My girlfriend is the dominant one in our relationship. One of my credit cards is always on my girlfriend. Half of my salary goes towards her expenses. I love her, but I'm tired of working overtime. I hesitate to say this to her. What should I do?
Why would you give HALF your salary to her? She is your girlfriend - meaning, there is always high chance that you could break up even tomorrow. You need to keep your money separate from hers. Even if you were married, you should NOT let her drain YOUR money for her lavish shopping sprees.
A relationship should not be a transaction. If you cannot talk to her about topics like this, I highly doubt you are happy in this sort of a relationship where your feelings as a human being involved is not even considered. She needs to use her own money instead of using you as a piggybank.
You should sit her down and let her know that this is both financially and emotionally draining you. You can take some pointers from this:
"Babe, I feel like we keep our finances separate from now on. Working overtime is mentally exhausting and I do not think I could keep that going. You have to stop asking me for your money and use your own money for buying things." If she asks you for money next time, you have to stand your ground and say "NO." Learn to be more assertive. Seriously, she is not going to bite you. If she does not listen and throws a fit, break up with her. You do not need someone who is going to use you for money.
Honestly, doesn't sound like a good idea. Sounds like a really stupid thing to do.
Unless you're married and she's a stay-at-home mom or something, then you shouldn't do that.
Nope. I would go shopping with her and know my spending limits on not going over 30% of my credit limit so I can continue to have a great credit score.
If she does not respect my credit limit then we are through.
u "Half of my salary goes towards her expenses." How did you let that happen? Have you at least learned a lesson from this experience?
Do you see her as a long term prospect?
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Get rid of her that's what. Because it sounds like she doesn't respect you or your money if she's spending it frequently. And you're having to work overtime just to pay for it. Get away from her and get you a woman that will not put you in that difficult situation.
Get your shit together, son. She's only your girlfriend, not your mother, or wife.
Ditch her ass for being high maintenance, and get someone within your means.
Tell she can't use it any more. Or minimize the limit. If she doesn't agree throw her out
No sorry make your own money or ask me for something.
I wouldn't "give my wife" my credit card. She would have her own...
Besides love, what prompts you to give her your card?
I am pretty sure she is with you for your money. Wouldn't surprise me if she is also cheating on you.
Go find your balls.
Half your salary? Dude…
Nope.
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