Have you ever taken a solo vacation? If so, were you in a relationship at the time? Did you enjoy the time away?

[TrueConfection]

I can't express how much I love my family. I love my husband and kids and they are my life.

Lately, I'm feeling like I need a break. I've been married 21 years and my oldest child is 20. I think I need a solo vacation, but I'm not sure I would actually enjoy myself. I also don't want my family to think I don't want to be with them because I'm thankful for all of our time together.

Any ideas? Anyone on gag ever been in a similar stage? I'm on burnout. 😕

[DizzyDesii]

Yes I’ve done so twice. The first time was more so of my escape from a toxic workplace, a toxic family, and multiple toxic relationships. I went to Vegas and had a blast. I shopped til I dropped but didn’t gamble as much as i wanted. I also enjoyed the pools and I tried clubbing but its just not my thing. I enjoyed the scenery and guys would approach and flirt but I was a little guarded because I didn't have anyone there with me and didn't want to get snatched up lol. The second time was me going to North Carolina to job and apartment hunt. My return flight happened the same day that all the airports shut down for covid. It was kinda scary but I still enjoyed the trip. I saw a few places and I went to a concert to see my early 2000s baes. The food in both states was honestly disappointing and lacked the flavor of the deep south. But the overall atmospheres in both places were much better than here. I’m trying to avoid visiting AU, Bahamas, Orlando, Tampa, Aspen and NY alone but I think I’d like to visit Canada, Miami, and Nashville alone.

[TrueConfection]

Vegas sounds fun! At this point a hotel in the next town over sounds fun. 😂

[DizzyDesii]

Damn you must be super stressed haha. I was supposed to go back to Vegas last year or this year but that didn't happen because of covid and also i’ve overspent on decor and stuff for my collection ahah

[TrueConfection]

Yep. 💥 Stressed.
The financial part is always a factor, but sometimes you just have to buy happiness. 🙃

[midnightmoon05]

No, we are generally with the family or us or with friends… there have been lots of times when I have alone time with or without hubby or kids… they can be with family. We also don’t get very attached..: kids have lots of freedom… so I am not tired by them. More stressed with work.

[Lliam]

I've took quite a few solo vacations when I was single. Most were road trips. My longest solo vacation was flying to Washington DC from LAX and then renting a car. I spent a week seeing everything possible in the city, as well as historic sites in Virginia. I couldn't have squeezed as much in if I had been with someone. The trip was outstanding.

I've never taken a solo vacation since I've been married or when I was in a relationship. My wife has taken some solo trips to visit her family in Cincinnati. She has also gone on some two day retreats.

[TrueConfection]

Ok, I did go on a retreat last fall. It's the only trip I ever took without my husband since we married. It was enjoyable, but jam packed and far from relaxing. 🙃

[Lliam]

Every few years, my wife goes on a spiritual retreat to some place in Nevada. It has little cabins and the grounds are beautiful and relaxing. The place has a schedule with healthy meals provided, along with meditation sessions and inspirational/inspirational presentations.
She has a lady friend who goes to those with her sometimes. It's not my thing. But she comes back rejuvenated.

[WindAtMyBack]

Yes and yes. I've taken many solo vacations. I've also taken them while in a relationship.

I do have a preference to travel with someone else, but it's not a big deal traveling alone. Altogether I've done several months of traveling alone.

I think the trick with you is giving your family a reason why you want to go alone. When I've done it, I just went. It was not a big deal and nobody questioned it. Hopefully you can think of a good way to approach the subject and they will all be OK with it.

[TrueConfection]

Did you enjoy the solo vacations or did you think about who you left behind and lose enjoyment?

[WindAtMyBack]

I enjoyed them and rarely thought about people I left behind. I'm perfectly fine being by myself. I found that it usually took a couple of weeks to really chill and get in the groove. After that everything was left behind - people, jobs, worries, responsibilities. That's the point when a vacation really gets good. You live day to day, do what you want, when you want. It's total freedom.

[TrueConfection]

Nice!

[ArrowheadSW]

Most of my vacations are solo, actually. You don't have to coordinate it with someone else, and you are free to go where you want. In fact I was just on a solo trip last week.

[TrueConfection]

Nice! Care to share where you vacationed?

