I’ve noticed the last few years this has been coming increasingly common.
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Why do we put men and women against each other so much?
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I blame a lot of it on social media , filling our heads with nonsense , that all men our assholes and cheaters and players and all women are only after your money and can’t stay in a committed relationship or will cheat as well, What most people don’t realize is social media is a money making platform , it was designed as a marketing tool , filling our heads with garbage so we buy into shit , I remember when my ex and I were having problems in our relationship, the second I went onto Facebook I would come across memes that said if your partner is doing this to you , it means they are cheating on you and sadly the list of things was pretty spot on , on how my ex was treating me , making me feel that she was up to no good and probably cheating on me , those memes are mainly created by Divorce lawyers that our looking to make money. So the main reason Men and women and relationships our struggling is because most of us people feed into shit we see or hear about happening to other’s and made up bullshit , Sadly the only way a relationship can survive these days , is both partners have to make each other their top priority over everyone or the relationship will fail period , The Trust between Men and women has taken a turn for the worst , Most people today our not content anymore , instead of focusing on what they have right in front of them they tend to feel like they are missing out on what they don’t have in front of them , and feel they deserve better than what they already have , why so many relationships fail , is because people in general our selfish people and only really care and want what they feel is best for them, instead of fixing what is broken they run to someone else thinking they are going to save them. Sadly most people live their lives in an alternate universe grasping onto something they don’t have instead of grasping on what they already have , Sadly relationships and marriages are going to become a thing of the past if Men and Women don’t stick together , it’s just going to turn into chaos, if people do not learn how to remove their inner selfishness and start making their relationships their main priority. I no longer jump into a committed relationship with a girl mainly for this reason , I have been burned to many times by having my heart shot on by selfish girls’ that only really care about themselves , It’s harder for me to give my heart 100 percent to a girl that isn’t giving back the same in return , all I can do is treat her the same way I want to be treated , if she chooses to walk away , I let her go , I can’t love someone that doesn’t want to love me back the same , Honesty is the only thing that attracts me today to a girl , If a girl is honest with me I don’t care about what problems she is facing but sadly most people in general can’t be honest because most people do not know what they truly want
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Christian Domestic Discipline is a male led relationship where the Head of Household is in charge of the Taken in Hand partner. There are rules and consequences for the TIH and punishments for breaking rules range from spanking, corner time and lines. This differs from a BDSM relationship as the punishments are non sexual though sex often happens as a direct results of the punishment.
Christian Domestic Discline teaches a disobedient willful wife to respect her husband, learn submission to her husband, respect herself, her family and live a happy Christian way.
Respect and Submission are of particular importance in a marriage because the standard marriage vows for the bride always included the phrase “to love, honor and obey” her husband.
Many women will admit, if only to themselves, that when spanked to tears they feel relief and love, knowing that their HOH is willing and strong enough to hold them accountable for their actions. When a woman admits this she is also admitting that she respects her HOH, and his decisions, that when she is punished it is never out of anger but out of love and the responsibility that her HOH is in charge. Some women will start to cry even before the spanking begins, because she realizes that she is to be punished and is sorry for her actions and the pain that is sure to follow. When a woman just starts to cry when spanked doesn’t mean to stop because you see tears, you would not stop baking a cake when it starts to rise, No this means that the spanking is starting to have the desired effect providing the disciplinary value and corrective behavior that she needs.
All women are not the same, some women can take a lot while others will cry with hardly an effort. Remember that she is not in charge but the man is, and with him lies the amount of discipline that will be effected upon her bare backside, if the man allows his wife to stop the spanking he is not in charge and the respect she desires and needs will be lost, make sure to follow through giving her a painful enough spanking to bring her tears and allow them to flow freely, she will remember that you are the HOH.
Tears allow her feminine side to come out and breaks down her resistance, shame from being in a vulnerable position, naked over her HOH’s lap, being soundly spanked. It is vital to continue the spanking when you notice her tears, and not to stop before the punishment has the desired effect.
