Is it better having loved and lost at love than never been loved at all?

[mobiusforniner]

Yes

No

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I agree its better to love and have lost. I've had three failed relationships. And i learned something new from each one, not just finding ways to help myself move on (new hobby to distract myself from the emotional loss), but I've learned more about myself and other people. Id rather have the pain than perpetually wonder "what if?"

[Anonymous]

I have only loved one person my whole life. That love was really young for a 13 year old. Ofc it didn’t work out, to people it seemed stupid and obviously fate played with us really bad. I called it quit! I hurt him so much and as much as I act cold and pretend like our relationship wasn’t important, I know very well that wasn’t true.


I’m in my early 20’s now. I have dated other people but all my relationships so far have been a mess because I can’t seem to fall in love anymore. So I would say it’s better having love and lost!


As much as mine was painful, he was still my comfort, the reason why I could carry on and the reason why I know what love is.

[meetkitty123]

My very first love died in a car accident on his way to see me I was waiting for him we had a date I waited up all night til dawn pacing and calling him. I found out at the funeral that he had an engagement ring with him for me his entire family knew I was the only one out of the loop and let me tell you something that pain doesn't go away what happens is eventually you just learn to deal with it and you think about the person every so often I have to say the least I think about him is perhaps once a week. Gag seems to trigger a lot of memories of him for me regardless I would never ever want to wish those memories of him away I treasure them I don't regret one moment of knowing him or being with him even though I lost him in the end.

[sage2021]

@meetkitty123 what a sad thing to have happened to anyone, yet you have had to suffer something that no one should have to live with. I am so very sorry honey. 💜

[meetkitty123]

@sage2021 thank you very much 🥺🤗

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I am so sorry… Nobody should lose a loved one…

My heart broke reading your story…

I hope his memories strengthen you and always make you feel loved.

[meetkitty123]

@LaFemmeFatale_1
Thank you
I am greatful I met him. He was the first man to treat me right and he had a way Of telling me I was beautiful and I not only believed his sincerity I could feel it wash over me... Somehow my memories of him are good and make me happy

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

You’re a lucky girl to have known someone like this and have been loved that way ❤️

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I wish you all the best.

[TommyMountainFigure]

@meetkitty123. I'm very sorry if It looks like I am jumping on the bandwagon here, but I want to add my condolences too and echo what has already been said. Remember you are not alone on here. If you EVER need a shoulder, jut ask.

[meetkitty123]

@TommyMountainFigure I appreciate it Very much thank you!

[TommyMountainFigure]

No thanks necessary, but you're welcome.

[Ευδεμονια]

I sincerely think every of the two options is better than my (and other people’s) personal situation: having loved and lost at love AND never been loved. It’s terrible never have felt loved and appreciated.
To answer, I think sure its better to having loved and have learnt what love is, also with the loss of love it can be personal growth. Without that losses you would not be like the one you’re now.

[HawkPerception]

Having memories that you can look back on fondly is always the better option. It's always worth the potential pain that comes after. The key is to not just wall yourself off from others after losing. Life is a roller coaster and you shouldn't ever expect to be happy at all times.

[noless10in]

Is it better to have had sex and lost it then never had sex at all. Hell no the same with love I realize it's impossible to miss something you never held. But it's also set you up for a life of misery constantly wondering what could have been What might have been or what should have been.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

When I feel sad, my brother comforts by saying - it’s better having love and lose it than never being in love at all.

For me, it’s different. I wish, I never knew how deep I could love, than love and lose it. It’s worse than death for me.

[egarcia1360]

For sure. Missing something you've lost is a deeper kind of hurt than just wanting something you've never had and wondering what it's like, but the experience is well worth it.

[SaartjieJane]

Would rather go back the two years and never have loved. in my opinion.

[PatriceONeal]

Choose better men

[exitseven]

Maybe it is good to just have it happen once, then you know how bad it is and will know better next time.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Absolutely, otherwise how are you ever going to know when you find it again?

[GreyestClouds]

Would rather be loved by a purely good person that never exists. Don’t wanna be loved by anyone in this world. Knowledge, power, and freedom matter to me more than love.

[inquisitivequeen]

Yes because you can learn from whatever mistake that lost the love

[Anonymous]

No, it's ALWAYS much easier to have never loved. That "L" word is thrown around far too often. In reality very few people actually "love" the person their with.

[Anonymous]

This post makes me mad because it reminds me that men are far more likely than women are it seems to reach their 30s or older and to have never had a relationship before

[RingusUrDingus]

I can almost guarantee everyone who said known still hasn't fully moved on from a recent breakup.

[RingusUrDingus]

Said no*

[Crankor]

It is better to have lost. You had the experience and learn from it

[Mia-Wallace]

Something hurts anyway.

[Jamie05rhs]

Someone already asked this.

[Jamesshinobi]

love is so awesome i love amd lose every day!

[WhitneySnow]

I think so yeah

[Skyros]

That’s what they tell me

[Anonymous]

Never been in love

[Wise4myage]

Definitely A.