I confessed and then she doesn't talk to me like we used to be before in highschool?

[Groowdang]

I confessed to her my feelings and she said I have a boyfriend and we can still be friends. So I agreed that we can be friends. We talked as usual as before until one day she doesn't talked to me as usual as it is anymore. I greeted her and she responded but after that she doesn't talked to me. She is sometimes shy and definitely a quiet girl. What am I supposed to do? I do no longer want to seek a relationship with her but I just want her to be my friend.

[HollyK21]

I think that’s just part of graduating high school. A lot of those friendships you had back then either end immediately after high school or slowly. I had people I considered best friends go awol less than a month after graduating. It sucks but it kind of reminds me of “work friends”. I’ve had a job where I was so cool and close with a few coworkers, we’d talk throughout our shifts, hang out off the clock, had each other’s social media’s, etc. Then when the job closed, I lost contact with almost all of them. It’s just life.

[dustybiker]

She might have said that to be nice/polite. It’s time to let her go.

[OlderAndWiser]

Don't lie to yourself and don't lie to her! You are willing to be "just a friend" if that's all you can have but you still want a relationship, don't you?

[Groowdang]

You got me in the last part. I do want to have a relationship with her, it just that I do not want to meddle with her boyfriend. I learned to accept the situation. But I do not know what I should be doing after this part. Even if I let her go I will always see her from classes to classes, clubs to clubs and from friends to friends.

[OlderAndWiser]

If you are just her friend, hat means hat she wll tell you about her boyfriend, how wonderful he is, and she wll say things that indicate she spent th night with him last night, or they spent the weekend together, etc. Do you really want to hear all of that?

[Groowdang]

None at all. In fact I never heard her complimenting her boyfriend you see.

[OlderAndWiser]

If you were just a friend, wouldn't you be hearing about such things?

[Groowdang]

I did hear she has a boyfriend who is in a long distance relationship. But I do not know his whereabout. I was then reminded by her that she has a boyfriend and that I would not meddle it.

[OlderAndWiser]

Thanks for MHO!

[Anonymous]

She probably has moved on. That happens with people grow older.

[Groowdang]

Thing is that happened recently just last week I confessed to her

[Guy13]

Lay it in the line…tell her the truth.

[exitseven]

Hang in there, she will come around.

[Anonymous]

Tell her that

[Groowdang]

I supposed you mean by telling her that I want only to be her friend aye? But the thing is I want to ensure that she is comfortable when I talked to her

[Opinion Owner]

Tell her that you don’t want to lose her from her life

[Groowdang]

That would take sheer confidence but I will do that. I wanted her to stop thinking of me as some kind of me wanting to pursue her. I do no longer want to and I have found a new girl to be with, thing is I find it uncomfortable to leave things matter unsettled