Should women contribute to a marriage/relationship or should they be taken care of by a man?

[Charliefretz329]

Contribute 🔧

Taken care off 👸

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

To me, it's the best thing for the marriage if both husband and wife secure an income of their own and can fend for themselves in every way possible just as self-sufficient adults.

In a similar sense I think the husband should at least be capable of homemaking, like he shouldn't be rendered helpless like a boy without a mother if his wife is ill or dies.

Similarly, the wife shouldn't be rendered helpless and broke without any means of an income if the husband becomes ill or dies. She should also be able to defend the home if the husband is away, make repairs, etc.

As much as possible, overlapping capabilities in what we might traditionally distinguish for the gender roles is very useful to alleviate burdens and avoid rendering one of the two spouses helpless if the other is away, incapacitated, or dead.

A marriage where the spouses depend on each other too much is one that will be too devastating in the event that they're split apart for whatever reason (war, illness, injury, divorce, death, prolonged stays overseas, etc).

[JacobJordan]

Wife response: it is a lazy woman that contributes nothing to either. I fulfill my role in the relationship/marriage. To ensure my husband is full with food, happy emotionally, satisfied physically and intimately. I keep our home clean, our kids clean and healthy. I ensure our kids leave my husband alone when he is working on the house and ensure they are attentive to their studies (only 1 is doing studies right now even though she would much rather spend time with daddy working on the house or with mommy cooking, baking and cleaning. In our relationship it was very natural. We were both working when we met I was a waitress he was a guest who worked nearby. After I went overseas for a cousins wedding my landlord said I would need to move out. My now husband asked if I wanted to move in with him as he had space. I accepted and then he asked if I wanted to work or not. I asked if it would make a difference he said "only in what you do when I am working." So I choose to not work. I moved in to his house which was large for 1 person. It was already clean and tidy and he came home from work with a massive amount of art supplies and said I could enjoy myself as I saw fit while he was at work. I made sure the house was clean and he always had breakfast lunch and dinner and other than that I was able to paint and make handmade bags to my hearts content. It has been a wonderful last 19 almost 20 years and I would not change anything

[Anonymous]

I think women should also contribute (doesn’t necessarily have to be financially tho) but both parties would have to contribute something to the relationship.

[steveusna]

Most definitely must be financially if she wants to be taken seriously. It doesn't have to be equal but she needs to show that she is invested in the relationship just like her partner is invested.

[molonski2]

@steveusna
absolutely there must be a financial element.

[Opinion Owner]

@steveusna if she’s a full on traditional house wife then I’d have to disagree but otherwise, I agree. I don’t make anywhere near as much as my boyfriend does but I still contribute here and there. I am invested in the relationship but I can’t afford to support my boyfriend, that’s why I live a frugal life and I never expected him to pay for my needs (we also don’t live together), but I contribute in other ways (like cooking and cleaning for him, help out with his chores and sometimes I’m basically his personal secretary lol)

[laly520]

a bit of both

I work but we agreed that I will keep my money while he takes care of me n everything else

[Miristheiss]

Feminists who prioritize a career and being equal and who party in their 20's and give up all the "wife" privileges to a bunch of men in her youth, who is argumentative and has tattoos and piercings... etc.

She should contribute and be equal. He owes her no pedestal treatment.

A sweet girl who is family oriented and wants kids and not a career (she quits when she has kids or just works some low key part time stuff not 50 hour work weeks and work travel and stress and such) and has saved herself for marriage and who wants a leader for a husband then she should be taken care of.

[molonski2]

Contributions need to be make by both sides , both financial and emotional contributions , certainly NOT just " taken care of " , matter of fact if their ( either side ) financial contribution is less , it should be them " taking care " of the other.

The ludicrous stereotypes you see on the likes of " real housewives' " is just pure fantasy.

[Kaamraj]

No one eats for free in this world. If a woman doesn't contribute to family then she should not be taken care of, after all it's 2024, not 200AD, women are strong and independent, let them work the same jobs as men, including defense and infrastructure and earn a living and retirement benefits.

[Anonymous]

My view is that he needs to work, she may need or want to work.

Contribute. There's a word. Both can contribute in many different ways. If both are happy with their effort versus what they receive, and they can afford what they want, I don't think it matters.

[Anonymous]

Wow, this poll is VERY telling. The fact that 42% of women said "taken care of" kind of tells you how what portion of women on G@G are ENTITLED. How can anyone with a straight face say something like that.

Great poll @charliefretz329

[katiesmuff]

A relationship will not work unless both contribute and that it a no brainer!

[Nikki1989]

I will always work and make my own money regardless of my husband's income.

[steveusna]

If you had a boyfriend and you were going to be exclusive, how would you share dating expenses. Would you ever have a joint account with a debit card for dating expenses only.

[Shy_Steve]

Nikki1989 Yes that's true, But most Girls would leave a Guy If he was broke.

[Miah04]

This is up to each couple and how they want the dynamic of the relationship to go

[Sabretooth]

Contribute. She's our partner not our child. In a world like this... We're gonna fail to meet our obligations for many reasons that are outside of our ability to control.

[dustybiker2]

Marriage is a shared thing.

[Miah04]

Just not my food. Taking my food is a grounds for divorce.
But it's is acceptable for me to take their food

[dustybiker2]

You shared your blueberry muffin with us. You love gag. 💙

[Miah04]

I mean off my plate

[dustybiker2]

Okay

[Charliefretz329]

Typical woman 🤨😄

[dustybiker2]

You are lucky you didn't say that two days ago when I was hormonal, sir.

[Charliefretz329]

I was talking about Miah stealing food lol

[dustybiker2]

Okay good lol

[Charliefretz329]

Girls always taking the dudes fool lol.

Marriage however should be shared and equally beneficial to each partner ❤️

[dustybiker2]

It's nice sharing with family. I agree.

[Charliefretz329]

And women are always hormonal 😏

[NathanDavis]

is this about what... money?

[Charliefretz329]

Contributing can mean many things, not just money.

[NathanDavis]

I guess I don't get these things... lol

I just don't see these kinds of relationships here, one on which one person does everything and the other does absolutely nothing at all, lol

[steveusna]

They are out there. Especially in the church community. The goal of Christianity is the betatization of men.

[SolitarySolace]

Women must bring something to the table if not they're not worth marrying

[steveusna]

... not worth marrying or respecting.

[SolitarySolace]

Agreed. Respect is earned and these days women don’t even respect themselves

[Anonymous]

Contribute what? Your question seems to assume contributions must be financial or material, but those are not the ways women bring value to a relationship/marriage.

[steveusna]

If a woman has an education, a job, a career, then she absolutely must be financially contributing. Only simps will tolerate a woman doing nothing financially.

[Opinion Owner]

@steveusna You miss the point.

[Comingback]

This is a False dilemma. It implies they can't be both

[Anonymous]

Taken care of. I want to be a stay at home wife.

[Charliefretz329]

What does a stay at home wife entail?

[Opinion Owner]

Taking care of the household, the kids, budgeting the bills, and going grocery shopping for the household.

[Opinion Owner]

Taking care of the household is cooking and cleaning.

[Charliefretz329]

That’s contributing!

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah my boyfriend just told me that so I guess women should contribute to a marriage/relationship then.

[steveusna]

Join an Evangelical church or the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints.

[IslaTheWitch]

2 in 1, please :D

[MushyKiwi]

It takes 2 to Tango

[tasqueen]

I think both should contribute equally

[steveusna]

There are reasons that it might not be equal financially but there should be a commitment to do their agreed upon part.

[Cheerfull009]

It is the choice of man

[Unit1]

both.