Guys & girls if you get involved with someone wealthier than you / a better paying career than you - do you feel entitled to that wealth / income?

[Anonymous]

On another post someone said that in divorce things should be split 50/50 of any and all assets gained throughout the marriage regardless on if one partner contributed the bulk of those assets or not.

As example one spouse stayed at home & the other worked, stay at home would be entitled to 50% of assests (property, furniture, etc.) bought in the marriage even if didn't pay a dime.

And that got me thinking.

I own a property outright (bought easily as I came from Europe & CAD is far less), I have a good job, I am currently running one e commerce business & thinking of another next year. And looking into some property investment deals with a long time friend of mine.

Yeah I'm really a woman brought up in a upper middle class, highly business focused family. So business, investment, etc. is generational, going back to great-grandpa.

Anyway

I'd be mighty pissed off if someone thought that simply by marriage they'd be entitled to anything that MY hard work contributed to the household merely because we're married.

Yes

Maybe

No

[Anonymous]

This is a hard question to answer. Because my first reaction when I read it was, "both should leave with the assets the came to the union with and the rest should be divided evenly. But as you pointed out one typically raises kids while the other works. Or at least one typically works more. And so they're going to feel entitled to more. But raising kids are important! And not a 9 to 5 job. Just as important as providing income. So in my mind it should still be a 50/50 split. But again, I do think both parties should leave with thier previous assets they came with. Don't like this? Then negotiate a prenuptial beforehand and come to an equitable solution.

That's my take anyhow.

[Asker]

Raising kids is simple compared to a job. How else did back in history women have 8 to 14 kids. It's modern society when women are more adept at being lazy & disorganized & disrespectful rather than setting groundrules for the kids that makes it seem childcare is difficult.

[Opinion Owner]

Clearly you never raised kids.🤣

[Grovermint]

Nope. If I ever get to the point of being married to someone that earns more and we don't work out, I'd like to just amicably split and move on.

[provokeesmokee]

Maybe/No

I prefer separate finances and will require separate accounts no matter what.

However, I'm not opposed to sharing the riches (I've always been the one out earning my partners). But it has to be something clear, mutually agreed on, and my partner still needs to be gainfully employed. I don't do freeloaders. Partners only.

[Unit1]

absolutely not. I make my own luck, although i could use some guidance making it myself. Currently as a swing trader things aren't looking very good for me. I am most likely the only one from my family history, that values making money beyond being an employee.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Nope, not my money. I'd expect her to cover half the monthly bills though, assuming we even have any.

[Sabretooth]

I wouldn't say "entitled" but, I think that she has a responsibility to share it with me.

[Nikki1989]

No, I make my own money.

[jahaims]

Depends on the circumstances.