Remember that the spanking is part of her submission and when she submits to such an obviously painful and humbling experience she will behave better and you will see a that her attitude towards you as her HOH is greatly improved, not because she is fearful of the spanking but out of respect and the knowledge that you will protect her at all times even from herself and her actions.
What are some examples of domestic discipline rules? Well various couples have their own rules that generally centre around honor and obey as well as other Christian martial values.
Her Rules
1. Not to be late. not late for dates. not late to Work, not late to Church, not late to Dr appointments
2. Don’t cause our checking account to be overdrawn (one spank per dollar charged to us)
3. Spending limits (not more than 200.00 without discussing it with him. or 300 dollars in day (except at Christmas time)). Definitely no running up debts.
4. No cussing in front of children
5. No yelling at her husband.
6. No nagging, no bitching.
7. keeping promises to him or other people.
8. No lying. Including lies of omission (example not telling him she got a speeding ticket, to avoid a spanking)
9. If out with girl friends, be home by 10:00 or call him.
10. Don’t break traffic laws or any other law. (Including God’s laws (ten Commandments, plus))
11. Accepting her punishment without a fuss, cooperating with my spanking
12. No spanking of the children without a warning or breaking a standing rule for them. (Don’t spank while mad)
13. Never be intimate with other men including sex, flirting, sexting etc
14. Be respectful of all people, most of all her husband.
15. Go to Church every Sunday (Church and Sunday School)
16. Dress modest yet attractively everyday
17. Workout 3 times per week.
18 cook healthy meals
19. Do the housework
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I don't think there is any more "pitting" of men against women than there's ever been. Perhaps you've noticed it more because of the job you have or your studies or life situation.
Ever since women began working outside the home they've been "pitted" against men who had the sole reign and power of earning money, status or both through work and exploration outside of having and raising babies.
So any woman who invaded "male space," or threatened male authority was considered "against" men. This goes back thousands of years to, perhaps in our imaginations, the woman who was strong and skilled enough to use a spear and take down a woolly mammoth, or track as well as the men in her tribe, or who WANTED to do those things...
Today, it is more likely to be women who are in STEM or construction or architecture or work with heavy equipment, on oil rigs, are commercial pilots. These women are few because, more than likely, their dads never encouraged them to choose difficult careers and their moms didn't work outside the home. And the men on those career paths don't consider women their equals and aren't particularly supportive of women colleagues.
Outside of work, this inequity exists also. It manifests itself differently. Men and women argue over who should pay for a date when the woman is gainfully employed. Or they don't argue and fall back on traditions of man pays for everything because women don't make enough.
And it is annoying that women and men in the same jobs aren't paid the same. A "man" supports a family. A woman doesn't. Ridiculous.
This has to do with slow sociological change. It's happening. About as fast as an ice age. But the change from my girlhood to now has been amazing. Let's hope it keeps going apace.
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Couple reasons that I can see, though I'm sure there are more:
- Clash of historical precedent with modern trends: I mean we're more or less seeing the process of gender roles being redefined/removed, which, of course, creates a major clash between "sides" as society navigates the balance of biological reality (ex. ability to be pregnant, average physical abilities like strength or flexibility, etc) with modern values such as gender equality. It seems dramatic because it is. When I'm feeling positive I look at it as society's growing pains.
- Speed of information flow: Why does anything get so strong pitted against anything else nowadays? Because we have so much information. You can build something at least resembling a decent argument because all you need to do is find a few good examples/pieces of support and allow your reader to be flooded by so much information that it will be almost impossible to determine if your examples are truly representative of a broader reality. Find the readers to accept your argument in the first place and you have a following, let it snowball and you have an all-out sociopolitical conflict. Always use your access to information responsibly and with an open mind.
- We don't. We've created discussion spaces for conflict, but if you consider how most men and women interaction day-to-day, the conflict you see on the internet or in the news really isn't represented. What we're seeing are the loudest voices in a crowd of millions who just happen to have more of a platform than they used to.
Hope that helps!
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Sociology is kind of my wheelhouse but even I don't want to try to tackle this question. It's too much effort for little point.
Best we can do is be aware of it, recognize the change in society, and constantly remind ourselves and each other that it serves no one to continue.
