I’m am so stupid?

[Anonymous]

So I did something dumb today.
So my ex who dumped me and cheated on me and made absolute dirt of me every day for a year since our break up.

Texts me last night drunk being upset about being on his own and how he can’t find a girl.
So me being me decides to give him the best advice I have and be so nice while he ignores each message lol.

To the next day deciding to buy him this American candy gift box worth $24 and sent it to his address with a message “I hope this cheers you up and to be positive :)”

Omg I’m such an idiot this guy totally doesn’t give a flying fly about me and I still jump trough hoops why do I do it I don't know.
I’m so embarrassed now

[SnowedIn]

You did two nice things. Sure, they were over the top but it's not embarrassing or stupid to be nice and do good things for a fellow human.

[Asker]

Yeah but I’ve done this a few times in the past.. this person won’t consider this as nice or even anything at all

[SnowedIn]

I was responding to your comments about "I'm so stupid" and embarrassing. It's neither. Their reaction is irrelevant. You did a nice thing. That's all that counts.

Whether you do it again is a different discussion. That's between you and you.

[Asker]

Yeah it’s nice to the right people I suppose

[LiamJHayden]

Don't beat yourself up for being kind. Just learn to direct it towards those who are worth the effort.

[Asker]

I know I’m a sucker for love tho I think with my heart and never my head and this is what hurts me lol

[NotTacocaT6969]

You did something nice for someone who didn’t deserve it.


It’s not that big a deal, but you shouldn’t make a habit of it.

[Asker]

I know I regret it already

[EaterPeter]

You are a kind person and that was not so kind to yourself.

[Asker]

I know I’m feeling so stupid after it he didn’t care at all just doesn’t appreciate anything I do

[Anonymous]

because you care about him. i never had a woman buy anything for me. he's lucky

[Asker]

Yeah but I made a fool out of myself as he doesn’t appreciate it. All he said was thanks.

[Opinion Owner]

I never even got that much out of her. her mom reluctantly and begrudgingly said thanks and her sisters said thank you and thanks

[swettannie]

he have total control over you

[Asker]

He doesn’t I do these things to myself I don't know why

[swettannie]

because you're head over heels for him, he know it, and that's why he's able to control you

[Asker]

Yeah but he reject’s me the whole time he doesn’t care about me and shows it all the time even when he drunk text me last night he said how I wreck his head and ended up ignoring me when I gave him advice because he was saying he wanted to end his life because he feels so alone and that when he meets someone nice the same thing keeps happening that all he wants is a girlfriend and I said about me and him he said that we drifted apart so like there u go that’s how little he thinks of me

[swettannie]

is there a reason he reject you? you can dm me if you want

[Asker]

He said that I fight too much and always accuse him and cause drama and he got sick of it

[swettannie]

ok...

[swettannie]

fight too much?

[Asker]

Yeah we fought a lot

[swettannie]

about what?

[Asker]

Well he used to fight over me over thinking everything and saying I was always afraid to do things and just nothing I did was right from spilling crumbs in his car to directions lol and then I used to fight with him about being in contact with women behind my back all the time and hiding his phone and then lying to me about his where bouts stuff like that

[swettannie]

i see

[Emanon25]

I think you did a big mistake.

[Asker]

I know I did I’m so afraid now I’m gunna get in trouble

[Emanon25]

Why?

[Asker]

Because what if his mother sees the box and sees my email on the box. I don’t think she likes me and it looks mad if something arrives with my email on it omg

[Emanon25]

I see, just forget it for now and don’t be hard on yourself.

[Asker]

Ah no see I didn’t think it through it just makes me look so sad sadder than I already am

[Emanon25]

Follow me please I want to ask you something

[Asker]

Sure

[Emanon25]

You sent it to him for you being a nice person so don’t blame yourself so much.

[Asker]

I know but I’m afraid if he will give out to me or be mean to me if he gets it or just ignore it

[Emanon25]

Thanks

[Emanon25]

You stress yourself too much, just ignore it.

[Asker]

Ok I will

[Emanon25]

Yeah