My husband had an emotional affair and blames me, literally will not address it because he says I need to do what he's been doing with my behavior?

[Anonymous]

seeing it for what it is. He makes me feel crazy like i'm not suppose to be upset i was fine for a little while and yesterday he went to the bar and today i just can't shake off the feeling that he's still disrespecting me. I don't know what to do and i don't know why i got so emotional all of a sudden this happened like two months ago. I don't know who this person is and i just know about it because he wanted to be honest with me and tell me he hung out and caught feelings for another girl but they didn't do anything, I'm so hurt.

[Anonymous]

"he says I need to do what he's been doing with my behavior" - I don't understand or follow this?

But forget her, the real issue is what he got from her that he doesn't feel he has or can get from you. Couple's therapy I think is needed. If he's not willing to do that, then it takes BOTH of you to "fix" the relationship. And/or you two need to start communicating better. Stop "pointing the finger" and blaming, or fighting (because of hurt feelings), but talk about what's missing and how to fix the relationship and how you both can communicate better.

[jahaims]

Have some self respect and leave him

[sheikalana]

Have you tried couples therapy?

[In_Trance]

so... what are you asking here?