :( I'm even more insecure now because I don't know why I wasn't good enough and she was especially when he dumped me and married her within a year...

I've also never found another boyfriend since... I've tried but just get stood up.

I just think if I was ever lucky enough to find another man I'd hold on for as long as he'd let me... if there was something I didn't like about the relationship then I'd talk and try and fix it but if it got to the point where I just didn't want him anymore cause I moved on I would break up with him... better to be honest and not waste someone's time and let them go first... otherwise it destroys the other person... 😞

So can't answer for him what made him cheat on me but still till this day I wish I knew what I did wrong... gave him everything he ever asked for and more and it wasn't enough.

Kkstarzz96 · Accepted Answer

If you are long distance for over a year, and there is no plans at all about living together within the next few months, you are going to start living in your world again and not on your phone and realize you are over the whole anticipation of them coming soon and start talking to people who are more accessible. It's the truth but it's sad and makes sense.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Absolutely nothing made me cheat. Absolutely nothing could make me cheat. Very few cheaters are "made" to cheat. It is a conscious choice for which they are responsible.

Sonorous · Answer

Just a general lack of care to study. Didn't help that I got crappy sleep when I was in school. Wasn't uncommon for me to frequently get 2 hours of sleep.

DiegoO · Answer

During my LDR I cheated in the first year of the relation, with online women's. Not gonna explaine excuses. I felt miserable in the relationship. I waited 3-4 months just to see her on cam, while I made her know continuously (from month 1) that I wanted us to do videocalls (since I wanted to know her the more as possible and the fastest as possible). From there on things weren't the same. The following year (2015) she took revenge and cheated on me, online. Sure I was desvastated. I honestly think she wasn't gonna fall for that game. I thought she was better than me.

Although she was virgin, one of the things that had me scratching my head was her insecurity during intimacy. We tried multiple times to have something sexual and most of the times it was a mess. To make it short, I just felt she was afraid of giving her 100% (that also made me afraid of giving it all).

I did what I did and I understand it was very stupid to cheat. Nothing can justify it. My best decision was to end the relationship. We both needed to grow up.

ahmetakkaya · Answer

There are many reasons why people cheat. Some people cheat because they are unhappy in their current relationship. They may be seeking excitement or attention that they feel they are not getting at home. Others cheat because they are simply opportunity. They see an opportunity to have sex with someone else and they take it.

Some people cheat because they have low self-esteem and believe that they are not good enough for their partner. They think that by cheating, they will somehow make themselves feel better. Others cheat because they are revengeful. They want to hurt their partner because their partner has hurt them.

Whatever the reason, cheating is never a good idea. It will only lead to hurt feelings, mistrust, and often, the end of the relationship.

LingyRolls · Answer

Not proud of it but I have a very high sex drive. When I'm turned on, I act inappropriately and it's like I'm not fully in control. I will flirt with guys (even girls!) and I can even feel my face flush. My sex drive is high enough that I've been seen by a doctor. I honestly hate it because it has caused me so much grief in my life and caused me to hurt people I loved by being stupid in the heat of the moment.

Moose304 · Answer

I have NEVER cheated. I have such disdain for cheaters I won't eat at the same table with one and I WILL NOT allow a known cheater in my home. I actually look upon them as 2nd class citizens. I have, however, spoken to some over the years and this is what I have taken away from those conversations. Almost all cheating happens as a result of a chain of events that leads up to the act. Cheaters are broken and can't stop these events because they lack the ability to not cross a boundary. This is a lot like an alcoholic. You can't just keep placing a drink in front of one. Eventually, they will drink it. This is why I say once an alcoholic always one. Same with a cheater!

wingattebaby16 · Answer

i have only cheated once..

little dick joey was leaving me unsatisfied, AND spending more time with his video games than he was me. He would not even respond when i was naked in front of him and sucking his cock!

"Stop, I am gonna beat this level soon!"

Yet, my low self esteem kept me with him. A bad boyfriend was better than no boyfriend.

JustinTheGreat · Answer

I cheated on a couple people when I was in highschool.
I cheated on one person because I had feelings for someone else. I admitted to cheating cause I felt guilty but I also wanted to be with the other person anyways so I wanted the relationship to end. the other dude didn’t want to be with me anyways so I ended up alone. Karma lol

And I cheated on this other guy because we were long distance. I met him at a party or something and he was visiting from England. We hooked up and started a long distance relationship online but I couldn’t handle not physically being with someone so I had sex with someone else. Someone messaged and told him about it and he never spoke to me again..

LepardLashes · Answer

Lack of affection, lack of being around he lived in another state and went to college in my state. I looked for love in all the wrong places even cheated with the same gender trying to find love. we obvi broke up, but i learned a lot about my insecurities, and what not to do if you don't want to lose someone.

