Found photo of girlfriend blowing her ex, what would you do?

[Anonymous]

I came across a photo on my girlfriend phone and its of her blowing her ex boyfriend. Its from over 5 years ago but Im not sure how to feel. She has told me all the photos of her and the ex are deleted a couple of times but clearly not. She said she must have missed them when she was deleting, it was the BJ photo and like 8 regular photos all from back then. I really dont think she kept them on purpose but am I stupid? Im not sure how to feel, she did delete them without hesitation too when I showed.

[RangerBlue22]

Well why where you going through your gf’s phone to begin with? Did she give you permission? If she didn’t that’s a bigger problem on your end. You got trust and control problems.

Anyway it’s never a good idea to have sexual photos of yourself and/or other people on your phone. It can get hacked and leaked. But we all do stupid things especially when we are young.

Going forward you can either A) forget about this B) hound her about it which might ultimately push her in a direction you fear the most.

[NamerOfStars]

Are you stupid? Probably not; just feeling insecure. Explain to her that it makes you feel unappreciated that she still has them, but that you accept it was a mistake. If you're REALLY upset about it, ask her to make another pass to be sure she got everything. Then try to put it out of your mind.

[mandyfire98]

Is it troubling you because she had the photo on there or because when you saw the photo, the thought of her with an ex effected you?

[Asker]

That she had it when I thought all was deleted

[mandyfire98]

Well if she told you she deleted all the pics and she didn't then that was lying and you have a right to be mad about her lying. It is possible she just didn't really think it was on there especially if she has a bunch of pics on her phone. Hard to say really.

[Asker]

Yea that’s def possible and the most likely.

I didn’t want to see it but I did get turned on seeing it so I don't know. Hopefully that was only one

[mandyfire98]

You got turned on by seeing her giving head to another man? That might've opened up a fetish for you.

[Asker]

I was mad at first and then yes I did get turned on. I feel that’s weird?

[mandyfire98]

Some guys are into it.

[Asker]

Really? Are you familiar with it in any way?

[mandyfire98]

Yeah I dated a guy in college who was into it.

[Asker]

Is it possible to talk like direct message on the site? I’m brand new. I would like to know more about this and what it is like or means

[mandyfire98]

Yeah but you're anonymous so I don't know who you are

[Asker]

Can I change that somehow? My username is frank1010

[mandyfire98]

Try following me.

[Asker]

I just did. It says I can’t send you a message?

[Anonymous]

She shouldn't have those photos on her phone, but at the same time you shouldn't be so insecure.

[Asker]

so do you think i should be mad?

[BJP21]

Key word "Back then" before you dated. I won't be its irrelevant to me as long as the other only person she now blows now is you. I would also respect her privacy. Anything you find on a phone can be easily put out of context.

[BrookeAZ90]

The way bigger problem is you looking through her phone, I am guessing without asking.

[RyanDeal009876]

Just get her back by fucking her until she nearly passes out from exhaustion.

[TroyDT]

Dump her. Not because of the pic, but because if you are compelled to go through her phone then already distrust her, and without trust the relationship is doomed.

[Avicenna]

I'd leave the matter alone unless some others pop up

[genericname85]

do you not keep such fotos of your exes around?

[Dinosaursandanime65]

I would do my best to mimic Hank Hills BWAA HAHA HAAA and throw it away

[Anonymous]

Well well Well what do we have here? Another cuckold in the making. 😒

[Kelly6]

It’s not a problem