Does my boyfriend have control issues or is am I crazy as he says?

[Anonymous]

So recently we’ve been fighting often. For example, I have severe anxiety and pots and he said food is ready go to the table and I said one sec I need to do a 2 minute plank. He got soo upset, yelled, screamed, packed my stuff and told me to go home. I just wanted to do the plank real quick cause I wasn’t feeling well and he’s upset because food was ready and I wanted to do it when it was time to eat. Called me crazy and was so aggressive, packed my things and pretty much kicked me out. I did nothing wrong and didn’t say anything. Am I in the wrong? I feel like crying because now I look like the bad guy:(

[lightbulb27]

as I read that you aren't wrong but his perspective is unknown. It's better someone runs to the dinner table, but I'd support doing situps before and probably join in. I both cook and my wife cooks. There's time she says "ready" and I'll let her know I'm wrapping up something and there in a few, but also being respectful of all the work she just put in and being excited.

I suspect you two had issues before he snapped and communications challenges. Life and relationship shouldn't be that stressful.

you had severe anxiety before this or because of... that might be relevant. that stuff needs dealt with... relationships just make it worse if the other party isn't well skilled. I'm familiar with anxiety somewhat... takes skill to handle, respect for the issue.

[Anonymous]

You 100% are not the bad guy. That guy sounds like the biggest piece of shit. The worst part of it is, he's dragging you down and making you feel terrible for basically not following his orders. If someone's throwing you out of their house over some silly bs like that you should feel lucky that they showed their true nature early before they became physically violent with you

[qupid911]

Go no contact for a few days then get together and talk. Ask if anything you’re doing is upsetting him and vice versa. Talk about your feelings. If he throws a tantrum then exit the relationship

[dustybiker]

Sounds like you’ve been arguing a lot and forgotten how to talk to each other. Maybe time for a break?

[Anonymous]

Get a proper boyfriend, not an imbecilic tantrum throwing toddler, whose age is mismatching.

Do yourself a favor and dump him.