I've never been liked in my life, what makes me so undesirable?

[Anonymous]

No man has ever liked me in my entire life, all my friends have had bfs or guys have liked them in the past since like primary but no guy has attempted to talk to me or go off with me or even ask me out so I wanna know what makes me so undesirable and is there a way to make myself desirable?

[caring__1]

Rather than looking for a date, approach this from the other direction. Help people see you as a person rather than you as a date. Start out by involving yourself in a group activity. You can join a group that promotes an interest of yours or a service group. Take on a role of responsibility, so people can see what you can accomplish. Another option would be to volunteer for a non-profit. Volunteering is less limiting than employment. You can involve yourself in anything that interests you rather than just be stuck with your job. It's a good way to let people see you in action. Another option would be to check out internships related to your future career. That also has the advantage of developing contacts for future opportunities and often leads to employment. These options help you grow in multiple directions. You'll build your self-esteem and will be less likely to accept the first offer that comes your way. Discover yourself, so you don't end up endlessly forcing your square peg into a round hole. Introverts can be outgoing when they find a structure that works for them. Check out these structures, and see what works best for you.

[Tjw78]

I don't know you or your personality so I can't make any kind of analysis of your situation. How comfortable are you with yourself and how do you usually interact with people you have never met before?

[ManofHistory]

Dating and relationships are a bit of bitch sometimes. Can I ask a few questions to try and get a base understanding of you and why nobody has asked you out on a date yet?

[Asker]

As long as the questions aren't too harsh or too personal than I'm ok with you asking them!

[ManofHistory]

awesome, I promise not to go to personal or be harsh with them :)
Are you more social or introverted?
How would you consider yourself on the attractive scale (average to drop dead gorgeous)?
And finally, have you approached any guys you have been interested in?

[Asker]

I'd say I'm more intoverted but can be social once I get too know someone, I'm very loud with my mates, I'd say my face is pretty much average but have had a lot more compliments now then in the past after changing my appearance to make myself seem more attractive , I have asked out a guy once he rejected me but I was 8 at the time, after that I've never asked anyone out

[ManofHistory]

Hmm, ok.
And what would you say your access to guys has been (you have spent a lot of times with guys in the past and present or you aren't around them that much)?
Do you have strong opinions?

[Asker]

Well I'm currently in school so there's a lot of girls and guys around me but im not close to any of them or ever have been, and by strong opinions what do you mean?

[ManofHistory]

Strong opinions as in strong political opinions or religious beliefs? Basically, your opinions on subjects that might be controversial or might cause a strongly worded debate in a college class room, lol.

[Asker]

Well I do have some but most of the year has similar opinions also not many people know my political opinions either as I'm not that vocal with them also I'm not that religious either

[ManofHistory]

Well, I obviously can't say for sure why boys haven't approached you yet, but it sounds like they haven't really been given a chance to ask you out at this point. You are still young and sound like an appealing person for guys around you. Another possibility is your face is average, but that won't deter guys from asking you out as they mature more.

[Xwr6gff]

Creepy loser. Dont take his advice.

[Xwr6gff]

Superficial creepm

[ManofHistory]

@Xwr6gff wow, ok. May I ask how I was being a creepy loser and superficial creep?

[Xwr6gff]

By the questions asked. But nevermind me.

[ManofHistory]

@Xwr6gff Hmmm, I want to hear your opinion so I can try to be a better person and improve myself :). If I just ignore people that critic me then I can't do that effectively.
May I ask which questions you found the most creepy and superficial? I did ask about her looks once, but I think that was about it.

[Jamie05rhs]

@Xwr6gff Why are you attacking this man? He did absolutely nothing wrong. He was trying to help the poor girl.

[Jamie05rhs]

@ManofHistory You are not a creep. Don't worry.

[ManofHistory]

@Jamie05rhs Thanks :). I didn't think I did anything wrong, but when she said that I was a little worried that I had messed up. I am glad that you agree with me.

[Jamie05rhs]

@ManofHistory No prob, dude.

[serious]

Well, I don't think you are undesirable. The right man who can connect with you will like you for who you are and will find you irresistible.

[Guy13]

How about approaching a counselor who can walk you through your things better than anyone on here. Plus you can see a counselor in person. Best-

[Stevefiveo]

That is hard to say without knowing you. Maybe it is your looks?

[In_Trance]

It must be something you're saying or doing (or not)

[Anonymous]

Being too Fat will do it for me. I'll still be polite, but Sounds Harsh Right?

[Intothevoid666]

Are u physically unattractive?

[Asker]

I wouldn't say unattractive but I wouldn't say attractive either, more average plain face

[IsoUser]

I am just curious are you to abrasive a person?

[Anonymous]

You're emotionally unavailable.