Why men and women, guys and girls need to stop insulting each other, why does it still continue?

[Anonymous]

If you are reading this, regardless of your gender or past experiences based on bad parenting, dating, ex-marriages, or whatever, there is so much hatred amongst males and females. I understand this is nothing new, it’s existed for God knows how long. I’ve studied philosophy, law, politics, gender, psychology in university and one thing I can say is there are too many ideologies we try to define ourselves by. This era is utterly toxic especially with social media. Women laughing about men being short or having small dicks or men calling women fat whores who don’t deserve an opinion even on matters such as abortion. This is wrong, it’s disrespectful.

I want to see peace and love, civilness, maturity to blossom, understanding, respect and modesty between men and women. I’m not a fan of screwing around, taking advantage of others, insulting others just so I can feel better about myself. I admit I’ve lived a fabricated life for years trying to seek the approval of others but I’m slowly changing my ways on a positive path, am I perfect? No. But, moving one step forward is better then one step backwards.

I know I may have answered my own question but I want the opinions of others as to why? Again, if you respond, don’t give bitter experiences based on guys act like this so fuck them! or girls act like this soo fuck them to! Come up with why you think it’s become like this and possible solutions to fix it. Forget the whole concept of male ego versus feminism…nothing good will come out of that either, just more pointless arguments. What do we are truly want? Loyalty, love, passion, sincerity, kindness.

The days of chivalry by guys are dead because guys assume what’s the point girls hate us. Girls will say, men are scum because they just want sex. These aren’t assumptions this is years of talks with guys and girls I’ve known and answering posts on Yahoo Answers, GAG and Reddit.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I think a big break down, is we live in a society/culture that no longer looks to themselves when something goes wrong... Much easier to put the blame on someone else... How many times when men or women talk about their bad ex, do people think or realize they're only hearing one side of the story🤷🏼‍♀️
I agree this hating someone based off negative usually false assumptions of the opposite gender is utterly ridiculous, and such a waste of time/life... And time lost is something you can't ever get back.. There's good and bad people in life and unfortunately they come in both genders and sometimes dressed in sheep's clothing...
How to fix it should be as simple as treat others the way you want to be treated regardless of their gender rather more as a fellow human being🤷🏼‍♀️

[Asker]

Thank you, I just want to see change. I want to see people in healthy, loyal, committed relationships. I understand women feel scorned for the amount of bullshit men have pushed with their egotistical views and I feel like feminism 50+ years ago was to break that and provide more opportunities and not just a stay-at-home mom. Things are no where near perfect for women because inequality and injustice still exits. But I understand this world is not meant to be perfect for human beings. We try to look for perfection everywhere and once we reach a certain status or have money, it's rare to find people who are genuine and don't want to show off their life. All of these elements are just intertwined connections with how we treat each other. Males and females belittle each other, men do that with other men and women do that with other women.

I think once society realizes we can't strive for a perfect life and have it all, that status shouldn't matter, recognizing your true friends and family, maybe then things will change. Learning to respect each other. We don't have to all agree on the same thing and who knows how long it will take for change to occur. What I can do is still have hope that there are good people out there who have good morals and ethics.