What was the biggest or best lesson you learned from your first relationship/breakup? (Page 2)

[FlowerChild94]

I learned never settle and have high standards go for the guys you actually want. don’t go for the low end guy... because you can still fail and what you don’t want so might as well go for what you do want.

[Foxeyes]

I learned that putting more effort into a relationship than your partner doenst work, you can't compensate the others lack of effort.
Learned that the hard way

[NathanDavis]

never settle for less than great... that was the most valuable one, we both agreed that we would seek and strive for that

[Kicks98]

Never force anything... Every relationship has difficulties but if always or most always you are marking an extra force... This is not your place... Get away... Move on

[Phoenix98]

There wasn’t really a lesson to be learned from my first one.

I mean the relationship wasn’t bad we didn’t have any issues nor did we end on bad terms or anything. It just kinda fizzled out on her end.

[Anonymous]

Something really terribly. I will share this anonymously.
I was in a relationship where I got cheated on twice. After the second time, I became really insecure about myself and became toxic. I started becoming untrusting of her and would be doing toxic things like checking if she was really at work or if she was talking to other guys. The relationship failed and I learned to never get back with a cheater or be a second option the hard way.

[Kaamraj]

Never be too nice, nor put anyone on the pedestal. Relationships are about leverage and unequal partnerships. The person who is more willing to walk away, holds the most power.

[Zeus_66]

I learned that most people suck, on all levels. Men, women. Doesn't matter. Many people are just horrible beings. But don't give up. Many people are amazing too.

[HighValue]

Never get married without a prenuptial agreement. If she refuses she is pretty much admitting that she wants the option to steal from me if we divorce.

[Rose_84]

I HATE LIARS and people who gets bored with their partner before the normal expected time.

[Rose_84]

Also I don't trust those who make me angry by negligence and gaslighting.

[BCA6010]

If something causes you to break up, it's for the best regardless of who's fault you think it is. That something 18-23yr old me didn't figure out.

[Wild_princess]

I lost myself who loved and cared and prioritize all others... now i am bitch who don't care about anyone and yess now i first see if i am happy and at peace

[sage2021]

That I refused to stay with a guy that started physically abusing me. I broke up with him after a couple of incident.

[erandal]

For me it was two things. You need more than just sexual attraction and there are more (and better) fish in the sea…

[blissinanarchy1]

Long time no see WhatTheHeckkkk. And my first lesson wasn’t a healthy one. I had to learn self respect because I let myself be used just because she was gorgeous.

[dreamstar72]

Never get hurt in an bad accident. But glad it happened (not the accident) eventually found someone much much nicer and latter she because my wife. We are still very happy together.

[Msputiton]

My biggest lesson is something i don't wanna put in public, because it would most likely get some rude responses.

[Nmdr3]

Make sure your compatible in all areas of a relationship otherwise you’ll always feel frustrated, lonely and full of regret.

[courtney06]

Not to date men who hate and regularly disrespect their mother. Usually means I'm next on the list.

[TacosRAwesome]

I learnt fuck all because I made the same mistake again. But in theory I learnt that if you tell someone that something is bothering you and their reply isn't I'll sort it out, it's fine to leave.