What does it mean when your boyfriend doesn't say "I love you" or "I love you too"? Should I be worried?

[Nacura]

[SueShe]

Men in general are not into useless words. To them, the "I love you" sentence could mean that they show they have feelings but they don't want to admit those feelings because they think it puts them in a weak position.

Also, in the US/Canada, where the "I love you" sentence has about as much meaning as "bless you" when someone sneezes, these words are used so extensively that they have lost the original meaning.

Everybody says "I love you" to everyone, be it in the morning when leaving home or when coming back. I get the feeling that those 3 words are nothing more than something people say out of sheer habit because they have been brainwashed since infancy and that those that say those words never think of the real meaning behind those words.

[Nacura]

Thank you for your input.

[SueShe]

No problem but I would have a talk with your boyfriend and tell him that you feel hurt that the "I love you" words are only spoken by you and you don't get the same in return.

Tell him that this is not a sign of weakness if he says it but a sign that he cares. He does not have to say it in public if he feels not at ease that others hear it. Good luck.

[Nacura]

Thank you

[ShadezMcgee]

This. Exactly this.

[Anonymous]

Yes, not receiving the "love you" back is not a good sign.

[Nacura]

What would you say it means if he doesn't say it back?

[ShadezMcgee]

Just because your man doesn't say it doesn't mean he doesn't love you. How often are you trying to get him to say it? Men aren't the same in terms of affection or saying words. We can say those words, sure, but we also show our love through our actions.

This sounds more like a communication hurdle and need you need to express to him if you want to get those results, however don't just go into that conversation focused on your desired outcome. You need to understand his point of view about this as well. Why does he not feel the urge or need to say it all the time when you say it to him? You need to know why otherwise this is going to eat at you and can create a bigger problem than need be.

[Spiritofn]

Ya If you ain’t like tight as fuxk they for the streets. Throw them some toilet paper on their way out the door though, “courtesy”.

[Nacura]

Wdum

[Spiritofn]

So tight as fuxk is referred to as close niche.

[Guy13]

If you are offering your love in statement form and they do not reply likewise or anything then I would be worried. This is a problem. Context ⁉️

[Nacura]

Do you have an idea on what could cause my boyfriend not to say it back? Wdum context?

[Guy13]

Situation. Context. Before/After, events etc

[Nacura]

My boyfriend and I used to be just hook up people for a little over a year and then we started to get serious with each other for the past year. I've gotten him to say it one time, but he doesn't do it any other time. His excuse is, "it's hard for me to express my emotions". I always assumed he was waiting for the right moment bc all of his ex's have dumbed him and became little whores. I fear that he thinks I'll end up the same as all of them.

[Nacura]

Sorry. Ik. TMI

[Guy13]

You have depth and a caring heart.. this is highly attractive and he is quite fortunate. Look at him with soft admiring eyes 👀 that scream “just you babe”…soft demeanor and he will eventually come around. NOW, it may be I love you too or it may be “the guilt is killing me” into a fear-flight away from relationship. 3 months of “only you babe” eyes energy body stance/demeanor AND you will know for certain.

[Nacura]

Ok. Thank you. That definitely will be stuck in my head for a min. Lol. I'll give it a try.

[Guy13]

Alright…Good luck 🍀. Hope it works out just like you wish for ‼️

[Nacura]

I hope so too. Lol

[Jamie05rhs]

Yes. Something's wrong there. Work on your relationship. If he's your boyfriend, you guys should be in love. (Otherwise what's the point of being in a relationship?)

[RealDaveThomas]

I think you're getting way too involved in semantics

[Anonymous]

So guys don't like to say. They'd rather show you.

[Iron_Man]

Yes you should be

[Nacura]

May I ask why you think that way?

[Iron_Man]

Because he doesn’t love you he doesn’t say it he is not into it but of course you tell him right he doesn’t say it back. He probably just wants sex

[Nacura]

But he shows me he cares and likes being with me. Even if we don't have sex.

[Iron_Man]

Liking is something totally different compared to love you don’t want to marry a man that doesn’t love you

[Nacura]

I understand. Thank you very much.

[Iron_Man]

You’re very welcome

[Twalli]

Maybe he doesn't feel the need if he said so once

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Probably didn’t hear it from his mom that much

[driven159]

I might make him feel uncomfortable to say it