How do I change my mentality towards men?

[Anonymous]

I grew in a healthy family, but external people and my aunt and grandma since I was little fed me the idea that men just like a woman because of the way she looks and that the most important thing for them in a relationship is sex, that basically they don't feel like women do. And, I know that's not true, I know guys are really sweet and that this thoughts are bs, but that idea was implanted in my head without me even realizing and now I'm 20, trying to get that out of my head and can't find a way to do it, it's annoying to have that in my head when is not what I believe in.

[jazque]

There is SOME truth to that. SOME men are only interested in sex... also SOME women are only interested in sex. But most people understand that there is so much more to a relationship than sex.
Im not saying sex isn't important. Because it is when two people connect deeply sex can be unbelieveable... earth shattering. Its an amazing way to connect and skin to skin contact is what we crave as people.
So overall sex is important for a healthy relationship but not all that a relationship should be.
Sounds like they just didn't want you to rush into anything with the wrong guy and get hurt.
Get to know a guy before removing your pants.
A good guy will respect you for your choices. And will put in effort if they want to be with you. An asshole... won't

[amandat94132]

Families think they mean well yet they can cause confusion about relationships.

Everyone is an individual with their own needs, perspectives.

You learn to block out old recipes with practice :)

[Whatever2929292]

That was the way you were raised to think. There is a lot of sexism towards men in my opinion the same way there is against women

[Asker]

But I'm aware that's not the truth, it's annoying to have that idea so implanted.

[Whatever2929292]

I know. Some men are like that but there is bad women out there too. I don't know. I can't help anyone Asker I am useless

[Whatever2929292]

I was turned over to a reprobate mind years ago

[Whatever2929292]

Not a reprobate mind. Sorry you don't need to hear all that stuff

[Asker]

We talked in another post and I don't know, do you need to chat with someone?

[Whatever2929292]

Oh did we? I chat with a lot of people. Thanks you can send me a PM if you want. Sorry you did not need to hear all that stuff. Kind of a rough night

[Asker]

it's ok, I'm here if you need someone to vent.

[Whatever2929292]

Thanks!