Respect, appreciate, and love each other. It'd be a much nicer world.
And my advice on how to do that—just as Mother Theresa has said (not that I'm at all religious)—is: one person at a time. Don't think about the enormity of the situation. Think about people you already know, and knew people you meet, and even strangers on the internet. How you interact is a choice. Every day, every person, it's a choice.
I've made the difference in several peoples' lives that I met on the internet. It can be done.
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Well the world would be a pretty boring place if men and women never fought with each other. Our differences is what keeps the tension and excitement going. Nature probably made us like that for a reason. Opposite attract and come together to reproduce strong willed childern.
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Not a fetish, but it's obvious what a pregnant woman has been doing, and that's sexy.
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It is in our nature, apparently.
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The answer is Feminism.
The lie is that "Feminism is about equality", but to the extent that was ever true, it stopped being true in the early 1960s, when the leaders of the Feminist movement were taken over by Marxists, who cared nothing about equality, but rather wanted another way to push the Marxist agenda: the destruction of western culture. Specifically, the (Marxist) job of Feminism was to destroy the nuclear family, which was correctly identified by Marxists as being a huge pillar of strength in western culture, and thus had to be taken down at all costs.
The overall goal of Marxism is to destroy western culture and capitalism down to the last brick, so that the people will vote in Marxism to replace it. This has been Marxist theory since the 1920s, recognizing that democracy and capitalism was far too strong to be directly replaced by Marxism, and had to be annihilated first, before Marxism could come in and replace it.
If you research the leadership of the Feminist movement over the last 40 years, you'll find that nearly all of those women have publicly admitted to being Marxists, with the ones from the last 15-20 years being vocal and proud about it (40-50 years ago, this was kept secret, but it's no longer considered necessary to keep under wraps). Similarly, you'll find that the leadership of "wokeness" (DEI/ESG) and of racial and gender diversity are also Marxists, most of them openly. Those are people attacking western culture through other means - modern Feminism is specifically designed to attack relationships between men and women as a whole, specifically to destroy the nuclear family but ideally to make it impossible for men and women to have ANY kind of relationship. The less we can work together, the weaker western society becomes, and that helps Marxism achieve its goals.
This all derives from the ultra-wealthy, who live in constant fear of the middle class - who in a democracy have the power, due to numbers - to take away their power and privilege. The ultra-wealthy get together all the time, and they don't care about race or gender or age - when they get together, they talk about POWER, and how to keep it, and the middle class is their nightmare. Marxism eliminates the middle class - under Marxism, you have a very small number of ruling elite - the billionaire class - and you have penniless, powerless serfs who are all equal - equally poor and equally unable to improve their circumstances. Dirt-poor serfs, even in huge numbers, don't have enough power to threaten the elite. That's why the elite support Marxism - the ONLY reason, in fact.
That everyone else needs to suffer is unimportant. They are used to having unlimited power, and they fully intend to keep it, at any cost to us.
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Distraction, mostly. It's the same reason we see so much push pitting black against white and old against young- the powerful movers and shakers of society, most of whom work behind the curtain and stay hidden, want us at each other's throats, to keep us from theirs.
Back in 1983, 90% of American media was owned by 50 companies, and many people were concerned about how that kind of consolidation affected public perceptions of... well, pretty much everything. Today, that some 90% is owned by FIVE companies. With that kind of power, you can change the course of history.
Why do you think so much fuss is being made about transsexuals, who make up a tiny fraction of the population? Why does Congress, the only group of people who could actually FIX our abysmal immigration laws, spend its time bitching about the situation on Twitter instead of actually working out legislation? Why was the horrid response to Covid so divided among medical professionals, but so uniform among the general population?
Because the consolidation of power has proceeded apace, and that's always dangerous- ALWAYS. Who's got the power? It doesn't really matter. What kind of power is it? Doesn't really matter.
On a society-wide level, it's almost too big an issue for an individual to tackle- the one thing you can reliably do is to be fair and kind to everyone you come across, and encourage others to do the same. Always be skeptical of claims that someone is evil, and try to best to understand where they might be coming from. Heed the words of the goblin Big Ears on the subject:
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I think it largely started when women entered the workforce. As a kid, I remember adults talking about how woman wanted workplace norms to change because most of the environments were very "manly" lots of lewd comments, jokes, playful hazing.
