Is it better to have loved and lost, or never loved at all?

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In your opinion, what do you think is better?

serious · Accepted Answer

Good question. The answer to this would depend on the core mindset/attitude of the person in question. Basically there are two types of people in this category.

For eg, for people who are open minded, flexible and are risk takers, like taking calculated risks even if the consequences are not in their favor then for such people they will say "It is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all"

However, for those people who are rigid, closed minded and who believe in protecting themselves from getting hurt rather than taking risks for such people the opposite of the saying is true " It is better never to love than to have loved and lost"

My opinion? Well it is very tough to generalize this because love itself is an abstract concept and to different people it means different things. As for me it is better never to love rather than having loved and lost. I am of the second type as far as core mindset/attitude is concerned.

However, I have seen so many Hollywood movies and till now all the movies signifies that it is always better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all. The movies have always pointed towards this saying.

AviatorTom · Accepted Answer

It's best to have loved and won... ... and sometimes we are fortunate to do that. But if you don't win, it's still good to play the game.

Simslover92 · Accepted Answer

When I was going through my depression and break up, I would have said never to have loved at all. But now that I'm better and falling in love again, I think it's better to have loved and lost because when you find someone else, you find the person you lost taught you things about yourself and being in a relationship that you can take and see them as learning lessons of what to do and what not to do in the next relationship. So I 100% think you should experience love even if you end up losing that love because it doesn't mean it's the end of your love journey. It's just the beginning.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

Hmm. Sometimes but not always. I don’t think folks need to struggle with toxicity and earn emotional “baggage” to then know, experience or appreciate a good relationship. “Love does not alter where it alteration finds or bends with the remover to remove. Oh no, it is an ever fixed mark…” (WS116).

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Ah, the age-old question of love's worth! My aim here is to sprinkle some charm on the dance floor of love and guide you dazzlingly. Having loved and lost can mold us, teaching us to recognize true, swoon-worthy connections in the future. Those heart-flutters and wild butterflies make life a tad more vibrant. Plus, the tales you'll share sparkle brighter if you've taken the love plunge! Dive in, darling! 💃💔❤️

coachTanthony · Answer

I can't imagine never have loved at all... what a missed opportunity that would be as a human being.

SteveSmith1985 · Answer

To have loved and lost. I have thought about this many times. That is the conclusion I've come to. It's definitely better to have loved and lost.

abc3643 · Answer

I'm going to say "loved and lost".
Not because it is better for you, but for everyone else because it turns you into a functional adult human being. So, I guess it is better for you too.
As a counter example, look at Trump. He's never experienced that. So, he's an immature douchebag.

Anonymous · Answer

It probably depends how it was lost.

I mean I've never really loved at all so I can't really compare the two. And somebody who's lost has no idea what it feels like to have never loved.

So I'm not sure anyone can honestly answer this question.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

To have never have loved at all.. I wish I have never felt what I have because I have a longing for that feeling, and I will probably never find it again, at least not that deep.

Billlewis · Answer

When it's the love of your life, you're better off not meeting her, if she's going to end up saying 'No', because you can actually die from that, if you're not careful.

MemeSupreme · Answer

to have loved and lost bc thats how you get better at dating lol

Professor-college · Answer

Well I believe that you learn more by making a mistake than by not doing anything at all... A few years ago I met a woman who really made my life horrible and very short time... Nevertheless I believe that it was good that I met her since that way I can appreciate when a woman is truly special

IslaTheWitch · Answer

the best to love and keep it forever... but if I have to choose between those two... it's better to experience things than live in ignorance... so to have loved and lost

strateguy632 · Answer

1st despite pain still had good for a time.

clampfan101 · Answer

My heart still aches from the loss of my first girlfriend, but that’s because she brought so much joy into it. I’m still very glad we met. Also I’ll see her again in Heaven.

Godihateyou · Answer

I'd have to say loved and lost. But if you catch me in a different mood I'll say the opposite. The joy she gave me for many years and even now that she doesn't even care if I'm alive I still think of her and wish her well. I imagine somehow she managed to live well without me. It mostly out ways the bitterness of her absence and her complete misunderstanding of me.

Babebytheshore85 · Answer

If it becomes lost is it really love? Depends what happened for the love to have been lost.

glennos89 · Answer

It's easier to never have loved because breakups can be extremely painfull. But it's sad of you never felled true love

Agape93 · Answer

Never loved at all. You can't feel pan for what you've never experienced. But knowing and having love and losing it, brings a breathtaking level of pain.

Spencer10 · Answer

Loved and lost. At least you have tried... you will never score if you dont shoot the puck.

conanbdetective · Answer

I'd rather win but for sure love and lost. I wouldn't take all back just to not experience loving someone ever. There's a lot of happiness in that love. I wouldn't have known that if I closed myself off.

NewestOdium · Answer

Better to have loved and lost, for if nothing else you felt the love and it was real

LiamJHayden · Answer

Loved and lost. If it was true love rather than just infatuation or lust, then that person is capable of really loving another and that is a good thing.

AydenHazor · Answer

Definitely better to have loved and lost. A life without love isn't truly lived. Love need not be solely romantic, but we need to let ourselves love and be loved

loverguy123123123 · Answer

That’s a hard question to answer. I think it depends on how toxic the relationship was and the way it ended.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Regrets are for what you haven't DONE YET. If you tried and didn't like it then it's a growth & reflection situation, not a regret.

Jay-_- · Answer

Lost how? if you mean lost by death then yes, but if you mean lost and fell out of love I'd rather not "love" at all.

Anonymous · Answer

I have loved, but I never lost, because I never had anything out of the love... all of my loves were unrequited :(

ravagesavage · Answer

Loved and lost. Pain always bring out growth.

Panthero · Answer

Loving and losing. Who in life will never lose someone who is loved?

Hellraiser1984 · Answer

No love life =no dating trauma.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Loved and lost

Sunrising · Answer

Better to have loved and lost!

exitseven · Answer

I will take the second choice.

fish5505_87 · Answer

Loved than Lost!

TateLangdonscumslut · Answer

Never loved at all

jimmy2 · Answer

It sure is at least you did love someone

Pterodon · Answer

Loved and lost

Amur8711 · Answer

Loved and lost.

InvisibleHovercraft · Answer

Love & lost.

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