Asking out a girl from work. Good idea or Bad?

[thesinisterurge]

There is this girl from my work that I've worked with for a few years, we have always been flirty with each other. I think she like's me I just think she's afraid to get involved with someone from work. Maybe she's worried I'd just try to nail her then tell everyone from work about it or something. I would hope based on how we've interacted she would know I'm a good guy that wouldn't do that. Even a few people from work told me how they saw her blushing around me & all that. I always jokingly but half seriously talk about taking her out & how she's a babe. She laughs & flirts right back but doesn't make it totally obvious she would go out with me. If I was to date her we would have to keep it on the DL at work. It would be too annoying having everyone know & joke around all the time. I get nervous SOMETIMES talking to her which I never get nervous around girls. I don't think I've liked a girl like this in awhile. I tried in the past to forget about her but my feelings for her never went away. I feel like if I actually got to take her out we might really hit it off without having to tip toe around people from work. I think we'd get to know each other a lot better on a date too. Should I ask her out or is it a bad idea?

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+1 y

Note we don't work in the same departments anymore, so we don't even see each other all that much. Maybe a few time's a day at best.

[bloodmountain1990]

I would say yes if you are planning on leaving the job, seriously. My work has a strict no dating coworkers policy and even though I think it shouldn't be their decision, on a personal level I wouldn't do it. When I first started working there, I had a crush on some of my coworkers but I'm glad I didn't even go for them because had I dated them and we broke up, it'd be insanely awkward and make it even more stressful. 6 years ago there were two coworkers that started dating and after they broke up, they still worked together and not only was it stressful for them but for my boss as well.

There's a reason why they say separate your personal life from your work life and it's probably for the best.

[USGrant]

We always hear rules like don't fish off the company pier, don't dip in the company ink, etc, but rules are meant to be broken. If you like her then just try to casually grab food during lunch - just say you're getting food at XYZ casual place and ask if she wants to go with. When dating in the workplace, always be prepared to lose the company/job. If things work out, definitely be on the same page with her that no one is to know about it at work for both of your sake.

[lalalolita]

Ask her to casually hang out outside of work as friends and get a feel for the situation. Does she seem flirty with everyone or just you? If it's just you she probably likes you too but is of course worried about you not returning the feelings and making it awkward when she still has to see you everyday at work. That's a plus you aren't in the same departments. She probably doesn't want everyone at work finding out either. I'm in a similar situation I have a question about. Everyone thinks work dating bad but this sounds fine. You don't have to consult your company unless things get serious. Best of luck to you!

[Anonymous]

Well you guys work in different departments so I don't see the problem. If the company you guys work at don't have a strict policy about that, then go for it. Where I work, a lot of people are dating people from other departments. I think that as long as you keep it professional at work and leave all the other things for outside of work, you'd be fine.

I too like someone at work, except we work in the same department so I don't know if it would be such a good idea for us. but you guys should be fine. as long as it doesn't affect your work performance.

[BillieJean1070]

They say you shouldn't do this if you are in a position of authority over her but I don't see a problem with it.

[InquisitiveMale]

Considering we spend most of our adult lives, not me specifically, in some sort of corporate work environment, I see nothing wrong with it if you're careful. There's that thought that you shouldn't jeopardize your work environment but really, we have jobs these days, not careers, and with the increasing demand employers put on our time schedules, it's as good a place as any.

[koibito]

Only if one of you do not see yourself working at the company for much longer.

Most corporate companies take a very dim view of workplace relationships, even if there is no such clause written in.

[shadowscapes]

don't shit where you eat. if it's a job you care about and won't easily replace, I wouldn't risk it.

surely there's tons of a girls everywhere.

[thesinisterurge]

Yeah it is a good job. I don't even know if my company would do anything if they found out we where dating though. I'll have to look into it.

[jamesma87]

It's fine if you believe even if things are not on good terms between the two of you that it won't affect work at all in any way

[red324]

It's fine just as long as there isn't an anti dating policy in the handbook and also just as long as you two can still be professional if she says no or if you guys do workout and end up breaking up at some point.

[TangerineFire1]

Some say it is not good to mix your bread with your butter. Might not be a good idea.

[Anonymous]

BAD IDEA! DONT risk your work for some chic that it might not even work out with!

Its a CONFLICT OF INTEREST to date a co-worker!

Also, NEVER mix business with pleasure - that's a recipe for a disaster!

[Opinion Owner]

based on my personal experiences...also if you split or fight it would be awkward to face her or she might try to make your life hell at work

[Moobacca]

I wouldn't personally. Don't do anything that can screw up your income.

[Anonymous]

Bad idea rule number one NEVER MIX BUSINESS WITH PLEASURE.

[Brookeelise]

BAD idea! No work and pleasure!