Why some women play mind games with guys?

[Anonymous]

Like for example they like to make the guy jealous, they have to play hot and cold (they like him one day and the other day they are ignoring him), they get mad at you if you don't pay attention to them even if it is her fault and so on and so forth.

I mean what is wrong with these women?.

[art84]

I think most women just like the chase, they want a guy to get the hint that your gonna have to go after her in order to be with her. You have to pull out all of the stops to get her and make her take notice. The example about liking them and then ignoring is true, I had a girl that paid all sorts of attention to me, flirted with me and smiled whenever she saw me. We spent time together that I saw that she had feelings for me. After I told her that I wanted to ask her out, things got awkward to a point where she would ignore calling me back and not planning to reschedule dates. She never talked to me just avoided conversation but would always give me this stares. She has shy so I guess it was hard for her to express how she felt or come to my face and tell me. I got upset with her games so to speak, moved on to another girl. I just felt like I wasted my time with this girl and she just didn't know what she wanted in a relationship or just wanted to be friends.

[drumr2009]

I don't think mind games are intentional.

I think most women are indecisive, confused and shortsighted, so that every action is poorly made and second guessed till they drive the guy nuts.

[danielle_says]

Well about the making you jealouse we want to see if you care and make ourslves seem hard to get (or keep). Girls are hot and cold. Baisacally we want to make thing interesting and see how you act towards things. Sometimes its a test. Our heart is in the right place. Were to scared to be upfront and say...Do you care about me so we make you jealous to see if you do ect ect...

[ACoate3]

@danielle_says

Why are you too scared?

[CatholicVirginia]

We want to see you chase us. If you chase us, you actually like us. If you don't, you were just looking for a booty call and we have saved ourselves a lot of tears and pain. Really, just show us you care. It's not a turn off with 99% of girls. We feel that we can get hurt very easily and we have to defend ourselves aginst that.

[Asker]

But that is so inconsiderate, girls are only thinking about themselves and never think about what the guy might think about all of what she is doing.

[CatholicVirginia]

That's very single-minded. We do nothing but try and imagine what you're feeling. But since, by tradition, women get hurt more often than men, the only way we can help you is to give you a chance and some encouragement along the way if you care enough to continue to chase after us a bit.

[Asker]

Who sayd that women get more hurt than men for tradition? I am sorry but that is not true at all. Maybe it comes out like that because it is more acceptable for women to say that they are hurt instead of men. Something else that I am wondering, how is making somebody else jealous, playing hot and cold, ignoring you encouraging and also not self-absorved? I am not sure how you think of what a guy thinks doing that.

[CatholicVirginia]

The traditional stereotype is that women get hurt more often. And everything has to be in proportion. You don't make the guy who like feel like crap, but if he gets a little jealous once in a while - a little - then it's reassuring.

[underdog10]

Thats just dating reality huh? Ugh I hate the games. But you're right girls pull out the games and put up the guard because they don't want to get hurt. Ugh you're such beautiful, mysterious, and F***ING ANNOYING creatures! :)

[slipslender]

people want to feel loved. if I feel like you don't want me anymore, of course I'm going to try to get your attention or make you jealous. it may be petty, but it is what it is.

[Asker]

What happen to talk now days?

[slipslender]

sometimes it's awkward, puts you in a vulnerable position. no one wants to expose their insecurities.

[Asker]

So men are suppose to put up with women's insecurities?

[slipslender]

wow. why are you so angry? I'm just trying to tell you that the situation isn't always black and white. no one's telling you to 'put up' with anything. you can, however, have some empathy... if this is too much for you, well, you'll always have your right hand. :)

[Asker]

I am not angry, I am just answering based on what you wrote anyways. You say women play games because they are insecured and can't talk face to face. I am just wondering what I am suppossed to do, becayse to me it seems that they are just games that men are suppossed to put up and not say anything about it.

[slipslender]

then say something about.

[slipslender]

then say something about. confront her.

