How to stop changing for men?

[JustMeL120]

Does anyone feel miserable that they can't really date without changing themselves. Myself I love to be alone and I am pretty much like a loner sosiopath. But men don't like that. Its so annoying that I have to appear materialistic stupid dumb woman to be able to find a date.

I am fed up of having to appear sweet or like a fairy tail princess for men to like me. That's really not who I am am. If I was a Disney Princess I would be Mulan. I have no fear of danger and my favourite pastime is to walk creepy countryside lanes at 3 in the morning listening to Eminem and taking photos of abandoned windmills.

[Anonymous]

By being secure in who you are and sticking to both your standards and boundaries. Notice how a man can be very firm in his wants and needs, and never wavers. 9 times out of ten, the woman will abide by it, even if it doesn’t align with who she is or what she wants. You need to have that same resilience, always show up as your authentic self, and if a man doesn’t like it then he’s not the one. The only changes you should ever even consider are what’s practical and if it benefits you. For instance if your man said he didn’t like you walking out on the lonely road at 3am, stopping that is something you may consider because it could actually keep you safe. Things like that.

[JustMeL120]

Thank you that's true but I couldn't date a man who wants to keep me safe. I would feel trapped and anoyed by that. I would divorce him. Lol

[Astarlessnightsky]

If you keep changing and pretending you are someone else, you will never find the right one.

Stop telling yourself: men don't like this or don't like that

There are so many men ob this planet, and everyone is totally different, you will find the one who likes you for who you are, and that will make both of you happy.

[JustMeL120]

I hope someone out ther would accept me going for walks at 3 in the morning and risking my life in country lanes. If a man is really that open minded i would live to meet him.

[Anonymous]

If you actually believe you have to "appear materialistic stupid dumb woman" to appeal to men then you already are "stupid dumb".

No one expects you to be a fairytale princess, but you'll be a lot more successful with men if you are nice. If you have a problem with that then you do indeed have a problem.

[JustMeL120]

Yea you just insulted me and you think I should be nice to men. No I like men but I need to be on my guards with them.

[Opinion Owner]

Nah, you insulted yourself, but I don't expect you to understand how.

[bowenw]

A guy that's into you should accept you just as you are and not try to change you.

[Anonymous]

Lol stop dating the wrong men. It's simple.