Are American women more difficult?

[Anonymous]

As a foreigner that spent a good deal of time in the U.S. I found that European White women friendlier and less attitude , its almost had not to like them. They don’t play mind game, make you wait to try to make you want them more. You just feel everything from them is more genuine and lack of fakeness. They also know how to flirt and talk and be fun.

But I found American White women to be completely different from this just from many casual encounter with them. Now I’m familiar with the stereotype that American women are just more difficult.

There this American White girl that acted like she was interested on first encounter and we talked a bit and she been always staring at me like she likes me or something whenever she saw me. I think she been really into me Because I kinda gave up on her Because it felt like too much hassle to be into her Because it been hard for us to talk. And she reacted by acting sad and all.

Then she tried to show me she was really interested by going out of her way to chat with me. So I was like, “OK, I’ll keep this interest going.” But the lame thing was I arranged to talk privately with her when I need her help on certain things Because it was her job. But she never chit-chatted with me, nothing, just plain conversation like she’s not interested. (This is different from European girls, Because I been with ones that liked me and they knew how to push all the right buttons.) If she had been like, “hey how ya doing, how was your weekend……” If it were things like that, it would’ve been easier for me to ask her out for coffee or something. This kind of chit-chats that European girl been doing with me worked great for them.

I gave her several opportunities to show me some signs she was interested in private, but nothing. Then she still been acting like she wanted me by staring at me whenever she saw me. I don’t know what up with this girl, whether she’s dense or nervous or something? I been considering just giving up on her completely Because this had just been a hassle.

I just have a bad vibe about this. What the hell’s wrong with this girl? Do American girls just expect the guys to do everything even when they are interested? This feels like she could be more demanding than what I’m comfortable with. I mean I been good with European girls, why the hell should I downgrade to something more troublesome? It doesn’t really make sense. Sorry if this sound politically incorrect, but is this a sign of how difficult American women are?

When girls act genuine and friendly and be feminine , guy can’t help but like you? Why the hell do you think European girl are so damn popular with a good rep? Mind games and fakeness and unreasonable attitude would only make the guy hate you, not want you more. I have some small amount of experiences with girls who played mind games and I didn’t like them one bit. But American girls seemed like they haven’t been getting it. What’s up with this?

[CatherineTheSoSo]

First you're judging by one weird/shy girl with obvious social anxiety problems with a bunch of social butterflies who happen to be Europeans. That's not entirely fair.

Second, I don't think American women are entitled (I'm not American) but I /do/ think Europe in general has a much more lax view of sexuality, and especially the role of women in sexuality.

The age of consent there is 16 in most places, down to 14 in some. I know French girls who had their boyfriends sleep over at their house when they were 15, bringing him to breakfast the next day to meet their parents over scrambled eggs.

They have a French Awareness AIDs commercials of a cartoon gay boy exploring the gay world trying to find the love of his life, while riding penis-shaped roller coasters (NSFW) link

You try airing that in the States. (Btw its the cutest cartoon ever, I get teary-eyed every time.)

Nudity is openly accepted for all body types (especially those who are 50+), the topic of sex is never taboo, hell just watch their films - everything from incest to male rape is expressed freely without thought of pedophilia, 'rottening the minds of the youth' or screams by conservative freaks who are more interested in what you do with your body than what is happening with theirs. And if they are screaming it is not loud enough to actually affect things.

They are just much more frank and open about it so they are capable of taking it astride. There is no shame there, not like in the States and in some other countries where a woman is still called a slut for sleeping with more than 4 men, or a whore for expressing her sexuality in any open way.

[CatherineTheSoSo]

To further prove my point, here is the same ad by the same guy doing it from a women's perspective. Showing how a woman tries to find love and sexual fulfillment while trying to do it via safe sex.

link

[Asker]

There research that saids Ameircan women have been difficult and called for change. If you don't trust me, at least look at research. It saids American women rejects biological instincts and behavior. Europe also has been known to have better social connectedness, why do you think there a sharp spike in the rise of loneliness in America?

America got some serious social health problem! I'm not gonna get caught up in this wave of destruction, I tell you that!

[udolipixie]

Where's this research?

[Just-A-Person]

You shouldn't judge an entire population on one girl -___-''

You make the very obvious mistake of thinking she knows you like her. Staring at someone does not equal interest in a relationship either does making conversation. I stare at guys if they talk to me it's a natural reaction to look at who's in front of you/ talking with you and sometimes I just want to get to know someone so I chat them up.