I vaguely remember people having all sorts of reasons why woman in the workplace would cause a problem which was probably more about people losing their jobs for things that were acceptable before they joined the corperate workforce.
I've always said that the last 70 years have been the biggest societal change humanity has ever faced. We still haven't found the "equilibrium" so to speak which was enjoyed over 100 years ago or even back in the 50's.
In short, I think it mostly stems from woman joining the workforce and played out from there. I also remember in elementary school they used to do the boys half of the class vs the girls which of course got us excited about things we wouldn't have normally been enthusiastic about. I assume this was done to give young girls more confidence in a changing world.
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Well we were told that we were all created equal and we are I become one with you you become one with me we become one with the universe and we are equal and if everybody does the same thing we are all equal
But one day a girl beat up a boy and that boy got pissed off so he had to start calling her names he started telling lies about her and then there was a competition
The girl said I kicked your ass fair and square and the boy being such a puss he had to lie and cheat his way out of it to make himself look better than he thinks it is because of his ego and then that's where titles started everybody had to have titles and here we are today with the same b*******
The same type of right fighters same type of egos but now you have loud mouth men and women because one has to be better than the other
What I say to that is go for it if that's how you love living your life and that's how you love spending your time doing nothing but spending in a circle and you miss the whole point go for it
I won't even waste my time standing at this sidelines watching I could care less the people that I have in my life we are one we are equal that's how I treat my friends that's how I treat everybody it doesn't matter who you are but if you have to be better than me that's okay I accept that and you can do that just keep your titles to yourself because I don't want to hear it as I'm walking away because I don't need that in my life it's a waste of time and energy I know it's right I know what's wrong and I like treating people the same way I like to be treated so we are equal no matter what -
Its all written and explained in...
"Agenda 2030"
Anyone who doesn't know what "agenda 2030" stands for... should be really start doing some research inmedietly.
Agenda 2030 are the plans that need to be completed and realised by the year 2030.
Agenda 2030 describes everything whats happening right now and also some things which will be forced upon us in the next few years to come.
They really wanne change the whole society as we know it today completely! Everything is going to change! Everything!
But definitely THE most concerning plan that is written in agenda 2030 is the...
The depopulation plan thats needs te be realized in the year 2030!!!
Believe it or not...
but they wanne bring the current human population of 7/8 billion people down to approximately 1,5 billion people by killing them on a massive scale.
Many many people are going to die in the near future and they dont want people to reproduce anymore either at this point in time so thats why they are trying to devide men and woman as much as they can! They dont want us to make new babys because according to "the elite" we are with to many already.
From today untill 2030 you will see that the media is going all-in trying to devide men and woman as much as they can in each and every way! - 545 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
If you think this has only been in recent years then you must've forgotten the early 2000s. News programs back then like ABC Primetime, 20/20, and Dateline were actually having complete 'battle of the sexes' hour programs, and you had movies like What Women Want and that other movie where a woman was inside a man's body (can't remember the name) so she could see 'how men really are.'
You probably won't agree and that's fine, but the battle of the sexes has always been because of feminists. They started the competition to prove that women could be like men or better. And men tried to battle back. Feminists have also always tried to use statistics that could make their gender look better, superior, smarter, less violent, etc. than men. Men have definitely participated in trying to fight back, but I doubt they ever would have if feminists didn't get all that stuff going.
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It’s sad. I’ve never seen myself as being against or vs. women. I’ll be the first to recognize that men need women. And no not just sexually. We need women in our world to be a check and balance. Men and women are different for good reason. We are a check and balance on each other. Men and women have different traits and roles. That doesn’t make one inferior to the other, or superior. Men and women are literally each other’s complementary opposites and counterpart in literally everything. I love it 😍
God placed male and female on this earth for his perfect design. I think the relationship and respectful nature between men and women can and should be beautiful when both recognize the importance and reality. But it takes maturity, selflessness, and self humility to realize it.
