I confessed to her, she likes me, but she told me she has to think about it?

[Anonymous]

Hi guys, I need your opinion on this.

Some days ago i confessed to my crush (we are both university students) and she told me that she liked me back, but she was scared to be in a relationship. This is because she broke up a month ago from a 3 year relationship, and because in a week we are both returning home and we won't meet as often as now.

The thing is that we are still behaving like we are a couple, and I don't know if this is the right thing to do. I really want to clarify our situation before we return home.

What do you think I should do in this situation, wait for her to make up her mind, or take initiative? And should I take some distance or keep behaving as if we are a couple?

[PrettyPriya]

I think you give her the time and space to make her mind up and not pressure her into doing it quick. She may be trying to look at the relationship and where it might head in a week's time. The reasons you point out are valid for being hesitant.

If you won't be able to be together much during your break, she may feel like it isn't worth the effort since there will be little time spent together. How far apart do you live from each other when home?

Another thing is that relationship she got out of. Even if she explained what happened, she may have not told you everything and there could be some things that were really bad you don't know about.

This is why it is important to give her the time to think about it and come to her own decision and conclusion rather than pressure her and possibly make up her mind for her (not in a good way) because she feels like you are suffocating her for an answer. I'm sure it won't take her that long.

[trumpets310]

I'd be a little more independent for a bit. Do your own thing and don't go out of your way to hang out with her - being clingy isn't good right now. If you take some space, it will make sure she doesn't string you along or take you for granted, and will encourage her to make her decision

[Vegasrunner]

God. I see why so many young guys struggle w/ women these days. The answer is obvious move on and find another girl. Why would you wait on a women like that?

[boggboss]

Your situation is u both like eachother but she is too scared or not ready to be in a relationship

[Guy13]

Take initiative and wait...

[Guy13]

That's what you did, right... At some point she's probably going to need your Vision. And, she's going to compare that against what she knows whether it is fair or not. The date after that Vision is declared should be an interesting one. I'm straightforward though and would like to give her something to really chew on... She's got more recent experience SO you probably will be walking to her drumbeat for awhile. Plan and Lead but know at any second Change... Probably, flexibility and calm energy equals "Strong Guy"