[slipslender]

about it*

[Anonymous]

We're not the only ones who do that. Men play mind games with women also. That's how dating is. Most people play games.

I play games because I want to get rid of guys who only want easy girls. I am very picky with who I date and I only want a guy who cares enough to keep dating me even if I don't do everything he wants (ahem, sex, instant gratification). I don't appeal to men who want instant gratification and that's my intent. I would never intentionally hurt a guy and I feel like you're taking it way too seriously. Women have to look out for ourselves *SELF PRESERVATION* because no one is going to watch out for you like you will yourself. I am not just gonna fall into a guys lap like a present just because his ego is hurt that he's not getting what he wants fast enough. That's not my problem, I don't want to be hurt.

[Asker]

Again with the inconsideration, you are only thinking about yourself and you don't think about the other person what he thinks about all of this. Seems to me you just want to manipulate a guy to test him what his intentions are, the most useless thing in the world. You still see 50% of marriages getting divorce and people break up all the time. Playing games won't get you anywhere, trust me.

[Opinion Owner]

No one is going to think about you as much as you think about yourself. You are assuming that every guy a woman meets is going to be an honest well-meaning chap. Well welcome to reality that is not the case. I HAVE to protect my heart, feelings and emotions because many men out here won't. In order to find the right guy unfortunately you meet a lot of jerks and game players along the way. I don't care about your opinion because you just want women to be easy and naive to make things easier for y

[Asker]

Do whatever you like, but just think that players now what you are doing and good men don't.

[Opinion Owner]

Good men aren't stupid. They know there are a lot of players out there. A lot of good men are cautious in the beginning too, doesn't make anyone a bad person. A player is someone who misleads someone and uses them, I don't do that and good guys don't either

[Asker]

You see your statement doesn't make sense, because you are saying that men and women are both playing "coy" or hard to get to not get "hurt". With that in mind no body will make a move and hence the reason why good men don't have girlfriends or why girls don't end up with good men.

[underdog10]

I loved what you said, I'm SUPER confused with this one girl now and I told her I'm good at making girls let their guard down (which I am) ha ha and I think I shot myself in the foot because I think she put up a super guard ha ha because she said she had been hurt in the past. And yeah like she won't reply to my texts all the time but she'll text me later and sometimes she'll just ignore me completely and its not that she doesn't like me she's just playing super games and I hate it lol.

[ShootingStar5]

Most of the women who play games like that fall into one of two categories...

1. They're insecure and feel they need to play games in order to keep their guy interested.

2. They're just immature and enjoy messing with people's heads.

[internet_guy]

they like attention or they like messing up a guy's mind for fun...i would definitely stay away from women who play mind games

[Anonymous]

I play mindgames merely because it seems that if I don't, I won't get anywhere and people will leave me alone forever and I'll be alienated. I do not know if I have come to the same result or not.

[toulouse]

Why do some guys?

[Asker]

Sorry to be rude, but this doesn't have anything to do with the question.

[toulouse]

Its a comment. I want the opinion of a guy who thinks women play games. I would like to know why you think guys do.

I think some people play games because some people freak out. I do not think its right. I think that is mostly why. Some people make it very difficult to be straight forward-they say they like directness. -Smplicity. Then they get mad when you have a rational discussion. I think some people play games because some other people do. So I would like to know why you think guys do.

[Asker]

I think guys play games because they don't want you to play games on them, they don't want to seem desperate and needy. However the biggest reason why is to deceive you and get into your pants, I mean if a guy said "hey I really like you, you are really hot, do you want to go and have sex with me?" what would you say to him?, 99% of women will say no I am sure.

[toulouse]

Yea I would say yes-If I wanted to have sex with him. If I did not I would not. Does not matter what he says. I know if I like a guy- talking is a small part. Respect spirit ethics compassion humanity etc

Thats not a game- just lying.

What do you mean?They do not want women to- how do you stop a game with a game? If you do not want to seem needy or pathetic then do not act pathetic. Dignity is important for everyone. I do not think playing games makes anyone look dignified-makes you look six.