Why do some people tend to play mind games in relationships?

[Anonymous]

Okay, let's say you get what you want, what's the point of manipulating and wasting others' time?

[KirbyFan246]

There are mind Games, and then there are tests.

From my experiences, What I have found is that women want to verify that they have found a good partner, mainly because they value their safety, and their future. They are also hyper aware of what they want from a relationship, and will see if you are consistent with what you want with a relationship and your values. It's for these reasons amongst others, that some mind games and tests are acceptable, and oftentimes strengthen the relationship, as long as the person does not overwhelm their partner with too many at once. Certainly, it's one thing to test the waters, and it's another to be a trickster.

In a lot of ways, you're doing the same thing when you date (I'm speaking in the context of long term relationships (with short term relationships, women just like to play around a bit and humor a "chase" for their attention and attraction, but here, I'm not talking about that, because casual relationships tend to be a waste of time, because they don't last)). There's always going to be tests to determine if you're a good partner or not, and the way you pass them, is by being yourself without having a swelled ego, and working together with your spouse to determine whether or not you would make a great team in marriage together.

Now, some girls will go overboard with the games, which is what I'm sure you're referring to, but keep in mind, everybody who is serious about relationships will test their partners in some shape or from. It's not like per say, if you were at the Airport, and you're being scanned and patted down by the TSA every time you get on a plane. Relationships are also not like academic exams, I would compare relationship testing to that of a private investigator's work, poking around, closely inspecting their environment, and learning about the world around them, and regarding the job at hand (mystery, aka, the relationship in this context). In relationships, we're all sleuths, learning about our partners, trying to figure out the little mysteries of our partners that most people overlook and don't see nor care for, as well as solve any confusions, frustrations, issues, and more that we previously didn't know about before, establishing a good relationship with what was a previously known Stranger.

This is why it's a great idea to date friends of friends offline, because then you have connections to them, and often why most online dating is bad (not completely obviously, you can still find love online, Check out Hinge if you want to learn more), and there's less of a need to play mind games, when you know the person. Usually girls will test more with guys they don't know well, and tend to take it easy more when they know you as if you're family, because you've developed a trust through consistency, and responsibility, and offering the ability to be vulnerable. That being said, they will still test you, even if less and less, so you NEED A THICK SKIN, you can't get easily upset over small stuff. This is the kind of strength, women appreciate, where you have your head in the game, and you're unwavering in your commitment to them, even if under fire or tense pressure from time to time. If that's a problem for you, you need to sort that out alone first.

[GatewayRealm]

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[GatewayRealm]

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[Anonymous]

What do you mean by mind games?

People who play mind games are probably narcissists who don't really love the person.

If it's when getting to know someone, like playing hard to get, then most of us do play mind games like that to some extent, because girls know that guys like the chase.

And if it's trying to make someone jealous, it won't make them develop more feelings for you, it will only hurt their ego, or repel them completely.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Because to some people, it's a game... They don't think or care about others feelings, just what they want or get from manipulating people. And they don't think about or feel bad about wasting other people's time, cuz they only care about their time. .
In other words, usually selfish people who only think/care about themselves not anyone else

[CallmeTheKnight]

They don't really care about well being of others. They just seek to get what they want and that's all. It's not a real relationship if you have to try and figure out what their words and actions mean.

[FictionalCharacter]

If it’s too good to be true, I question it and put it to the test. Cause I’m not used to kind behavior.

[Guy13]

Because we are fallen being. When left u to ourselves we self-destruct. We do not improve despite what culture wants you to think.

[mobiusforniner]

Because they watch too much tv and think relationships with mind games equal passion. In other words, inexperienced and immature.

[TommyMountainFigure]

I agree.. there is no point.. I don't play them and have no time for those who do!

[Anonymous]

I don't know.. it’s so exhausting but at the same time.. it’s hard to not play it because the other person does it too.. more over people like mystery so they just do it to be mysterious sometimes..

[Anonymous]

Some do it because they did not get what they want or do not know if they are what other people want.

[dustybiker]

Immaturity.

[Anonymous]

People who do that are very immature.

[sheikalana]

They are immature.