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I blame social media since it turned into platform to encourage people to compare themselves. There are many videos, clips and "talks" where men and women are compared without a proper context and they are often made to trigger people.
The problem with social media is that it gives a person a platform not because they are helpful or smart but because they are entertaining. That way lies and misconceptions and conspirancy theories are easy to be spread while the complex answer about how to improve relationships doesn´t get spread since it´s less entertaining. - 1.1K opinions shared on Relationships topic.
Because that's what the powers that be -- government, corporate media and tech companies, etc, are doing with everyone and everything. To wreck a nation, you must first get everyone fighting with one another, so they won't see what you're doing, until it's too late. The Soviet Union was founded the same way, a hundred or so years ago.
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Because so that many Industries can survive just for their daily profit margins. To put someone's gender over one another. Making them into sex icons.
Also using homosexuality as an excuse to make and accuse people of that gender making it seem like they're forsaken to the bible or that religious belief. Example men who have long hair and attend the nail and waxing salon are gay. That's not why gay men are gay. Which angers the gay crowd and is offensive to members of the LGBT community. That's awful and sad 🫥
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You’re sadly right unfortunately. It’s complicated (and the digitized world is making it much worse). But it started with too many radical feminists getting visibility and pushing their insanity. Their ideology has harmed innocent men who would of likely been happily married and been fathers in a different time era.
They jaded, hold grudges and fight back which leads to the rise of guys like Andrew Tate. But now men are getting caught up in their own heads because they don’t trust women. Then a semi decent woman gets distrusted/burned by a jaded guy. She gets upset at men in general. The vicious cycle continues.
Anyway I am not saying men don’t have any fault in this. But I have absolutely no doubt in mind that this highly destructive great divide between men and women was started by feminism. Those women didn’t care to think through the long term ramifications of their actions.
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A significant percentage of people are inclined to blame others for their own unhappiness, instead of accepting that life has its great difficulties and disappointments, but also it's opportunities for some pleasures and engagements, for nearly everyone... and instead of asking themselves what steps they can take to improve their own life. And blaming a group is a popular option, both because there are more opportunities to see one's "enemies" supposedly doing their evil work, and because a group is a more credible serious enemy or "cause of society's problems" than is an individual.
The men who like women, and the women who like men, probably have better things to do in their life.
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If everyone focused on common problems we would discover that the vast majority of those common problems are caused by fringe right wing politicians, and then those fringe right wing politicians would lose their power. So it is a whole industry (called 'think tanks') to come up "wedge issues" were half of the people can reliably disagree with the other half, and keep pushing those issues into the public. Gender issues are the easiest since the genders are statistically about 50/50 anyway.
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It is a common misconception that there are differences between men and women that create inherent conflict or competition. In reality, men and women have many similar goals, needs and strengths.
The idea of pitting genders against each other may stem from centuries of systemic inequality, where many cultures and societies have traditionally viewed men as superior to women. As a result, there are often preconceived notions about the roles and responsibilities of both genders.
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It’s a sad reality that we live in. And a lot of it stems from moving away from what traditionally was the roles of men and women.. not necessarily just in relationships but in general. Ladies aren’t ladies, they are monetizing there sexuality, because it’s easy money.. and so most men dont typically respect that.. (some) men are addicted to it and would pay for farts in jars are dirty underwear. And don’t get the respect from women because usually those men are fat, lazy, live in there moms basement are are broke, make enough to wish they could get a piece of what a woman has.. but no woman wants to date a man like that, and usually no man would get into a relationship with a hoe. So society is at a standstill
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Feminism pits women against men by telling them that men are bad and that they should never do anything just to please a man as that would somehow betray their fellow woman. These women then focus on their careers and proudly refuse to cook or clean while they rack up high body counts from hookups and situationships with Chad and Tyrone. So now you have a bunch of modern women who are useless to men outside of sex, are a huge risk to marry, and many of whom either hate or don't respect men. In response, men are increasingly starting to treat modern women how they deserve to be treated by either avoiding them (MGTOW) or recreational use only (Red Pill). Women who are more traditional and reject feminism are treated far better.
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