Someone please explain to me how someone can still be looking for love when they are married?

[Anonymous]

[Makeushiver]

I'm missing the lust from early in relationship. sure many people are seeking love. They are more likely seeking lust. There is something that men and women don't often admit to but every relationship cols down over time and sometimes jus something different, not necessarily more attractive, just different.

I've read studies that have broken down characteristics that women seek in a man as a lover and what they seek as husband. Women- and men too, often think a stable, "regular" personality for a partner but when asked what they'd prefer as a lover; both genders preferred naughty, sexy and bad for a lover but not a spouse. I understand the feeling.

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

I'm seeing a lot of judging answers here from those who have no experience so let me give one from someone who is in a poly relationship.

It's not that we don't take our marriage seriously or that we don't love each other. Far from it actually. The level of trust, respect and love you have to have is probably higher in a poly relationship than a standard one just because you understand that you can't always provide everything your partner needs. Instead of being selfish and expecting your partner to live without, you allow them to be happy and find it with someone else while still remaining just as in love with your partner.

In my case, I'm not even out there having sex though I could if I found the right girl. My relationships involve seeing how I feel about guys and receiving/giving affection. Something I couldn't possibly get from my wife.

[Aerissa_Jade]

Marriage doesn't have to be about love, it's a legal contract. They could be looking for it in their marriage or maybe to add another person to the mix, for a poly (whatever) relationship or side people.

[20yearsolder]

Maybe, just maybe they loved their wife dearly and over the years they've grown apart and now he's looking for someone else to share his love with? I don't know it's just a thought

[Sour-rose]

Married doesn't mean they have to have love with each other. Or any feelings. Amazing how marriage can end a love spell just like that

[Queeninmydreams]

Best to look for love in the cave you reside in; the dangers outside may be more than enough to render you incoherent

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Cause the grass isn't greener on the other side for them which means their not happy with who they have

[JDBSLAOQ]

its completely logical if you're a dirty cheater lol

[MAC1983]

It's completely logical if the other person is a dirty cheater too... 😄

[Sparkie460]

Either they are unhappy in their marriage or they are in an open relationship. Either way they are cheating on their spouse.

[Zolly99999]

They are not getting everything they need from the person they are with.

[TheAfrikan]

It is possible in case there is no more bonding between two parties.

[CubaPirate]

Some people are in arranged marriages where love isn't a given

[Anonymous]

They married the wrong person and they should end that marriage.

[Marshymallow]

They’re miserable and stuck.

[exitseven]

they do not take marriage very seriously.

[fonduegirl]

Three words : forced arranged marriage

[MAC1983]

Pretty specific situation...

[worldscolide]

They're not, they're looking to cheat.

[Jamie05rhs]

Because they are unfaithful.

[Anonymous]

They consider sex love.

[Anonymous]

Can you only romantically love one person?

[Anonymous]

Because they are fucking miserable?

[dailyoctopus94]

New relationship energy is fun

[melanieeeB]

Unhappily married...