He told me we could be in couple later …what to think?

[Anonymous]

I met a guy a few months ago, it was passionate from the beginning but shortly after he started to be inconsistent. One day he plans things, the other day he is not ready…

he told me we could be in couple ´maybe later’ LOL

what do you think of that?

I call it breadcrumbing… he can be sincere (not ready) or just manipulative …Idk… but I think this is toxic. It means he doesn’t want to get too far and either doesn’t commit enough into the relationship…

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He doesn’t want me to get too far sorry*

[Anonymous]

I did this once. The girl left. I didn't realize I was being manipulative until she left. The problem was I liked her but she did not fit the image of what I wanted in my head and so it was very hard to commit. So I just didn't. I'm glad I didn't though. That's my story though not yours. I don't know what your story is.

[Asker]

There could be similarities … because he told me « I forbid you to cut contact » 😂🤡 I said I didn’t want an in-between relationship.
When I said I prefer to cut contact, he immediately started to look sad and hugged me…
Later He Left in holidays with his family and I decided to take distance. He came back a few days after to me…. I ve been very cold lately and he seems a bit scared to lose me. We used to talk like 3 hours sometimes before to sleep on phone when he was away.. What do you think?

[Opinion Owner]

There are only 4 possible reasons
1: He doesn't like you enough
2: Self-image problem
3: Family problem or life problem
4: Using you
5: A girl once used me to get over her ex
6: My friend would ghost beautiful women who like him because he didn't feel worthy of them. Not the same but similar to not committing even when you really want to. Self-image issue.

It could be more than one reason. Unless it is #2 or 3 you probably are best to move on.

[Asker]

Thank you :)
In my case I would say 2 things :
- separation with his ex too fresh and because of distance, they are still close …she has a new boyfriend but still… she is jealous of me he told me.
- probably self confidence also.. he is younger than me and puts a lot of pressure on himself I guess. He started to have problems in bed.. even avoids sexuality.

[LazerBean]

He is internationally being ambiguous to keep you hopes up and hopefully continue/start getting sex from you. Every man who wants a real relationship is aware of it.

[Asker]

But the strange fact is that he has problems in bed.. he is avoiding it more and more I think because he feels embarrassed :/

[Dennis41]

You age?

[Asker]

33 but he is younger and I think not healed from his last relationship (he was separated from his ex because of distance and she s too much in the place I think..)

[Dennis41]

Can you contact me privately? I have questions I want to ask you.

[Asker]

I tried but it seems restricted. Can you try?

[Dennis41]

Okay

[Dennis41]

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