Am I being stupid?

[Gtimraed]

Recently I've really realized that my girlfriend's and my relationship has taken a turn. Yeah it's gotten a bit meh, and I take what blame is mine. Let life and depression really get to me. I digress, I used to get her flowers quite a bit and leave her little notes and all that. It was hard but we finally talked and she finally opened up and told me about what she missed and all that. So I've started back writing little notes and getting flowers, because I realized I lost me and in turn lost us. However, I've also realized I slowly stopped because she never really returned the sentiment. Like yeah I don't want flowers but little notes are the nicest thing to see or something along those lines. I don't know, maybe I'm just being stupid. I just remember feeling like I was doing all this, basically courting her all the time and she basically stopped trying. She used to get me cards and fill them with stuff. Now I get one on special occasions and that's about it.

[watercolor_lions]

Have you told her how you feel? Women can get caught up in feeling romanced and forget that their partners want to feel the same way.

My partner and I keep doing sweet little things for each other because relationships at their core are still work.

Think of a relationship like a fire: you can start it fast with a lighter and propane, but if you can't keep it lit with the stuff you're feeding it, you might want to change what you're putting in it, or go to a less damp/windy area.

If you tell her and she still doesn't reciprocate, it might be time to move the fire someplace less "damp".

[HighValue]

In my opinion, she is selfish and is mostly concerned with how she benefits and not how to be a good partner and make her SO feel valued too. It is common. The majority of women are that way.