32 year old woman dating a 25 year old man - immediate thoughts?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

Very dangerous territory. I am 33 and I recently dated a 24 year old. I was a firm believer that age gap is bullshit until I found myself in one. He presented himself as a very mature young man, full of life, ambitions, opinions... he claimed how he likes older women because we know what we want and we get things done. I thought he was like that too, but his immaturity soon came to light as a bullet. He was just trying to appear mature and do mature things to impress me in the beginning, but as soon as he got comfortable I felt like I was raising a child, not dating a man. He was useless around the house, made a lot of mess and didn't clean after himself (didn't even know how to iron clothes or operate an oven or or cook, clean, etc.), didn't know anything about bureaucracy, politics, finances... His 24 year old spirit was all about being rebellious, spending money on parties, going with the flow and running away from "complicated" situations. He was very reckless and did not take any responsibility for his actions; when something bad happens it was always everyone elses fault but his. He liked to travel and live in different places, he'd live in poor accommodations and just didn't have any set future plans. He had a very low paying job with no career path and he didn't care. To be honest, he did treat me good, he was faithful, loyal, he spent a lot of time with me, he took me places and always was giving me a lot of affection. But I ended up paying for everything and having him in my flat, I did all the house work and all the "thinking" when it comes to general life stuff. I saw a future where I'm the one raising our children and he lays on the coach watching netflix and drinking beer. It seemed like his role there was just to give me company, sex and intimacy. We talked a lot about these things and we would argue a lot because he simply didn't understand why I care about "useless" things, he always said how love should be enough. I realized there is no point in trying to make him see things differently, so we broke up.

[Opinion Owner]

I wouldn't blame age gap for this completely, I know some people in their 40s that are still immature af, and some 20s that are mature, but the fact is that chances are higher they will be immature if younger. And it depends also where your own maturity level is and what are your standards/priorities; for example my best friend who is 32 likes to be a housewife and she doesn't mind doing all the cleaning and cooking and working, while I'm more oriented on other things and I'm looking for an equal partner who values same things. It's not like I will automatically reject any younger guy from now on, but I will definitely pay close attention to these things and end it sooner if I see same behavior. I stayed with my ex long because I believed he will change in time, but it was a mistake holding onto that hope, and lesson learned I guess (no matter the age).

[D_Bone_Steak]

I've seen this a lot overseas in Japan. The women are called "parasite singles" by the Japanese and I would just call them chicken hawks. They still look good in their 30's and they're not fat... so young and dumb twenty-somethings allowed out of the house for the first time make easy targets for them. The Japanese call them parasite singles because they have a tendency to be living with their parents like forever, basically living off of them. They might work but they're always out there searching for a young boy and that's why I would call them chicken hawks.

Obviously the dudes fall for it and it usually ends in divorce, is what it is. I was in one of those relationshits and at my current age she'd be like 60 right now. She was a mega leech though and I didn't do the whole "lets get married" thing at all. I would get a place of my own (with friends actually) though and that chick would literally just try to move in. If she had a job she would quit just to constantly be there. It didn't take long to understand why her own parents just wanted her gone.

[SamIam96]

Lucky him!

Less drama, not so immature, more confidence, more life experiences. Is there any downside?

[HippieVeganJewslim]

It seems that women can get equal drama in older ages, as I found in dating sites.

[Death_To_Stress]

Immediate thought: Unless there's something important you've left out, I can't see why you think twice about it, let alone take a survey. They're each old enough to make those choices for themselves. Everyone else be damned.

[HippieVeganJewslim]

Nothing bad. My father is six and a half years older than my mum. He was 29 and she was 23 when I came to this terrific and horrific world. I was 18 when I dated a 27- and a 55-year-young and in my early 20s when I dated a lass 22 years older.

[Avicenna]

Why is this even a question? They are adults, there's nothing whatsoever wrong with it.

[Anonymous]

He must be really good looking. Women don't usually date younger. Unless she feels like she's getting old since she's over 30. Some women will start dating younger guys just to prove to themselves they still have it.

[FilmGuy93]

It could work... it probably won't, but it's worth a try. Do what makes you happy.

[tzdc21]

I don't see anything wrong with that at all.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Thats fine, its a small age gap, so its not going to have any effect on the relationship.

[TheFlak38]

Another used up hag going for younger guys because she knows older guys can do better than that.

[TroyDT]

Whatever works. I've dated women 10 to 15 years older many times.

[20yearsolder]

Yeah, so what? Enjoy him

[BJP21]

Meh your fine. Im 39 and was with a 28 year old.

[Jamie05rhs]

Nothing wrong with that.

[Iron_Man]

That’s your decision what you want to do

[Passing_by]

Whatever floats their boat.

[Cheerfull009]

No problem, not much age difference

[Anonymous]

Has she got a twin sister for me

[Anonymous]

For good sex or money

[Anonymous]

Ohh man... can I join for a threesome?

[magiusX26]

they are a couple

[LimitedBenefits101]

he's a loser.

[In_Trance]

alright

[jimmy2]

Cougars

[Slim57]

Both grown adults

[HippieVeganJewslim]

True, but other dude said 25 is still a ‘child.’

[Anonymous]

Desperate