Red Flags:
- doesn't pay his own bills
- doesn't have a job
- doesn't have non-video game hobbies (he can have a video game hobby, but it can't be his only thing)
- makes identifying as a feminist his personality (it's a lie!)
- has depression
- owns the same bed since high school
- doesn't work out
- has trouble asking for consent
- is cheap (not frugal, cheap)
- has bare walls
- likes or avoids conflict (both are bad to me)
- blocks people's tracks in Ticket to Ride when it offers them no benefit other than blocking someone else
- hasn't had a relationship before
Orange Flags:
- (personally, because I don't have enough in common to enjoy a relationship like this - this a preference, not a hardline) straight
- comes from privilege or doesn't understand privilege
- doesn't read or listen to books/podcasts
- is timid
- has trouble asking for help
- lies about what they're going to do and follow up
- complains, gets solutions, never enacts solutions, complains
I'm still trying to find all my red flags and things I want and don't want. It's a bit of a mess.
These are all qualities I identified in past partners and either hated or recognized they were flags but ignored them to try love.
Now, I will not entertain anyone - men, women, enbies - who trips my red flags.
Been there, done that, not interested.
This one is from my roommate that was gonna be by roommat buuut
-"If you have to ask, you can't afford it."
-Keep asking me for money, even when I'm not interested (at the time I wasn't)
-CALLIN' ME AND TEXTING ME BEFORE I'M EVEN AWAKE <-- main red flag
-says his bills needs to be paid.
This isn't boyfriend material for doing something like this by bugging tf outta me like I'm your mom or your girlfriend already is a red flag to me. I'm a singular rose of sourness for a reason.
Criticizing others women (like calling them a slut for the ways they dress or act or because they had plastic surgery or like to follow trends)
saying I'm different and better than others women than others women are slut or something, etc...
Criticizing and being negative in general / about everything , blaming everyone but himself / rejecting the fault on other all the time / crying people are assholes and always treated him bad / playing the victim, acting like everyone is mean and he's never done a bad things in life
Is jobless since many many months and always promise to find a job but never does 1 years after
Spend too much money while being jobless / having none Can't understand the words no and keep pushing There's others too but those are the first that come to mind right now Also is a liberal
Red flags:
Poor hygiene is the biggest red flagUnable to process his own emotionsNegative energy/moaning/overreacting Being in debt/living out of my pocket Having no idea how to cook/clean/tidy (or knowing how to do these things but not doing them) Materialistic Not being interested in sex Hot and cold behaviourOrange flags:Lack of ambitionChewing loudly when eatingBeing a momma's boy Lack of communication
Some red flags for me are...
If he has a lot of selfies on his social media, even worse if they are shirtless or flexing selfies.
If his profile picture is shirtless.
If I'm with friends and he only gives me attention and ignores my friends.
If he had a lot of girls on his snapchat.
I don't know there are probably more lol
A guy wanting to be her only friend.
A guy needing to know where she is, what she's doing, and who she's with at all times.
A guy who doesn't have any hobbies.
A guy who raises his voice or gets stressed easily.
I think a big one for me is when someone questions your reasoning if your choice doesn't agree with theirs. It could be something as simple as favourite food but it could also be bigger stuff like kids.
asks you what your favorite sex position is before any other question
If you're horrible during the good times and even worse during the bad times.
I ignore every red flag possible tbh
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