The healthiest relationships occur when the wife/girlfriend is willing to contribute the same amount as the man if not more depending, do you agree?

[Anonymous]

I feel like this is pretty obvious but the best examples of healthy relationships come from the couples I know where the women is willing to contribute the same if not more depending on the current situations.

2 samples...

1 - I have friend who bought a house with his partner almost 2 years ago, his girlfriend paid more for the downpayment and is paying more for the mortgage right now because she is further along in her career and is making more money consistently then he is. They worked out a deal where he will eventually pay more for the mortgage & contribute more when his career eventually takes off.

2 - I have a friend on the verge of getting married and he had to move in with his wife to be sooner than expected because his work & student visa got screwed up at the end of 2021, since then he has been living with his girlfriend and she has been taking care of him financially until he gets full citizenship & is able to work.

Based off of those and other examples, I've notice that the 50/50 & the give/take method of a relationship works the best.

What are your thoughts?

Yes

No (explain..)

[Emiliamazing]

Splitting 50-50 is fantastic. It’s not always possible though. Often times when individuals career or salary will experience bigger raises than the other. I think the most important part of negotiating this scenario is ensuring that each member feels valued. There shouldn’t be any negativity towards the higher earner or the one who earns less unless somebody’s not putting forth a proper effort.
I surpassed my husbands income years and years ago, but we both still value each other for what we bring to the table financially as well as emotionally

[Anonymous]

I mean sort of... its complicated.
I feel like it's unfair for the woman to bare and raise kids, cook and clean, be there for her partner emotionally, spiritually and psychally 100% and split 50/50.
In my relationship we do mostly 50/50 but what's awesome about my man is if I dont have it he covers me most of the times and doesn't have a problem with it.
I say who cares... whatever works for your relationship do it!!

[Anonymous]

I like that it is a similar percentage of the earnings which both contribute.. so then in cases where men earn way more a woman should not contribute the same/more than the man.