I slept with my best friend's boyfriend, how do I fix this?

[Anonymous]

I got drunk last weekend and slept with my best friend’s boyfriend. We were all drunk at her house watching TV. She passed out and her boyfriend carried her in the bedroom and put her to bed. Then he came and sat on the couch with me.

I was feeling kind of vulnerable. I haven’t really dated in a while and went through a bad breakup a year ago. I put my head on his shoulder and hugged him but it was only in a brother-sister way. We’ve been cool since the whole 5 months they’ve been together.

I am not sure if he started it or I started it but we started kissing. Then he took my hand and we tiptoed down to the laundry room like little kids and basically went for it. Clothes off, different positions, the whole nine yards. When it was over, I gave him my number and just broke out. He called me and we made a pact that this would be our little secret. The next day he came to my house and we did it again.

She knows I always crash at her house when we’re hanging late so the next day she was like, why did you leave? I just made up some excuse. Now her man keeps texting me asking when we’re going to hook up again. He said if I don’t do it, he’s going to tell her what happened and say I came on to him.

He’s not even my type and now I feel like she shouldn’t have really left us alone together. He’s always looking at other girls and making off the wall remarks anyway.

She’s been like a sister to me since forever and I love her. She always has my back, she got me a job, and lends me money when I need help. I don’t want to lose our beautiful friendship. What should I do?

[ohshee]

You can't really fix that you really blew it I wish I could tell you there was a way to fix it but to be honest with you there's no way

It depends on how good of a friend as she is to you to even understand something like that would even happen if you would have to forgive you which I don't think that she would there's just some things that you don't do no matter what and you cannot use being drunk as an excuse because between the both of you to guide her boyfriend and you when are you at least one of you thought about it before you even started doing anything and that's the part that sucks well I would definitely like to know if you guys do get it figured out and I would like to know how it got figured out because it would be cool but I don't know you would have to meet enough a lot to her for her to forgive you being drunk is not an excuse good luck and if you figure it out please send me a message I'd like to know how you did it that would be something that's very beautiful

[Truthatanycost]

This friendship is over. You could have done this with any of the other thousands of desperate simps out there... but you chose to do it with your best friends boyfriend. Nothing on this earth will fix that. There is a responsibility that we have when it comes to sex, both femininity and masculinity. You failed and all you can do now is learn from it, say goodbye to that friendship and move on. But be prepared for her to take her boyfriend side on it and possibly drag your name through the mud.

And remember this:

Matthew 7:12

So whatever you wish that others would do to you, do also to them, for this is the Law and the Prophets.

[Tinana]

You can’t do anything you’re a bad friend. You knew what you were doing because hoe amazing is it you can remember so much details drunk and then you even tiptoed. Not to wake her up she has no blame in this you and her horrible boyfriend are both horrible people.
You should tell her both you and her boyfriend are scum bags because he’s going to cheat on her again. Send her the blackmails that’s the least you could do. And she is in nooooo way obliged to forgive you. You can’t even be accountable for your actions you’re blaming everyone but yourself. You are not the victim she issss.

[Guccigabbana18]

There's no 'fixing' it honestly. You just come clean to her asap. Sorry to say but you aren't her friend at all. It sounds as if you're trying to put the blame of YOU betraying your friend on you being 'drunk' or 'her leaving you two alone' but that just doesn't wash. YOU chose to do this with her boyfriend, and he chose to cheat. Please work on yourself, your resentment issues with your friend or jealousy that caused you to sleep with her boyfriend. And be a better friend to other people in the future.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Exactly my thoughts, couldn’t have said it any better :-)

[Guccigabbana18]

@WhatTheHeckkkk Thank u!

[KatherineJ]

The most honest answer! I mean there is no “fix” available with that.

[God_of_Thunder]

She should have left you alone together? Really? Really?

My God, you ask about trying to "fix this" and then blame everybody but yourself. You made the decision to drink, and you made the decision to fuck her boyfriend. She had nothing to do with it. This is entirely on you and him. If you can't control your actions while drinking, then don't drink!

There is no "fixing" this. You betrayed her. You're not her friend. You can either tell her the truth, and be prepared to not be a part of her life anymore, or you can try to keep the secret of your betrayal. Some day, she will find out, and it'll be even worse then.

What if she marries this guy? Are you going to let her continue in a relationship with some dude who stuck his dick in you? Yeah, some friend you are.

Suck it up, admit what you did, and let her make the decision whether to cut two toxic people out of her life. You owe her that much.

[Apulu_Imback]

Take screenshot of yours and your best friend's boyfriend's text as a prove that he was blackmailing you. Or do a recording of the calls. I don't know how being drunk totally makes you uncontrollable and weak. I thought it just made your vision blurry and wobbly. All you can do now is just come clean with the proof.

[DWornock]

Just tell him it is over. Don't listen to his threats. He is not going to tell his wife; he is not that foolish. If you really feel threatened, tell his wife, "When you are not around pats me on my bottom and, even though I tell him to leave me alone, he is trying to have sex with me. I didn't tell you because, I though he would stop. However, now he is threatened to tell you that I seduced him."

[KatherineJ]

Why would you do such a thing? I mean wow. How do you “fix it”? I don’t even know, but stay the heck away from her boyfriend! That is like the ultimate betrayal.

[JoyGirl]

Ahhhh…you messed up. Oh, shi…
Idek what to tell you here. You can tell her the truth, and apologize (that is if you really mean it). It is really up to her if she will forgive you or not…

[Sam_The_Savage]

You're so good in giving advice 😘

[JoyGirl]

@Sam_The_Savage Thank you. 😊

[Sam_The_Savage]

Your welcome Queen 😘

What is the process for taking your advice in private? ✌️

[Guy__]

Gather evidence that he started it and is blackmailing you... let him know you have the evidence and break it with him.

[Vendela]

Did you honestly just say that she shouldn't have left you guys together? Wow, put the blame on her for trusting her best friend right? You are a seriously sick human being.

[Shamalien]

“I don’t want to lose our beautiful friendship” you already have. You can either fuck her up with the black magic of silent betrayal, or come clean and give her the fair opportunity to judge and dispense with you

[Drumlin2001]

You can't let him blackmail you. Tell her everything.

[Anonymous]

sounds like you gotta keep sleeping with him to save the friendship and relationship you have no other choices bye bye now

[Sam_The_Savage]

He is not my type and yet you spread legs for him.. lol 😂

[Akpos]

Just explain to your friend, l guess she will understand

[Guy13]

Done ✅ done ☑️ Done ✔️ Later Bit-

[TrillXHippy]

You messed up so that’s on you 😂

[exitseven]

You can't fix this.

[skyeee_]

troll 2

[Anonymous]

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