I dont have a girlfriend dont have a normal friend, what should I do?

[Anonymous]

No matter what you do, it doesn't work, I'm going to be 21 in 3 months, I've never had a friend, I've never had a girlfriend

I did my best, God is witness that I did

I went to university, I was excluded, it didn't work, now I'm going to a guitar course

What should I do, I don't understand I really don't understand what should I do, why does nobody love me?

Isn't there a solution to this, is there a solution?

I'm sick of it, I'm really sick of it

People my age are enjoying life here I am getting screwed please help

İm not a native English speaker, so i translated it into English

[SueShe]

You are the only one that can help that situation.

In order to have friends or a girlfriend, you must be pro-active and find friends. They will not just pop up in your life without you being involved in the relation. Best is to join a club, take a hobby where you can meet people with similar interests.

If you are good at one specific occupation, then see if you can find a club or place where others meet that share that passion. The rest will just fall automatically into place. Sharing the same interests with a person is always a good start to get to know that person better because you have common grounds.

But you have to work on yourself first. That would include possible shyness and social anxiety.

You can train your approach, your attitude and expression in front of a mirror for example. Think of what message you want to bring across and rehearse it until you are satisfied. The next step is the most difficult one and that is the one where you have to put in practice what you learned and rehearsed.

But without you wanting and acting upon it, nothing will ever happen. You have to get out of your comfort zone for it to happen. The most important is not to be afraid to fail. If you are rejected, get back onto your feet and try again

[Asker]

I did that, im going to a guitar course but they dont want me

[Avicenna]

You can’t just use one thing like that to meet einen, you need multiple

[Anonymous]

Join groups where there are large numbers of people around all the time. You will slowly find friends.

[Asker]

Where can i find these "groups"?

[SteveSmith1985]

I'm really really sorry to hear that you've had such a difficult time making friends. I would like to help you if I'm able. But I need to know more about what exactly happens when you've tried making friends? Could you tell me more about your experiences, and what exactly happened? Could you elaborate on how you were excluded at University (for example)? 🙂

[Avicenna]

Just talk to women and get a girlfriend

[Asker]

Where will find women

[Guy13]

Meetup groups.

[Guy13]

They are for all ages. Our 25-50 year old mixed leagues have 12 year old…sons of the Dads plating soccer with us too. Maybe something like that?
meetup. com.
If you are not an adult then ask your parents

[Liuz02]

Try harder

[In_Trance]

make some friends