Why did you cheat?

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This is a gentle question for everybody. Oh I mean general.. what was the reason that you have a decided to cheat on your significant other? Why and did you regret it? As for me right after high school I've had many ups and downs with partners. The general reason was when no matter how many times I explained my boundaries, and no matter how many times I cried and yelled and shouted to the point where I got exhausted.. they still broke it, they still disrespected me. I was very vocal on my wants and needs. But they never seem to respect me in the way that I wanted. So I've done it as a Payback for them to always remember it but as well as me wanting to treat myself in a way that they have been treating me and that is just useless garbage to make myself feel better. Meaning the guys that I've been doing the cheating with generally just wanted a one-night stand and that's how my partner made me feel and I essentially just did it for Revenge and self punishment. But I had self-reflected As I Grew Older and realized that is not a healthy mentality and I have ever since been looking for something serious.

OneViewpoint · Accepted Answer

My ex was completely asexual. Basically a 90 year old woman in a 23 year old body with all sorts of weird rules about age and hairstyle, age and clothing styles, etc. Thanks Catholic Church.

So we had kids (that was OK sex in her mind). And I was stuck. I know, I should have bailed after the honeymoon. But I put in the work. Made an effort. Do the right thing. Until it became apparent that she was never gonna change and I was stuck in this hell until my kids were educated and on their own.

So was I gonna basically give up the best years of my life? Hell no. Why should I? I cheated on her every chance I got. Zero remorse. It's not like I didn't have that conversation with her 1,000 times. Once my kids were launched, I was outta there. Good person, great mom, horrible wife. I felt like I was living my life alone. Nope wasn't gonna that "nice guy". She got the status and the lifestyle. We both got our kids. But I wasn't gonna give up intimacy for 30 years. If you disagree with that, well, fuck you. You try it.

PavlovsCogk · Accepted Answer

To protest againat tariffs.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

I don't cheat... or lie... or aim to trip folks up with double-talk to justify something that's blatantly wrong. So I wouldn't know what to tell you about the mentality of folks who are like that.

And I've exhausted myself recently trying to figure out why a person would waste my time if they were into other people, etc. You know what I've discovered? It was just MORE of a waste of my time and energy. It's an active waste of the gifts God has given me, so the best thing to do is just block those people from your life completely, forgive them for being pos, and then move on with your own life, seeking out someone who appreciates what you bring to the table.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I cheated on my ex twice, once with a guy and also with a female coworker. With the guy, at the time I was really mad at my ex. I know it's not a valid reason but it is what it is. With the girl, we were both attracted to each other and things just evolved into sex eventually. We did it 3 times I think. My boyfriend never found out about either. He would have been pissed about that guy but I don't think he would have cared so much about the girl. Didn't matter in the end.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Thanks for sharing your journey! As a relationship coach, I'm all about helping people understand themselves better. Cheating often stems from unmet needs or hurt feelings. It sounds like you wanted both revenge and self-validation. Your insight shows growth. It's important to recognize what you deserve and communicate openly to create healthier connections. Keep pursuing what truly makes you happy and respected, lovely soul! 💕

SteveSmith1985 · Answer

I haven't. I wouldn't. I think it's a terrible thing to do. I do want to congratulate you on realizing what you did was wrong, seeing this differently in time. As long as you're honest about this; when you find someone who you are hoping to start something serious with... then that's some impressive growth.

AviatorTom · Answer

I never have cheated, but I have thought about it... because sometimes you need a change of pace in a relationship.

Jove79 · Answer

Not a lot of guys cheat. Women cheat more. Because Insecurities, loneliness, revenge, depression, the list goes on.

I’ve only been on 2 serious relationships my whole life. Before those relationships i had a lot of sex, so I got the urge out the way:

Men cheat for more sex and different experiences/people.

Women cheat for above reasons.

I never cheated once, and I never will.

DCVsMarvel2 · Answer

The only real reason, and im not trying to legitimize it, is, to get away with it

Nothings illegal, if you're not getting caught, right?

Again, I'm not condoning cheating, I'm saying, that's the only LEGIT reason. Everything else is an excuse

EmmaMary · Answer

I have never cheated and have absolutely no intentions whatsoever of ever doing so.

Vampirelover_12 · Answer

Because I was ovulating and his bitch ass wouldn't give me the sex I craved.

Oldschool1981 · Answer

I have a double standard opinion on this one. I don't think men should cheat in a relationship but it's perfectly fine for women to cheat. My wife has a side guy and that's fine so long as she doesn't get preggo.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

I’ve been in relationships and felt the temptation to cheat before. Especially when not getting my needs met. However i am uber loyal and haven’t cheated on any of my gfs. I can certainly understand why some do chest and I've been close ngl

Agape93 · Answer

Never have, never will. I value my partners, I wouldn't betray them.

Sluttt · Answer

Because i pretended like stepford wife for the sake of traditional relationship forgetting the real life horniness. I am not a lady.

Anonymous · Answer

I have never cheated on my partners, but if they had not fulfilled my sexual fantasies, I would have been quite tempted to do so, perhaps I would have actually done it without any remorse.

LiamS95 · Answer

I didn't cheat but my fiancé did, I caught her in my bed riding some random guy.

Mrtcn01 · Answer

it is just only because of sex.. and now i m kind a sex addict

bddddd · Answer

Sometimes it is harder to muster the communication skills to resolve relationship challenge.

Anonymous · Answer

I have never cheated but I’ve been tempted to do it for revenge

Anonymous · Answer

I didn't. I've been cheated on twice by two different women, but I've never cheated. I'm loyal by nature.

Vick2828 · Answer

If you’re an adult cheating, you are an idiot.

blackeagle007 · Answer

Only riddlers and jokers cheat. People like want to make problems

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Absent objective abuse, always a lack of connection, often driven by one’s own issues

Dimitra9 · Answer

I was young thinking that I could. Also karma got me.

robocop666 · Answer

Many women have tried to heat on their partners with me

Sam1133 · Answer

I don't cheat for me it's a sin  Playing with someone trust n believe it's not a cool

Nikki1989 · Answer

I have never cheated.

Staximus · Answer

I never have, I'm not a scumbag

Gaylordslav · Answer

She was hot and willing to have fun.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Who exactly would want to admit that?

Anonymous · Answer

He did not fuck good enough

yotaman99 · Answer

My ex cheated and told me she was seeing their men

Anonymous · Answer

Opportunity. Why would I regret it?

Averagegirl2000 · Answer

Probably there was the opportunity and I was 16.

Credentialmayhem · Answer

I never cheated

Jay-_- · Answer

I wouldn't cheat.

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