Rei02 · Answer

I haven't, but I am afraid I am going to become a tool for cheating if I don't put a stop. An ex has started to contact me, we agreed to still being just friends, but feelings started to flourish again (at least by my side), and he has started to woo me even though I have remembered him about his wife and family, and that I need to meet new people.

nice-girl · Answer

At the beginning of our relationship I dated two guys at the same time and kissed with them. I don’t consider it cheating but my fiance does and mentions it sometimes.
I did it to not catch feelings early and I thought that those guys maybe were doing the same.
I had stopped communicating with the other guy and when my fiance (then boyfriend) checked my phone and saw the messages. I hadn’t deleted them as I didn’t think I was doing something wrong.

Hellodownthere · Answer

Never cheated on anyone. I don't believe in it. I don't really like people that cheat on their spouses. It shows their character. I wouldn't trust them in other areas of life like friendship or business or any platonic relationship. If they'll betray someone they're that close to or that intimate with, then you can't trust them in other avenues. I don't anyway.

Anonymous · Answer

You could say I have. I have emotionally cheated and sexted with others in a relationship. Especially if I feel that I'm being mistreated, neglected or just forgotten about. I've never slept around when I was in a relationship. I do have guy friends and they hug me make stupid comments that I ignore and go on.

peedy · Answer

Quote- Princess Leah, Star Wars A New Hope
" the more you tighten your grip the more will slip through your fingers"
I cheated on my girlfriend because she was to controlling wouldn't give me my space if I wasn't working I had to be with 24-7 and she got upset about everything and I do mean everything even if I spilled my milk, those two years with her was the worst years of my life lucky there was a 19 year college gal upstairs apartment that really liked to fuck so I go up there when my girlfriend at work

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

Not sure it counts. Happened in 2013. She vanished for months without word or explanation. Only to return after I'd long moved on. She somehow still made me feel like the guilty party. She later married a sailor. And they're doing really well. So I'm guessing she grew up.

Guess I was a sucker for immature attention whores and flaky women.

Anonymous · Answer

Well my girlfriend told me I could. Her best friend was coming on to me and I told her and she said you can do it. So I did and then she was mad. I was really young by the way so that's why this sounds so stupid. I actually believed she was okay with it. Like fr. I thought we wanted me to. In hindsight a lot more was probably going on than I ever knew.

AviatorTom · Answer

It wasn't cheating in the strict sense. My wife and I were separated, living in different states, on our way to divorce (which happened a few months later), and we hadn't had sex in over a year. I paid for sex with a female escort, which at the time, was a good thing to do. It released a lot of the built-up tension I had.

Guy13 · Answer

no 💋🍆 would be a problem long-term.

So far I have not but by third date I know whether she will 💋 🍆. By that time, I have the “discuss all the holes” date‼️ Most people are ready for that kind of honesty by then. And, I’m not quick to hop into bed or push it and have declined it SO I get leeway.

hi_it_is_me123 · Answer

I would never cheat on a man. I would not even talk to any man when it is possible to respect my potential partner. There is no reason to cheat on except you are in a forced marriage. Tbh i can't feel bad for abusive cheater who get cheated on.

Anonymous · Answer

I was exercising frequently and when I work out my sex drive is really high at that time, also I was wondering for a long time, what would sex with another man feel like, because at that time I only had sex with my boyfriend, so when I was with that guy one on one in his apartment and he kept teasing I couldn't resist.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

Nothing on god's earth would make me cheat! I've been cheated on and it sucks

IveGotNoName · Answer

I haven't and I will never. I don't understand cheating. If someone is "bored" or "unsatisfied" in the relationship then break up ffs.

BossLady16 · Answer

I've never physically cheated. However, I have been an emotional cheater 🙄 I emotionally cheat when I'm being neglected or mistreated for an extended period of time. Then someone comes along that is kind and attentive... story of my life.

Isismoonie · Answer

I was bored with my relationship and unsatisfied sexually. I told my partner this multiple times and to no avail because he didn’t change nor did he acknowledge my concerns.

So when the opportunity presented itself, things happened.

Anonymous · Answer

Not necessarily me cheating but he cheated on me when I was pregnant with our daughter. Got the girl pregnant and so his son is like 4 months younger than my daughter. I broke up with him and slept with his uncle who also revealed where my ex was living so that I could establish custody of daughter since he thought that he would take my child from me cause I kicked him out of MY house and I no longer wanted to be with him.

Ezure · Answer

Tbh.. There's no reason for cheating.. If you dont feel the same as you once did about your relationship or you are falling for someone else, just break up with your partner and then go for the other person.. Its not fair for your current partner as well as your other person..

Disha10 · Answer

Being horny, too much alcohol, finding another guy really hot and enjoying how much attention he is giving me.  Didn't go all the way though.

