For instance, she really finds a guy exciting, uplifting and he might be in her social circle, possibly periphery versus day to day friends who text all the time about general things. So she's generally always very excited to text with him and meet up. Let's say they met when either of them were in a relationship and now she's single ok. Sometimes they will come online and reply instantly or else reply instantly if you reply to them initiating.
Now they do this on occasion and please explain it:
1. Read your whatsapp message and thus you see it is blue ticked.
2. They don't reply then. BUT they clearly come on whatsapp often enough possibly replying to others as their "last seen" time keeps updating.
3. They reply later as if nothing happened.
I mean isn't it slightly disrespectful to say the least? Wouldn't you not "read" the message until you're going to reply. You can't be that busy to not be able to reply to someone you care about and maybe who's trying to flirt (a guy they thus like to some extent) and someone they know, for a long time can you?
4. WHY would they be texting others and delay you if you are close or special to them? And if you don't do the same bluetick and delay replying to them back at them?
5. For instance, it's hard to have a conversation if one person is replying IMMEDIATELY most of the time then suddenly pulls this flaky behavior now and again. And you put pressure on the polite participant to then wonder whether they text back immediately when you do reply. Given they don't play mind games, then does it help flirtation?
Calling them out on it feels awkward and like you're the bad boy?
Or to drop out of a conversation mid convo. Often speaking to people you care about less (not necessarily people you are going to bang either).
If it's a sweet girl and not some attention seeker why do this?
And what can a guy do.
YET AGAIN, this is not a new girl, please read the details, she obviously likes the guy otherwise she would never reply which is NOT the case.
I think it boils down to the fact that some people (whether it is a girl or guy who does it) are just RUDE. It's not the fault of the waiting texted, but the fact that the other party lacks courtesy. It's most upsetting though when a sweet or innocent girl does it.
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I met the same type of girl, or perhaps the same girl.
She was in a relationship, loved texting me and other guys. Replied Immediately at times, but ignored at others.. The way you describe her sounds like her to a tee! She is also single now.
I am still trying to figure out what happened in my case.
Either she is using you for attention, or she just wants a texting buddy and nothing more because she used her phone 24/7.
The best thing to do is not care about it. If she doesn't reply, don't worry about it or her. Just talk to have fun and be friends, but don't expect more.
I am curious to know if its the same girl. What letter does her name start with?
Where about do you live?
The uk. Haha I see your point, it's crazy right!
Yeah when she had a boyfriend, she used to text/initiate a lot more. She certainly replied very quickly and seemed quite affectionate. We did meet up group wise.
Since becoming single, the conversations are less often, but longer. She does genuinely seem excited when texting me. She initiates less, but replies tended to be instant and very very enthusiastic. I've only met her once since she was single (she had emigrated for work). She's just moved back so looking to meet up soon (it's been ages).
I noticed very recently, she's started to bluetick me and delay. It's really irritating and not polite in my opinion. I can't see how it's acceptable!
A different flaky girl, not this one, used to bluetick and essentially ignore, then text me a month later as if everything's normal huh!
Back to this girl though, what to do? I just texted to see when she's free after she herself said she hope's we get to meet up soon lol?
Girls are crazy?
Some of them are crazy.
The girl in my case was exactly the same.
Theory is she had a boyfriend, whom she didn't like but she had one. And she lived off the attention from other boys. She was on top of the world.
When they break up, that knocks her down a few pegs and she is very heart broken inside, doesn't care for tge attention anymore.
To her, the blue tick... she doesn't care about it... It has nothing to do with you, so try not to take it personally... She lives off her phone so its always up and down depending on what she is doing
Yeah thanks man, this actually does make me feel a bit better. I agree some must just be pure crazy.
I feel for you, it's pretty upsetting and hurts like hell when they do that. Personally I don't officially "read" a text/whatsapp until I'm going to reply. That's when I'm free. What I don't do, is read it, and thus show the person I've read it, and then proceed to text many other people (my last seen updates) and then reply to them later. That's so messed up.
On your theory, yes I guess it could be the case. Tbh I was unsure when I first met her that she had a boyfriend. I suppose it's good I didn't hit on her too overtly (we worked together at uni in an assigned master course group) since it turned out she did. She is generally a sweet and friendly person (lots of guy and girl friends). But there was a closeness between us that I don't think was there with others despite her knowing me for less time.
It's possible she's crazy/ungrateful, but I feel a bit lost... cont
Tbh when I heard she was single, I was a little excited/nervous. I noticed she probably was craving attention around that time (I didn't know she was single yet and besides she was living abroad) and essentially being slightly more flirtier than usual.
I'm just wondering what to do now she's moved back here. She seemed extremely excited to tell me about the fact she was and her replies are generally excited which is why it's so hard to decipher her behaviour. It's not like she's blanking me or showing zero interest.
I also think that they live off their phone. Her last seen time shows that as it updates frequently. I also realize you can't know her mood until you've texted her. But it seems perverse and over the top to "read" a text. bluetick and then delay for more than a day. I actually feel pretty offended at this point.
The fact she doesn't care makes me question if she is really sweet tbh.
What should I do when she eventually replies lol? It feels personal? I don't think I
did anything wrong?
Why would she say she hopes to see me soon and then blank my response having read it 10 mins later. I mean now it's been almost a week (she normally replies in minutes, an hour or at most a day). That's crazy?
I hear things like you have to f**k their friend lol.
I can't understand people's bad manners. I am a confident, attractive guy, and clearly she kept in touch and flirts a little, is excited in replying for some reason. So what on earth is going on with this phenomenon?
She's just texting you as a friend, don't look too much into it.
But then the excited replies and looking forward to meeting me etc?
So how should I text her? I still feel it's really sick of her to do that tbh. I wouldn't do that back or even to other girls tbh.
What to do if I asked her about her free time for when we can meet (given she originally said she hopes we can meet soon!) and she hasn't replied still? WTF?