[exitseven]

I was in a program at work that included a retreat. I had to go by myself. I think it was the first time I was away without my wife that did not involve being in the hospital. It was not as much fun as I thought it would be.

[TrueConfection]

I forgot to include my hospital stay almost 2 years ago. I was very sick, but all I could think of was, "Bring me you weary." It was a needed rest.

[exitseven]

I am glad you got better.

[TrueConfection]

Thank you.

[TacosRAwesome]

I went for a solo vacation for my 30th birthday while I was with my now ex who was quite cool at the time but I was having a bit of a crisis about not living enough. Vacation was slightly boring but not terrible.

[TrueConfection]

That is actually very helpful. Did you go someplace exciting or relaxing?

[TacosRAwesome]

Brussels. I wanted someplace affordable and that I could go during the weekend.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Solo vacations were & will always be my favorite because I wing it & anything goes & I don’t have to worry about anyone other than myself.

[TrueConfection]

Sounds free!

[Static_In_The_Attic]

As free as a bird I am & if I plan & those plans don’t work out or it rains or something like that I’m disappointed so I leaned to wing it & have fun.

[TrueConfection]

That's my kind of vacation. Too much planning feels structured.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

As for me I get five weeks of vacation time a year & I usually take two weeks in May & after that I take random beach days or another wing it vacation. I also back some vacation hours just in case.

[TrueConfection]

Wow! 5 weeks? I just want 3 days. 😂

[Static_In_The_Attic]

As for me I’ve been on the job for 15 wonderful years & knock on wood some of the benefits are awesome. Five weeks vacation & if I happen to get sick I have 600 hours of sick time in my bank.

[TrueConfection]

Sounds like you have something good going!

[Bluemax]

I've taken *many* solo vacations. My wife did not travel well. Most vacations I've taken were after her passing.

[TrueConfection]

I'm sorry to hear about your wife Bluemax.

[Bluemax]

Thank you

[KelleyNice]

I went to Camp Wyldewood for 11 days and I enjoyed it.

[TrueConfection]

Nice!

[D_Bone_Steak]

Actually currently thinking about getting a hotel room for a week, just to be alone.

[TrueConfection]

Same! Just 2 nights away is all I need.

[Lyndsielee666]

I’ve gone to Disneyland by myself. Does that count?

[TrueConfection]

That counts!

[AviatorTom]

When I was single, after my divorce (and before I was seriously dating anyone), I took a few solo vacations, visiting places I'd never been to. It was fun being on my own, being able to choose to do what I wanted when I wanted.

[hotwife98]

I did yeah! I had a great time... and used it to have some lovely one-night stands with some amazing men.

[CubaPirate]

Many moons ago after a break up. Went to Tunisia 🇹🇳 and had an ace time thanks to some Dutch people I met

[TrueConfection]

Wow!!

[CubaPirate]

Yeah I even went to Amsterdam to see them with my new girlfriend

[TrueConfection]

That's amazing on so many levels really. lol

[krin_m]

I have and I was not in a relationship at the time. I immensely enjoyed it.
I went up in the Himalayan mountains. It was awesome!

[TrueConfection]

That sounds beautiful. How long did you go for?

[krin_m]

4 weeks!

[TrueConfection]

That's a long time!

[krin_m]

Yeah, I was taking a vacation after a couple of years so I had a lot of vacation time saved.
It still felt very short because it was such a beautiful, calm and pristine place.

[Charliefretz329]

I travel for work so kinda… it’s always healthy to have some alone time

[TrueConfection]

Nice!

[Sugar100]

I want a solo vacation for my bday in October , boyfriend doesn’t want to go with me as it’s far ge don’t like to drive so I’m going alone

[driven159]

go to Disney World you can take your hubby just go to different parks and enjoy your solo time there but be together at night or if you want to lay at the pool

[LaFerrari]

No relationship but I went on a 6 day hike and camp, primitive camping. Was fun

[douride2]

I have taken more then a few solo vacations over the years. Loved them all & will do it again.

[kinkyoldman]

I did but it wasn't solo for long. About three days in I got a very welcome passenger.

[bean2k21]

Hell to the yes. That's why I got divorce. It's not a vacation when it's with the in-laws.

[Prettygurl12]

No, but I would love to do that lol

[RuthlessAggression]

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