Random18x · Answer

Glad I’m not the only one that feels it wasn’t a good reasoning to cheat

wanderlustmess · Answer

I fell for the old "tell her you love her to get in her pants" tricks. I was still in the beginning of my new relationship (like the first month) and I decided I would leave my boyfriend for this guy. After the sex I asked "so what are we?" And when he flailed at that question like he had been doing for months before I left and found someone else, I left him. The guilt ate me alive. I told my boyfriend the next day.

Anonymous · Answer

I just wanted sex, wife was not giving me sex. So I fucked around.

Once I did the deed I came home and told her that I fucked another women, because she wouldn't fuck me.

So I gave her a choice to start fucking me on a regular basis or we're though.

I need more then just love in a relationship. I need to be fucked once and a while

DizzyDesii · Answer

If i felt myself coming close to emotionally cheating, i’d either sit my partner down for a talk or i’d just break up since they’re not cutting it for me anymore

Creampiekarl420 · Answer

Pure unadulterated neglect I can be faithful and not cheat for only so long I don’t understand why women want men yet don’t want to have sex with them then complain about the guy being bad at sex when he only gets to have sex with you once a month and you’re just so shocked and hurt when he cheats or develops a porn addiction

Charliefretz329 · Answer

I’ve never ever cheated ever in my life. But severe loneliness at times has brought me to the ragged brink. Sometimes and often, a spouse becomes distant and cold and unable to communicate. And without knowing why no love can be shared or expressed, a man can literally begin to come unraveled.

Lis-the-librarian · Answer

Never have and never will. I think people who cheats are cowards and selfish. Its okay to lust, but break up first, its easy.

matt4u · Answer

He shared my pictures online with other men. Behind my back. When I found out about it I was livid. We fought and didn't talk for days. A coworker came to me and said let's go. I didn't care I felt like I was out there for the world to see so I went for it.

Anonymous · Answer

I was so horny and my partner did not have the same libido as me. So, i could not help myself cheating him sexually.

xJayleenx · Answer

I've never cheated before and I’ll never understand those that do

andreasderjuengere · Answer

I only 'cheated' when I was married.
Never to a girlfriend.
I assume that ''deep down inside'' I was seeking a relief from having made a mistake.
Divorce later on -for different reasons- confirmed my 'feeling'.

skyeee_ · Answer

school  (i know you mean the other cheating, but i cheat on online exams all the time lol)

Anonymous · Answer

I was dared to go look at this dudes penis at a frat party bc everyone said it was huge. My boyfriend didn’t believe it so told me to check and well

OddBeMe · Answer

I get bored playing video games so sometimes I type in a cheat code. Makes it fun for a bit.

Anonymous · Answer

Penis size. My boyfriend was very small downstairs. I saw his step father get out of the shower and he was hung.

This_Is_My_Opinion8 · Answer

She wasn't there for me when I was in a dark place. The other girl was.
Not excusing myself. I should have broken up with my ex first then stay with the other girl. Instead I cheated.
I was young and a fool.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

Cheating = cheating. Just wouldn't stop effing around so she effed around an found out. 2 can play the same game.

Anonymous · Answer

I've never cheated but that doesn't mean I never thought about it. I have too much honor to do it

Anonymous · Answer

Opportunity, I found myself in situations in which I could have sex with other people, so I had sex with other people. That's about it really.

myabe123 · Answer

I had a crush on my longtime friend max but max broke my heart

WhiteBoyChill · Answer

I never fcking will. If I’m unsatisfied then I’ll end the relationship first

Mahmoud_Madyan · Answer

I will never cheat my partner for only one reason... but if I didn't treated well, a lot of arguments, been ignored, and have no sex for a long time... if all this reasons happened together, this will lead me to cheat!!

TenkRealist · Answer

Never. Cheaters are trash. The lowest of the low. Their face should be broken.

maverick2022 · Answer

I felt like the things I was learning in school were pointless and I didn't feel like taking the time to learn them.

SolitarySolace · Answer

Never cheated but I've been cheated on constantly by every girl I've been with. I don't see that changing in the future 🤷🏻‍♂️

chulo1992 · Answer

When I cheated a LONG LONG LONG time ago, I did it because of variety and greed.

zagor · Answer

The only time I cheated was playing Battleship with a friend and I peeked at his side when he got up to adjust the music.

Vegasrunner · Answer

Cheating is fine if your a man but unacceptable of you're a women.

Lord_Saddler · Answer

I didn't really love some girls I were with and it happened.

Still-alive · Answer

well i wanted to beat this one boss that kept kicking my ass so i put in the god mode cheat...

Anonymous · Answer

I never have and never will. because I am not a piece of shit human being.

Anonymous · Answer

I believe in the golden rule, "do unto others before getting done unto". There's no such thing as a loyal woman. So you might as well cheat. She's going to do it. It's just a matter of time.

Cleopatra1980 · Answer

I was wondering the answer on the test was copied off person next to me in front of me.

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