I think your overreacting because you make it sound like she said something nasty to you when really she's just looking at you and trying to talk with you. Most girls are not willing to ask a guy out so if you want to know if she likes you ask her out.

[Asker]

She just treated me differently when she stared at me. Well why did she drop the sadness right after she got a good response from talking to me and she went out of her way to do it. And as soon as that happened, she was back to normal. She always been tilting her back to look at her whenever she sensed I might be around ever at a distance and she smiled at me, I haven't seen her do that to others.

Don't tell me she bipolar!

[Just-A-Person]

she's not bipolar she's just trying to seem more approachable because most girls want the guy to come to them. she's trying to seem friendly to you.

[dryad]

Something about capitalism makes me go from nice to bitchy in a hurry, or it's my red hair, or it's a defective european gene acquired from centuries of forefathers raping my mothers. . .oy, excuse me, I need to mute my volume again, another audio ad just came on. . .

Done. Now where was I?

[christian2724]

I'm not sure what it is. I used to listen to a talk radio show for men and the host swore by non-American women. They're friendlier, treat their men better, etc. In my experience I would agree as well.

I think American women are more entitled. Yes, she probably expects you to do all the work. There are some that are more like european girls though.

European girls seem a lot more sexy, they're comfortable being a woman. American girls... more argumentative, want to be spoiled, want you to work, paranoid. They don't do as much for the man, and they expect to be able to get fat and get a unisex haircut once they marry you. It's just strange.

Everyone is going to be all defensive, but they're just young college kids so wtf do they know.

[dryad]

Are you talking about Tom Leykis?

[christian2724]

Toooooooom LEYKIS. Really!? Take me out with a bong hit.

[Asker]

Thank you! I just don't wanna be f*cked-up like them ,that's all.

[Mesonfielde]

You don't have to be an american to do that, however it certainly is true that in America, it's actually PART OF CULTURE. If you check around on this site enough, you'll even see videos on "How to make him jealous" well reasonable people who don't care about female-male dominance and relationship leadership and just all in all genuinely love each other and aren't partially playing with each other; they DON'T do that.

So yeah she might just be a weirdo, she might be socially inexperienced, and she really might also just expect you to do everything because there really are girls out there who say "I was raised traditionally so I expect the guy to do everything."

[Anonymous]

I love America because it's the greatest country ever (but Obama is destroying it) and I do agree the women here can suck. I toured Europe and the people were so nice and I got laid everywhere I went. In America it's all about how you look, what you make, what you drive, how many Facebook friends you have, etc. No wonder why there are so many early 30's single people. Everyone is so damn picky it's ridiculous. Doesn't seem like people go for love anymore either, just materialism.

[Asker]

Thanks! I admire your patriotism! I like America too but I don't like the romance condition! If a woman wants you and money a big part of that. What happens if you ever encounter fiancial hardship? She gonna leave you to bang some other c*ck just because he's got more money than you and better off in the turbulent economy. That not love! That suppose to be a relationship you should value? No, I don't want something like that, it's garbage and vain!

[SocietysBomb]

I'm about as difficult as this origami Yoda link .. And as awesome.

[Mesonfielde]

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Cool.

[sadav]

So you're pretty difficult!

Cool. :)

[ihatework]

lol @ the origami yoda

[SocietysBomb]

link lol that one should work.

[SocietysBomb]

F***, it doesnt.

[Asker]

You have your beliefs and I have mine. What can I say?

[Anonymous]

I come from Europe myself and have been living in the US for 3 years. I can absolutely confirm that this is true: American girls are much more likely to play stupid games than the European ones. In fact, I can recall only a few girls who were completely honest with me (and I have a pretty large sample too).

[MikeK]

YES! American women are a colassal pain in the ass!

[udolipixie]

Cool the blame game.

All American men suck because this one guy stalked me.

[Asker]

Its not just one but many experiences. There is just a general difference supported by many other people and research. You are free to deny, no one can change how you look at data.

[udolipixie]

No one can change the data that 60% of American men cheat while only 40% of the women do.

That 68% of American people are overweight or obese.

Plenty of people have bad experiences with dudes.

[vptwarrior]

Suddenly thinking about taking up french and moving to france.

[Anonymous]

And they aren't worth it.