Boyfriend and I had a conversation and we both got frustrated and ended up crying. Healthy?

[appleciderviniger123]

He did nothing wrong, used kind words, was using his words clearly, wasn't yelling, used a soft voice, etc. He got frustrated and I seen a look in his eyes that triggered me into a emptional break down. I have had trama in the past I have delt with and haven't had a trigger that resulted in my crying without control and breathing heavily without a reason. My partner never seen one people and didn't know what to do so he held me and we cuddled until my heart rate settled down. We talked about it and he asked how he could help in the future. I said everything you did. Talked about what caused it and how nothing he did was wrong I just unexpectedly triggered after almost 7 years. My social battery and pushed a lot, hardly no food in me all day, lack of sleep and I drink a lot prior too which I think played a factor. He was so supportive.

My question is should I let him support me. Did I handle the situation alright? I'm thinking of doing a therapy session to determine why it happened and get to the root of it.

[PrettyPriya]

There is nothing wrong with anyone getting emotional. Certainly not over past trauma. That can be a very emotional thing. I think you did the right thing by opening up. It seems he was clearly effected by something and did the same.

The fact that you then settled and came to an understanding and he asked how he can be better and support you is incredibly mature for your age. Whether you allow him to support you is up to you.

That is something you need to think about and see what the benefits are. Personally, I would say yes, absolutely. To have someone to lean on and a shoulder to cry in is very valuable. If he is willing to do that for you, don't waste that opportunity, especially that he knows the situation. Best of luck to you both.

[Losalt]

I think that you both did great.
Supporting each other is a big part of being in a healthy adult relationship.
Just as long as you both know how to let the other know when you need a moment to yourself and can't handle being there for each other.
Think oxygen masks in airplanes.
You need to put on your own before putting one on the face of others, like a child.
You *need* to look after yourselves, and not just each other.
If you do that you'll be able to take enough care of yourself to be there for each other.
It might be a idea to bring him along to some of the therapy sessions sometimes, so you can work on things together.
As well as just sessions for him.
Both to help him deal with his own problems and to offload him when he helps you with yours.

Ps. Well done at being there for each other.

[ohshee]

I congratulate you I think it is great that you both were mature and you both kept calm and were there for each other a lot of people can learn a lot of things from you guys I think you're okay I don't think you need therapy I think you just need to communicate that's what you just did and it seemed to work right when you're there for somebody and no matter what is about as long as you could both keep it in control that's the most beautiful part about growing together is keeping it in control and not making it about one thing Express all your feelings like I said I just learned a lot I think everybody else will learn a lot to from reading your question very beautiful

[caring__1]

Both of you are young and inexperienced, so you'll have emotions you won't be able to explain or fully understand. The therapy session sounds like a great option. You'll be able to broaden your perspective to understand the dynamics and learn how to deal with similar triggers in the future. Your reaction was normal... so was his. Don't beat yourself up. It's just part of the growing process.

[appleciderviniger123]

Thank you as we both communicated too. I appreciate your reply

[caring__1]

You're welcome. Understanding the importance of communication shows me you're older than your years. Keep it up, and you'll like the results.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

You were holding that trauma in all them years
that is why it all came out that day and if you
feel comfortable with your boyfriend and you
having a conversation that resulted in frustration
and crying that is good don't feel bad and yes it's
healthy and you should let him support you.

[Anonymous]

Talking and sharing feelings etc is healthy.

Being self aware and working to identify and work through problems with the support of your partner is also healthy.

[appleciderviniger123]

Yes, that's the main goal be healthy and it's healthy to express but that was uncontrollable and I was self-conscious about it but talked through it with him. Wanted a different viewpoint to set my mind at ease. Thank you for providing that input for me

[CountryWanderer]

I think you both handled it well. Therapy is a good idea.

[Phoenix98]

Healthy also yeah see a therapist or st least talk to someone about what’s going on.

its not healthy or good to hold in or repress stuff.

[Jamie05rhs]

It sounds like he is a very good boyfriend. And yes, you should let him support you. ❤️

[Twalli]

I do the same thing when my girlfriend is crying. Usually it's due to a mistake I made. We always talk it out and don't get angry

[Waldoe]

sounds like a very healing and healthy conversation... "Hang on" to this Guy, he's a 'keeper'

[DizzyAster2]

You are 13, it's ok to cry.
Please see a professional if you feel you have trauma, even a school counselor

[lightbulb27]

Yea… good job. Explore it

[jshm2]

You both need adult supervision is all.

[In_Trance]

What was the subject?

[siseñor]

*vinegar