Even in sports, is it normal to worry about your partner?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend is my sparring partner too. Sometimes we still ask each other ''are you ok''? The answer is always a yes and then we continued with the practice.

Yesterday he had me worried. While we were doing our Randori (standing up sparring), we both fell during a throwing technique. His position for the throwing wasn't accurate and so I fell with him. During the fall, my right knee got bended and landed near his groin area. I got worried and asked if he was ok. He had a faster reaction though. He opened his legs wider and it missed by a bit.

Even though it's a combat sport, is it normal to sometimes worry for your partner.

[Anonymous]

Of course completely normal! I had an ex and step bro who wrestled and also sparred some. The groin is very very sensitive so I always worry about it on my partner and during their matches. It’s the one thing no guy can take no matter how tough they are and I always thought about how vunerable they looked in the singlets.

[Opinion Owner]

I think it’s worse with a boyfriend when he is in a match or tournament and he takes a strike there or worse loses bc of some unfair move. It’s awful when you have a boyfriend

[Asker]

yeah I really feel awful when men take a hit there during a match. If it was a contest and I were to accidentally ''won'' that way, I wouldn't accept that won. It seems so cheap and unfair.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah it’s illegal definitely and seems cheap but at the end of the day it is a part of the male body outside an official match with rules It’s a great move to learn for self defense. It’s a balance I wanted make sure my boyfriend knows how to defend himself there. Lots of guys are naive and overconfident.

It’s just a vunerbility on their body but I think we should still learn to use it against them if we ever need to. Honestly even though the rules say we didn’t win sometimes I consider it a win anyways. If the guy is groaning on the ground it’s hard to not feel like he just lost.

I feel bad for them though it seems even the toughest guys can’t take it. I have tried to teach the guys I care about self defense moves for that area but I don’t know if it does any good. PM? I liked your question so I think you can find and follow me that way

[laraWM]

Of course it is definitely normal, I mean especially if he is your boyfriend. You don't want to hurt him and accidents happen.
It is really good to worry, because it means you are concerned with your partners health

[vlx-na]

Is he sparring or participating it competitions without groin protection? Then you're very right to worry, lol.

[MrMighty]

It should be normal but I can’t count how many times a girl has hit me there then just laughed about it.

[EllaNella]

bro, it would be normal to worry about your sparring partner anyways. what you're asking is basically "is it normal to have basic human empathy"

[Changiis07]

Yes of course! Worrying is caring

[TenkRealist]

Yes it is normal

[AssholeNumberOne]

Course.