Are relationships of people with different maturity levels destined to fail?

[Anonymous]

I'm really, really into this guy but I feel like our maturity level are very different. He still has little to no concern for social issues, doesn't think about his future, act stupid to impress his friends, feel compelled to be someone he's not to fulfill expectations from a certain group and "to belong", is clueless about relationships... For example, he's a really sweet, timid even, intellectual guy and a mama's boy but insists on putting that "gangster" act because that's what his friends related the best and look up to. It makes me insecure to be into a relationship with concerns so different of mine, and ther funny part is that he's actually older. I love everything else about him. Should I invest in this relationship or should I find someone more similar to me in that aspect?

[Hanrej]

No you should not. A boy like that who acts in certain ways for the sake of others is VERY moldeable. You would probably be able to change him but it would take effort, whoever he becomes when you've molded him might be somone HE doesn't want to be and he'll hate you for it but the most compelling reason not to give him a chance is because you're very into him. Doesn't it strike you as strange that you're attracted to somone that you want to change? Will that attraction still be there if/when you've changed him? Because I see this a lot, women who see flaws in somone they like and then make the effort to change them only to realize that that boy is no longer somone she's attracted to.

[JakeS00]

Honestly, for me anyway, for me to be with someone they would need to care about their future, and not try to impress me in front of anyone. He sounds aloof. I'm guessing by your age he has high school maturity.

[Apple1996]

Men are always immature. Most don't start acting mature until they are in their 40s

[scooogy]

Immature me says no 😌

[WhitneySnow]

Give him a chance